Gingerxr2 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 After my ex dumped me I feel that Im invisible to the opposite sex ? Is this normal ?
ScienceGal Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 For me, I temporarily want to be invisible to the opposite sex. I don't want any new guy trying to flirt with me or even talk to me for that matter. Right now, I just want to be left alone. So, I'd say it's normal to feel whatever you're feeling. Why do you feel that way though? What's going through your mind?
stevie_23 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I felt invisible to everyone. I felt like a ghost floating around the outskirts of my own life. I'd never been with a man before my ex-MM dumped me (had always been with women, and thought I was gay), so he was my first and now it's over...and I feel like I have been rejected and thrown away as worthless by not just him but ALL men. And all people in fact. I know that's 100% illogical.
fancy feast Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 If you feel like **** and aren't exuding confidence, people will pick up on that. Work on building yourself up, and others will start noticing.
Author Gingerxr2 Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 If you feel like **** and aren't exuding confidence, people will pick up on that. Work on building yourself up, and others will start noticing. Yeah totally agree but that's easier said than done , everything is an act at them moment , she took all my confidence through our relationship so bad that I had to receive help , and took time to heal , Im not the best looking bloke but not ugly , but I'm no good at approaching women anymore , I don't know ?? I'm feeling pretty useless to be honest , like I'm Unattractive
Mcnulty Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Mate, it's way too soon for you to think about trying to approach women, don't you think? You've gotta put all the nuts and bolts together before the love warrior is assembled and ready for battle!! Nuts and bolts, focus on this only for now....patience...hate that word, but patience and time...hate that word also!!
cavalier99 Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 (edited) I say its never to early to approach women even if your not looking for a relationship. Get you confidence up and approach, make a comment about the coffee place..really anything. You don't really need to be flirting. Just don't be creepy. And to not be creepy you need to exude confidence. It is like a mind set, an athlete getting ready for the game. Take the attitude you are just being friendly..take the pressure off yourself. But do it! Flip the switch, change into Mr. Super Confident approach machine. Eventually this confidence will become real and you will feel better knowing you can talk to people. Talk to guys too...this is all about getting you out of you shell. Not about hitting on women per say. And lets say you talk to a women and get blown off....well..her loss not yours..you were just being friendly. This means nothing and doesn't affect you at all. Understand. Also make sure you go out get some new semi stylish clothes, get a really good haircut, go to the gym, shave and shower every morning, if you have acne go to the dermatologist, go to the dentist, buy some whitening strips, etcetera etcetera. Even a semi ugly guy can clean up relatively easy and women don't place as high a value on your looks if you seem put together and confident....tougher for women who aren't good looking than for guys IMO. DON'T go out in your sweats unsaved and unkempt with a baseball hat on. It is hard to feel confident this way....but is possible lol Edited January 19, 2013 by cavalier99
Esoteric Elf Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 At first I thought I was too small, so people were missing me by virtue of lack of size. Therefore I bulked up, as you can tell, hoping I would be easier for people to see, and still people miss seeing me. Therefore, I probably am invisible.
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