CineyJasp Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Is it going to work out or not? Actually what is going on? So I've known him since i was young but moved to England when i was 6, due to parents divorcing i visit Germany in the Summer and most Christmas's, last Summer is when we sort of re-met. We have been talking through IM ever since and while i was still in Germany it was every night he popped up to me. We met up a few times too but it was with his friends, but he walked me home and picked me when we met up although it was just a walk. He always insists on buying. Once i got back to England we still messaged each other every night for about 2 weeks until it got to every other day and progressively less, which was hard to begin with when we spoke til 5 am on some occasions about anything and everything. I even got messages when I wasn't online to say he missed me. He also compliments me and says I'm perfect in my own way, as well as teasing each other. When we met up he always showed great respect for me and never smoked in my way as i don't. However due to us talking less I didn't know what was happening anymore or if he even wanted to see me anymore when I was going over for Christmas. When I finally went back on Christmas day i let him know i was there, to which he reacted shocked but he also said he knew i was coming and got me a little something and suggested we went for an evening stroll; which i couldn't make However we managed to meet up later on in the week in the evening, where we exchanged gifts...he gave me one of his old favourite t-shirts which smelt of him (mentioned in a conversation) with chocolates...i made him some special biscuits mix and placed a heart shaped one in the bottom....however I don't know what his gift means?!? We then went to a small trailer party a friend was having, where they all smoke, which he felt bad about. We didn't manage to talk much but had a lot of eye contact and he occasionally tapped me to get my attention and always smiling and laughing, he also complimented me when his friend said something although they were put off as to how quiet/ shy i was being :/ When he walked me home at midnight his friend also came with us, he had his arms around us and when we got to the drop off spot we embraced and he held me tightly, i then kissed him on the cheek as to say thank you which then ended in us kissing for many minutes I'm guessing and occasionally just smiling and looking into each other eyes for a while, he also said something during our breaks but i was so caught up in the moment i have no clue what he said. But...he hadn't been starting conversations for about 2 months now so i didn't hear from him after. So on the day of it going into new years i asked what he was doing...it then turned out me and my friend went to the same place without me knowing, he was shocked to see me but noticed me straight away. When we spoke later he apologized having kissed me...what does this mean?!? We just hugged and said we missed each other. A friend of his came over and asked if i was his girlfriend which i know i'm not and he said he has a love interest in me. Due to my confusion with the apology i asked him if he regretted kissing me and he said it was just complicated due to me going back to England. I suggested we see each other again before i left to which he said he would let me know when he wanted to do something...it got to my day of departure i had heard nothing for a week, i stated we weren't going to be able to see each other then. He then asked when i was leaving but also said he'd been to town with his friends early that morning for breakfast although I'm not sure if he was in all day but later got a message saying he should of come to see me to say goodbye but he was so tired. Was this an excuse? We spoke that weekend by me starting the conversation due to him always being on chat with his mobile so not being able to see who's online, but would this stop someone from contacting me? We haven't spoken since...I also told him i was moving back to Germany in the summer of 2014, but I'm not sure of his reaction. Am I being stupid for thinking he like(d/s) me? Does he and what does it all mean. I don't know if it could work but we have made plans for the Summer to meet up again. I just need help in what this might mean... I trust him completely, and it almost seems like we have a silent devotion to one another. Anyone want to help me figure this out or what i should do? Sorry about the life story, just not sure how i could explain it... Thanks though
MrCastle Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Doesn't sound like he's all that into you. I would forget about him and move on to someone close to you. Long distance relationships are not real relationships, in my opinion.
Pyro Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Long Distance is a tough thing to have. It takes time and patience from both people. I think that he definitely likes you but the distance is keeping him from giving you his heart completely. If he isn't in it all the way then you should move on. I know that it sucks but it is the best thing for you both.
Author CineyJasp Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 I've been told the t-shirt could be his way of him being close to me, something of his to make me think of him. I think he was also scared of there being no 'deadline' to the long distance as i only told him once i left i was moving back next year, and he seemed mostly positive.
Pyro Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I've been told the t-shirt could be his way of him being close to me, something of his to make me think of him. I think he was also scared of there being no 'deadline' to the long distance as i only told him once i left i was moving back next year, and he seemed mostly positive. No deadline is also a huge factor in how successful a LDR will be. How old are the two of you if you don't mind me asking?
Author CineyJasp Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 Well you may think too young for even being so concerned about this LDR as we are both 19, but have shared similar life experiences which in a way makes us think maturely i guess.
Pyro Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Well you may think too young for even being so concerned about this LDR as we are both 19, but have shared similar life experiences which in a way makes us think maturely i guess. At that age you should be experiencing life and not be in such a serious commitment, but that is just my opinion. Like I said before I think that the distance and not seeing you on a regular basis is too much for him and that is causing him to not fully commit to you.
FitChick Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 If you are moving back to Germany next year, I'd say just stay in occasional contact to keep lines of communication open. Say, once a month. You should be getting dating experience with guys closer to home so when you do meet him again you will have a more balanced view of him as a potential boyfriend or not.
Author CineyJasp Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 That's what I was thinking of doing with communication, but dating guys closer to home... I'm not so confident with, especially since I won't feel comfortable about it when I seem to really like this guy.
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