My Ex says she still loves me but she says she is good with the single life ..

January 17, 2013

My Ex Girlfriend and i have broken up for like a month, she broke up with me at first... i used no contact for 1 month and last week she texted me and we decided to go take a coffee together... i asked her what her feelings toward me and she said that in the deep she still loves me, but she is good with her life now .. so my question is , should i start inviting her to go out, or leave her alone and still use no contact ? Or should i still talk to her but not much ? pleease i really want you guys advices .. thank you

*i told her i still love her, i dn t know if it was right to tell her that, but is that i couldn t help it... but we had a good time though

January 17, 2013

I know this will be hard to hear, but she is probably trying to see if she can find something better out there. Currently she hasn't, which is why she's ok with coffee with you. Probably to make sure you're still an option if she chooses that route.

January 17, 2013

I know this will be hard to hear, but she is probably trying to see if she can find something better out there. Currently she hasn't, which is why she's ok with coffee with you. Probably to make sure you're still an option if she chooses that route.

I think of that too, but when we were talking, i look through her eyes, i can see that she missed me .. she is looking at me and smiling... and she was very happy.. i am confuse because i dn t know if i should go for it, like invite her to places and stuff , give her a try, or keep acting like '' no contact '' and stuff ?

January 17, 2013

Yuck. I don't buy the "I still love you" after they break up with you. She still loves you but is happy without you?

Sounds like you're going to be great friends. Just friends. How's that sound?

January 17, 2013

I think of that too, but when we were talking, i look through her eyes, i can see that she missed me .. she is looking at me and smiling... and she was very happy.. i am confuse because i dn t know if i should go for it, like invite her to places and stuff , give her a try, or keep acting like '' no contact '' and stuff ?

You don't want to be 'second" while she shops around. Best thing for you is tell her what you want...how you feel and and see what she says.

If she still wants to enjoy the single life which means let me see what else is out there then you need to let her go...go no contact and move on.

Do you really want to wait for her while she's doing her thing...letting her know that your a backup? Your being played and will look weak and Pathetic in her eyes.

She wants a man not a wuss who will wait patiently for her while she's having her fun....dating/having sex with others.

January 17, 2013

Personally, and you and everyone else on the planet should feel this way too, I would only be with some one who is dying to be with me and only me. I don't want them around even of there is a hint of second guessing. How are you supposed to get unconditional love from this woman if she wants to be single.

January 17, 2013

Why did you break up?

Going by only what's in your post...

After one month, you saw her and you knew that you still wanted to be with her. She saw you but didn't share the same feeling. She "deeply" loves you sounds like it's buried so far down that she may never find it again. Also, it's not like she was so silent you don't know what she was thinking, she told you she is happy with her life. So sorry, but she isn't coming back, not right now at least.

Do not be friend-zoned. You told her how you feel about her, tell her again if you like, then back off and go back to NC. So sorry

January 17, 2013

Why did you break up?

Going by only what's in your post...

After one month, you saw her and you knew that you still wanted to be with her. She saw you but didn't share the same feeling. She "deeply" loves you sounds like it's buried so far down that she may never find it again. Also, it's not like she was so silent you don't know what she was thinking, she told you she is happy with her life. So sorry, but she isn't coming back, not right now at least.

Do not be friend-zoned. You told her how you feel about her, tell her again if you like, then back off and go back to NC. So sorry

We broke up because of nothing reeally serious, but she was pissed off because i was way too jealous...

I asked her how she felt about me and saying that of course she still feels that she loves me and said that it is better to stay the way we are now.. the thing is , i told her that i love her too ( which i should nt ve done )... as we go to the same school, i am goin to see her everyday and of course now i should talk to her, like saying good morning and stuff..

now do you think i should ask her if we still have a chance to get back ?

January 17, 2013

We broke up because of nothing reeally serious, but she was pissed off because i was way too jealous...
I asked her how she felt about me and saying that of course she still feels that she loves me and said that it is better to stay the way we are now.. the thing is , i told her that i love her too ( which i should nt ve done )... as we go to the same school, i am goin to see her everyday and of course now i should talk to her, like saying good morning and stuff..
now do you think i should ask her if we still have a chance to get back ?

NO!! Don't ask her if there is a chance of getting back together. She may tell you....well maybe... only not to feel guilty herself and/or to keep you around as a backup!

She may love you but she isn't IN LOVE with you....big difference!!!

Leave her alone...let her do her thing...cut all ties with her. You don't need to be mean to her just ignore and stay away from her.

The more you ask her questions....beg...plead with her to get back together the further you will push her away and look like a FOOL!!

January 17, 2013

No-contact and date other women.

January 17, 2013

NO!! Don't ask her if there is a chance of getting back together. She may tell you....well maybe... only not to feel guilty herself and/or to keep you around as a backup!

She may love you but she isn't IN LOVE with you....big difference!!!

Leave her alone...let her do her thing...cut all ties with her. You don't need to be mean to her just ignore and stay away from her.

The more you ask her questions....beg...plead with her to get back together the further you will push her away and look like a FOOL!!

But i told her i still love her, do u think even if i ignore her, will she wants to come back for real... because now i dn t think i can use no contact because we talk.. what i do is make it limited , we can talk just once a week and that s it .. because we see at school and i dn t wan to be mean to her by not talking to her...

January 17, 2013

No contact is not about getting back the girl. It is about you moving past her.

Once you have moved past her, by dating other women, and working on yourself, it's possible you may get her back. Or you may decide there are better women out there for you.

January 17, 2013

But i told her i still love her, do u think even if i ignore her, will she wants to come back for real... because now i dn t think i can use no contact because we talk.. what i do is make it limited , we can talk just once a week and that s it .. because we see at school and i dn t wan to be mean to her by not talking to her...

You can tell her you love her a MILLION BILLION times but that's NOT going to make her love you!!

Look...she doesn't want to be with you. Your hoping to "hang on" and that she will change her mind if you stay in contact...WRONG!!!!

She made it clear to you that she want's the single life...she want's to date other people and it will annoy her to hear from you.

Take it from me and others here who are trying to HELP you...leave her alone! Go STRICT No Contact...avoid her. It's not being mean by not talking to her.

She probably doesn't want to talk to you because she's knows what you'll ask/say.

January 17, 2013

You can tell her you love her a MILLION BILLION times but that's NOT going to make her love you!!

Look...she doesn't want to be with you. Your hoping to "hang on" and that she will change her mind if you stay in contact...WRONG!!!!

She made it clear to you that she want's the single life...she want's to date other people and it will annoy her to hear from you.

Take it from me and others here who are trying to HELP you...leave her alone! Go STRICT No Contact...avoid her. It's not being mean by not talking to her.

She probably doesn't want to talk to you because she's knows what you'll ask/say.

Actually she is the one who is always starting the conversations... and in class she is always looking at me.. when im walking past her she is looking at me with the side of her eyes... that s why guys i don t want to assume that she is trying to play me or she is moved on.. actually i have used no contact since we broke up, she was the who started texteing me and ask us to meet...

January 17, 2013

Actually she is the one who is always starting the conversations... and in class she is always looking at me.. when im walking past her she is looking at me with the side of her eyes... that s why guys i don t want to assume that she is trying to play me or she is moved on.. actually i have used no contact since we broke up, she was the who started texteing me and ask us to meet...

Then tell her it's either me or your single life you can't have both!

January 17, 2013

Then tell her it's either me or your single life you can't have both!

but don t you think it s normal that your ex don t want to get back with you just when you both started to talk again after the break up ?? isn t that normal, even if she would want to get back

January 17, 2013

Yep. She can either play the field or she can play with you.

You don't share, bro.

January 17, 2013

Then tell her it's either me or your single life you can't have both!

but don t you think it s normal that your ex don t want to get back with you just when you both started to talk again after the break up ?? isn t that normal, even if she would want to get back

January 17, 2013

Yep. She can either play the field or she can play with you.

You don't share, bro.

Then what would the best advice u can give me bro... Talk to her, or Ignore her still.. because i dnt want to act in a way that i think will be good wich is not and in a way that i think will not be good and which is good

January 18, 2013

Then what would the best advice u can give me bro... Talk to her, or Ignore her still.. because i dnt want to act in a way that i think will be good wich is not and in a way that i think will not be good and which is good

Lets make it clear to you.....She said she wants the single life so give it to her...leave her alone..No Contact..None!

She knows how you feel and what you want...you don't need to remind her over and over and over!

Move on and do your thing and if she wants you I guarantee she'll contact you.

January 18, 2013

Lets make it clear to you.....She said she wants the single life so give it to her...leave her alone..No Contact..None!

She knows how you feel and what you want...you don't need to remind her over and over and over!

Move on and do your thing and if she wants you I guarantee she'll contact you.

Thanks Bro !! i ll do that .. i won t contact her and stay the way i was since we broke up ( No contact ) ... thank you very much man ... One last question ... If i see her in my way in school, should i say hi ? or shouldn t i ?

January 18, 2013

Thanks Bro !! i ll do that .. i won t contact her and stay the way i was since we broke up ( No contact ) ... thank you very much man ... One last question ... If i see her in my way in school, should i say hi ? or shouldn t i ?

Don't go out of your way to say hi....if you see her looking at you just smile and look away.

Look man again if she wants to talk to you she will find a way!! You don't need to wait around for her hoping she'll approach you.

The more you come across NOT as needy...waiting on/for her the more she'll respect you and like you. No one...guy or girl wants some needy...whiney...Boo Hoo I'm lost without you attitude person.....Such a TURN OFF!!

You'll be more attractive as...doing your own thing....the breakup isn't what you wanted but you respect her wishes and you've moved on.

I'm not kidding you.....the more you bug her....call her...wait on her..act desperate and Boo Hoo she'll be gone forever!!!

January 18, 2013

Don't go out of your way to say hi....if you see her looking at you just smile and look away.

Look man again if she wants to talk to you she will find a way!! You don't need to wait around for her hoping she'll approach you.

The more you come across NOT as needy...waiting on/for her the more she'll respect you and like you. No one...guy or girl wants some needy...whiney...Boo Hoo I'm lost without you attitude person.....Such a TURN OFF!!

You'll be more attractive as...doing your own thing....the breakup isn't what you wanted but you respect her wishes and you've moved on.

I'm not kidding you.....the more you bug her....call her...wait on her..act desperate and Boo Hoo she'll be gone forever!!!

Yow Man you the best man.. thank you for taking time to answer , really aprreciate it man ... I will put your advices into action starting now ... and what you just wrote help me from thinking of wanting to talk to her.... if u could give me your email adress , it will be very helpful because i think ill still need some advice .. thank you very much bro

January 18, 2013

If she wants you back, she'll tell you. mike588's advice is spot on.

January 18, 2013

Yow Man you the best man.. thank you for taking time to answer , really aprreciate it man ... I will put your advices into action starting now ... and what you just wrote help me from thinking of wanting to talk to her.... if u could give me your email adress , it will be very helpful because i think ill still need some advice .. thank you very much bro

Just keep posting as you feel you need to. There are alot of great people on this site that will also give you great advise...my wish is that you FOLLOW IT!!!!

We've all been there...your not alone. The choice is yours and yours only.

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