ThaWholigan Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 you gotta have some standards girl. Even somedude has rejected more girls than you lol :lmao: You're so bad! 1
spiderowl Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Not much, except maybe as a friend. If he wasn't my 'type' or rather, if I didn't feel any great attraction, I wouldn't want to accept a date in case he got the wrong idea. If he just wanted to meet up as a friend, then maybe. I'd have to have some feeling of attraction to him or find him interesting and fun. There just seems no point getting entangled with someone if you don't see it going anywhere; it wouldn't be fair on him or me. 1
MrCastle Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Basically, as long as everything is put together correctly and in the right place (no 3rd arms sprouting from your sides...) What if he has a third arm sprouting from his pants? 2
suladas Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 you gotta have some standards girl. Even somedude has rejected more girls than you lol I do agree to a point. I mean i've even rejected women.
SilentVoice Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Weird how many women say yes here, but in the real world the chances are much lower. Because most women just like to sugar coat things are just have really low self esteem and/or no options. It isn't about being picky - however settling is bad for both people.
TheZebra Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I would only say yes if I saw any potential with the guy, which I would've already gauged from previous interactions. The reason? It's tough for me to feel comfortable with a relative stranger and a date with someone I don't know is stressful for me. The only way it's less stressful is if I already know enough about you and like you enough to give myself a chance to open up to you. That's probably a big reason why all my exes started as friends. 1
2sure Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I've always had admiration for guys in that it just would be so hard to have to go for it like that and risk rejection. I have rejected , nicely of course, and then had second thoughts because his charm under pressure impressed me. 1
Author somedude81 Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Going back to this thread. I'm going to try putting this to the test when school starts next week. I plan on asking out quite a few girls and I'll see how many say yes, If any. One thing I'm concerned about. Should I always have something (exciting) in mind to do when I'm asking somebody out? Or does that not really matter?
TheZebra Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Going back to this thread. I'm going to try putting this to the test when school starts next week. I plan on asking out quite a few girls and I'll see how many say yes, If any. One thing I'm concerned about. Should I always have something (exciting) in mind to do when I'm asking somebody out? Or does that not really matter? I always like it when a guy has some personality to his ideas. Dinner and a movie is so blah, there must be other cool things to do in your city on a weekend.
aussietigerwolf Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 If I have any interest whatsoever in the guy then I would accept 1
RachR Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 If there's some attraction and I have interest, I would accept. If I already feel like I won't be into him, I wouldn't want to waste his time, so if that's the case, no. 1
Author somedude81 Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Hmm, so a couple of ladies said, they would say yes, if they were interested. Though in my scenario, there isn't any established interest. He's just a guy you kinda know that doesn't give off any red flags.
SilentVoice Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Hmm, so a couple of ladies said, they would say yes, if they were interested. Though in my scenario, there isn't any established interest. He's just a guy you kinda know that doesn't give off any red flags. Is your avatar of what you want your child to look like? 1
Author somedude81 Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Is your avatar of what you want your child to look like? My child? I'm sure she's legal in whatever her home country is
SilentVoice Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 My child? I'm sure she's legal in whatever her home country is I'm sure she is
jcrew11 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Interesting. So the guy is neutral and what he actually wants to take you to is the deciding factor. What if he doesn't have date plans made yet and just wants your number or wants to do something very casual first? Is that your way of just saying you want a casual sex hookup, instead of an actual date? Indecisiveness and complacency makes a man look weak. You don't want to come on too strong, but you also don't want to appear "too nice" You can get the number if the "man has a humorous personality" and can maintain a good phone relationship with jokes and humor. But if you want to "go on a romantic date" then you are going to have to think about an interesting date idea. Even if you want to keep it casual, it can be as casual as renting a movie or taking a walk in the park.
Author somedude81 Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Is that your way of just saying you want a casual sex hookup, instead of an actual date? Indecisiveness and complacency makes a man look weak. You don't want to come on too strong, but you also don't want to appear "too nice" You can get the number if the "man has a humorous personality" and can maintain a good phone relationship with jokes and humor. But if you want to "go on a romantic date" then you are going to have to think about an interesting date idea. Even if you want to keep it casual, it can be as casual as renting a movie or taking a walk in the park. Absolutely not. It means that I would prefer to be able to get her number and or go on a very casual date like coffee or ice cream before I have to plan some event to go to or see what things are happening around town.
ScreamingTrees Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 On the topic of "types" While my type is tall, only one guy I dated was taller than me. All the rest were shorter than me. I'm 5'7. So even though I prefer height, it's not a dealbreaker for me. Basically, as long as everything is put together correctly and in the right place (no 3rd arms sprouting from your sides...) and the guy appears to take care of himself and have good hygiene, he's golden in my book! I know this is not normal... I have SEVERAL female friends who 50000% refuse to even acknowledge the men who aren't there ideal... "blonde hair, blue eyed, tall, perfect teeth, skinny yet muscular, etc..." - I've watched them turn down perfectly lovely guys. So a generally considered to be less-than-ideal guy could be "good enough" for you, correct? You give them a chance even though you'd be more attracted to and probably have a more fulfilling relationship with your ideal "type", yes?
2sure Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Absolutely not. It means that I would prefer to be able to get her number and or go on a very casual date like coffee or ice cream before I have to plan some event to go to or see what things are happening around town. Well sure, who wouldn't? And that works if you know someone a little from somewhere and she is attracted to you...not just neutral. You still need something somewhat specific, just to get you over that edge from no red flags to interesting. Something casual, almost not date like but more specific than coffee. If its a college setting there has to be something minor going on all the time?
Els Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 The girl in SD's avatar is 25. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Elly-Tran-Ha/133603344139 . Seriously, guys, stop guessing that Asian girls are 10 years younger than they actually are. On-topic: I think you should have a plan before asking someone out, yes. It would be pretty awkward if she said, "Sure, where do you have in mind?" and you say, "I have no idea". 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Situation: You are single, not actively looking for a relationship but not against being in one either. A guy you’ve talked to a few times asks you out. He’s not your ideal type. He’s a normal guy, with a normal personality. Not a super smooth charmer but he makes you laugh every now and then. Nothing about him creeps you out or gives you bad vibes. How likely are you to give him your number/ accept at date? Basically, you're asking what are the chances that an average woman would give a date to an average dude who is not good looking, has no social status, or money, or anything really going on. He's not great, but keep in mind neither is she. I'd say the chances are about 10%. So, if you ask out 10 such women, maybe one will say yes. Of those that say yes, not all will be giving you a chance though. Maybe another 1 in 5 will truly give you a chance if you bring all your game. So, maybe 1 out of 50.
Author somedude81 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Well sure, who wouldn't? And that works if you know someone a little from somewhere and she is attracted to you...not just neutral. I really don't want to get into it too much here, but I'm not the kind of guy that girls are attracted to. That's why I emphasized, normal guy, not your type, not a charmer etc. Basically I'm asking how likely is a girl going to accept a date from a guy she's not that attracted to. You still need something somewhat specific, just to get you over that edge from no red flags to interesting. Something casual, almost not date like but more specific than coffee. If its a college setting there has to be something minor going on all the time?I really have no experience at all with dating or a clue what I'm doing. The girl in SD's avatar is 25. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Elly-Tran-Ha/133603344139 . Seriously, guys, stop guessing that Asian girls are 10 years younger than they actually are. Elswyth super stalker sleuth On-topic: I think you should have a plan before asking someone out, yes. It would be pretty awkward if she said, "Sure, where do you have in mind?" and you say, "I have no idea". Here's the thing. Lets say I found out that there is a an indie punk rock band playing at a bar on Friday. So I ask you. "Hey Elswyth, there's an indie punk rock band playing at a bar on Friday, want to go with me?" What I don't know is that you like me but you don't like indie punk rock bands, so you tell me no. What I need to do is somehow express my interest and then somehow figure out if the girl is interested and then plan what to do. The best way to get over this problem is to talk to somebody a few times and figure out what they like, but then I'm afraid if I take too long I'll get friendzoned I wish I could have a conversation like, "I think you're cool." "I think you're cool too." "OK lets go do something then make out."
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Another day, another thread by SD that reminds me of myself. Seriously, some of the questions here are things I think about. This is a good thread.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 (edited) What I need to do is somehow express my interest and then somehow figure out if the girl is interested and then plan what to do. The best way to get over this problem is to talk to somebody a few times and figure out what they like, but then I'm afraid if I take too long I'll get friendzoned I wish I could have a conversation like, "I think you're cool." "I think you're cool too." "OK lets go do something then make out." I'll help you out. I just pulled a number this weekend. I'm going to call her later this week. I'd say my chances of putting something together are about 10%. I also had long, legit conversations with two other women who I pursued. Both rejected me. It was a unique situation where I got to have long conversations with them (a few hours each). I won't get into details. Basically, for every woman roughly in your physical league or below you have some chemistry with, you have to expect to be flat out rejected by most of them. Then, the ones that give you a chance, you need to expect to be rejected by some of them as well. The phone number is the chance. About 1 in 10 to get the phone number, then about 1 in 10 once you get the phone number. Roughly. Depends on some factors. Edited January 22, 2013 by JuneJulySeptember
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