somedude81 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Situation: You are single, not actively looking for a relationship but not against being in one either. A guy you’ve talked to a few times asks you out. He’s not your ideal type. He’s a normal guy, with a normal personality. Not a super smooth charmer but he makes you laugh every now and then. Nothing about him creeps you out or gives you bad vibes. How likely are you to give him your number/ accept at date?
2sure Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Under those conditions I will accept if the date is for something specific that appeals to me. I need something to further motivate my interest. 3
Author somedude81 Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Under those conditions I will accept if the date is for something specific that appeals to me. I need something to further motivate my interest. Interesting. So the guy is neutral and what he actually wants to take you to is the deciding factor. What if he doesn't have date plans made yet and just wants your number or wants to do something very casual first?
Lonely Ronin Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 What if he doesn't have date plans made yet and just wants your number or wants to do something very casual first? If the woman is lukewarm about him, the guy in question is probably going to fail 100% of the time. 2
Phoe Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Situation: You are single, not actively looking for a relationship but not against being in one either. A guy you’ve talked to a few times asks you out. He’s not your ideal type. He’s a normal guy, with a normal personality. Not a super smooth charmer but he makes you laugh every now and then. Nothing about him creeps you out or gives you bad vibes. How likely are you to give him your number/ accept at date? Under those conditions, absolutely 100% would accept. None of the guys who ever did ask me for a date were my ideal type, had I declined I never would've ended up in 2 relationships from those. Unless a guy seriously was giving me the creeps/BAD vibes, I would happily accept the opportunity for us to get to know each other better... THEN once the "getting to know each other better" has happened, if there's absolutely no spark or interest or compatibility, then we can at least say we tried and part ways amicably. 1
sweetkiwi Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I would accept a date. Sometimes you find out things you like A LOT after getting closer. Plus I don't have an ideal type. My physical attraction changes every year or so. Right now its tall thin guys with beards. Beards are a big turn on 2
Author somedude81 Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Under those conditions, absolutely 100% would accept. None of the guys who ever did ask me for a date were my ideal type, had I declined I never would've ended up in 2 relationships from those. Unless a guy seriously was giving me the creeps/BAD vibes, I would happily accept the opportunity for us to get to know each other better... THEN once the "getting to know each other better" has happened, if there's absolutely no spark or interest or compatibility, then we can at least say we tried and part ways amicably. I was thinking of your previous post in that other thread when I made this one. And I was wondering if other girls would think the same way. I would accept a date. Sometimes you find out things you like A LOT after getting closer. Plus I don't have an ideal type. My physical attraction changes every year or so. Right now its tall thin guys with beards. Beards are a big turn on What if the guy was short, stocky (not fat) and clean shaven? Though I do like your mindset about finding out stuff after getting closer.
todreaminblue Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Situation: You are single, not actively looking for a relationship but not against being in one either. A guy you’ve talked to a few times asks you out. He’s not your ideal type. He’s a normal guy, with a normal personality. Not a super smooth charmer but he makes you laugh every now and then. Nothing about him creeps you out or gives you bad vibes. How likely are you to give him your number/ accept at date? I would give the guy a date....unlikey to want to date someone trying to charm me who didn't know me all that well.....he wouldnt know how to anyway.....i prefer honest interactions, not smooth talk...deb 1
SilentVoice Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 If I don't have an interest in a guy - I will not accept a date. No one is normal - you will be extraordinary to someone. 1
sweetkiwi Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Stocky is good!! Honestly clean shaven guys hurt my face if I kiss them. And we all know I can't have just one kiss. I gotta make out all night and wake up with a red face. Physically speaking I just like men who are strong. And have kind eyes. Preferably dark hair though I have been attracted to blondes. And like Phoe I would much rather go on a date with a nice "average" guy that makes me laugh than a smooth talking player. Its very rare that if a guy askes me out on a real date that I turn him down. After going on a first date you realize a lot about people. I am very talkative so there's usually plenty of conversation and getting to know eachother. 1
Phoe Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 On the topic of "types" While my type is tall, only one guy I dated was taller than me. All the rest were shorter than me. I'm 5'7. So even though I prefer height, it's not a dealbreaker for me. Basically, as long as everything is put together correctly and in the right place (no 3rd arms sprouting from your sides...) and the guy appears to take care of himself and have good hygiene, he's golden in my book! I know this is not normal... I have SEVERAL female friends who 50000% refuse to even acknowledge the men who aren't there ideal... "blonde hair, blue eyed, tall, perfect teeth, skinny yet muscular, etc..." - I've watched them turn down perfectly lovely guys. 1
DollWelch Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Situation: You are single, not actively looking for a relationship but not against being in one either. A guy you’ve talked to a few times asks you out. He’s not your ideal type. He’s a normal guy, with a normal personality. Not a super smooth charmer but he makes you laugh every now and then. Nothing about him creeps you out or gives you bad vibes. How likely are you to give him your number/ accept at date? Yes. Why not? You can't always be chasing the next best thing (or man). 1
2sure Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Interesting. So the guy is neutral and what he actually wants to take you to is the deciding factor. What if he doesn't have date plans made yet and just wants your number or wants to do something very casual first? For me, neutral isn't really a bad thing . If a guy has made it to neutral I'm not opposed to finding out more. I'm not opposed but not that interested . If he has something Specific to invite me to that I might enjoy, that will make me interested in finding out more. Also, if he has nothing specific...it's just too much of a shot in the dark for someone I felt neutral about.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I would absolutely go out with him lol 1
Phoe Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 To me it just seems SO SO SO foolish to turn down a perfectly decent guy without even getting a chance to know him. If I was hung-up on things like height, or hair color, or eye color, I could end up passing up the most amazing man I could've known. That is not something I would ever want to do! 1
2sure Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I would agree IF I was shopping for a relationship. I'd be more open.
monicaelise Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Situation: You are single, not actively looking for a relationship but not against being in one either. A guy you’ve talked to a few times asks you out. He’s not your ideal type. He’s a normal guy, with a normal personality. Not a super smooth charmer but he makes you laugh every now and then. Nothing about him creeps you out or gives you bad vibes. How likely are you to give him your number/ accept at date? It would really depend on my mood at the time he asked. 1
mesmerized Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Depends if I find him sexually attractive or not. Normal guy with normal personality is not enough for me to be able to say that. 1
Author somedude81 Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 So some girls say yes right away and other girls look into the variables, what he wants to do, what her mood is. Interesting. 3
sweetkiwi Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Well I just got chewed out for being too nice to "losers". Not saying this hypothetical guy is a loser. Just that I give people a chance to show who they are before cutting them off. Guess its just a certain personality trait.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I would go. I think first dates are fun. 1
suladas Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Weird how many women say yes here, but in the real world the chances are much lower.
Phoe Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Weird how many women say yes here, but in the real world the chances are much lower. Lol, I am not even kidding, I've only ever rejected one guy, and that's only because I was already in a relationship. Had I been single I would've been happy to date him, he was a very nice guy!
mesmerized Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Lol, I am not even kidding, I've only ever rejected one guy, and that's only because I was already in a relationship. Had I been single I would've been happy to date him, he was a very nice guy! you gotta have some standards girl. Even somedude has rejected more girls than you lol 3
Author somedude81 Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Weird how many women say yes here, but in the real world the chances are much lower. Yeah, I do think a few of these girls saying yes, would actually be saying no's if it really happened. But it's fun to pretend
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