TouchedByViolet Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Anyone else feel like finding love is mostly dependent on luck? Sure things like looks, personality, money, social status, etc. play a role in attraction but some days I feel like luck is the ultimate variable. Luck is the difference between walking past your dream mate and bumping into them. Luck is about being at the right place (physically and emotionally) at the right time. 4
Lonely Ronin Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Anyone else feel like finding love is mostly dependent on luck? Sure things like looks, personality, money, social status, etc. play a role in attraction but some days I feel like luck is the ultimate variable. Luck is the difference between walking past your dream mate and bumping into them. Luck is about being at the right place (physically and emotionally) at the right time. I feel that way some times.... Sometimes it seems like no mater how perfect you try to be, something goes wrong. 2
jakelongot Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Anyone else feel like finding love is mostly dependent on luck? Sure things like looks, personality, money, social status, etc. play a role in attraction but some days I feel like luck is the ultimate variable. Luck is the difference between walking past your dream mate and bumping into them. Luck is about being at the right place (physically and emotionally) at the right time. I would say it is perseverence than luck. If you are confident in who you are and what you want and don't settle just because you don't think you will do better, you will eventually find that person. Luck in the sense that it could happen sooner rather than later, but I like to look at it more as the experiences you have before you meet that person will help you to better understand what you want and then recognize it in "the one" you eventually meet. If more people just continued to live happy lives and persue fulfilling things and trust that those actions will eventually lead you to the person you are supposed to be with, they would be more happy and enjoy the experience more. 1
Green Light Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Anyone else feel like finding love is mostly dependent on luck? Sure things like looks, personality, money, social status, etc. play a role in attraction but some days I feel like luck is the ultimate variable. Luck is the difference between walking past your dream mate and bumping into them. Luck is about being at the right place (physically and emotionally) at the right time. Very good topic and one that I think more people here need to consider! My whole philosophy of life is that success in anything is 60% luck and 40% work and/or free-will. Luck trumps all! In fact, I think the harder you try the more "unlucky" your will get. Americans have a hard time understanding the concept of luck because we still have that "life is what you make it" mindset. Many people here won't even acknowledge the role that luck plays in our lives. 4
Lonely Ronin Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 If more people just continued to live happy lives and persue fulfilling things and trust that those actions will eventually lead you to the person you are supposed to be with, they would be more happy and enjoy the experience more. I think luck comes into play when you have been with X# of people and thought I could be really happy with him/her but it doesn't work out. The luck part is meeting the right person at the right time, and that can be really demoralizing. 1
Green Light Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 The luck part is meeting the right person at the right time, and that can be really demoralizing. ...or sometimes even meeting anybody... 2
jakelongot Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I think luck comes into play when you have been with X# of people and thought I could be really happy with him/her but it doesn't work out. The luck part is meeting the right person at the right time, and that can be really demoralizing. Unless it just hasn't happend yet. SOme people need to date 100 people before they find the one, others will find it in the first person they meet. How old are you?
KungFuJoe Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 It's a LOT of luck. A LOT. There is no denying that. Love is like a poker game. There is skill and there is luck. The most skilled players usually come out on top, but luck trumps skill everyday of the week. 1
Lonely Ronin Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 ...or sometimes even meeting anybody... I Can tell you I feel that way now as well. I'm picky as all get out, but I'm also super passionate and affectionate, and i miss having someone significant in my life to share that with. Pretty much every time I'm single, I hear that little voice in my head saying you might not get another chance.... 2
Green Light Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 It's a LOT of luck. A LOT. There is no denying that. Love is like a poker game. There is skill and there is luck. The most skilled players usually come out on top, but luck trumps skill everyday of the week. And when you hit middle age it's like playing poker with a deck that's missing a bunch of cards.
KungFuJoe Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 And when you hit middle age it's like playing poker with a deck that's missing a bunch of cards. I think you mean with a 7 2 as your hole cards. 1
Lonely Ronin Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Unless it just hasn't happend yet. Some people need to date 100 people before they find the one, others will find it in the first person they meet. How old are you? I'm 33, I have had two relationships that lasted longer than a presidential term, and I was engaged during one of them. After a year off, I have been dating for the last year and a half without much success. I have dated several women, some for a few months, but it hasn't lead to anything significant yet. Several of them broke up with me, but still want to stay in my life. I think that's the demoralizing part, that some want to be around me, but not with me, and others just aren't in the right spot in their lives. As someone who has been labeled many times as supremely confident, it's a big blow to my self confidence.
todreaminblue Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Anyone else feel like finding love is mostly dependent on luck? Sure things like looks, personality, money, social status, etc. play a role in attraction but some days I feel like luck is the ultimate variable. Luck is the difference between walking past your dream mate and bumping into them. Luck is about being at the right place (physically and emotionally) at the right time. Being in the right place at the right time in the right mindset in the right situation with the right person and the list goes on......luck deals in coincidence and probability,in my opinion. I believe in everything happens for a reason and it happens because of free will> I do believe opportunities and circumstances and people happen in your lives......all for a reason and its your choice what to do ......luck is blind and has no precepts...i think luck is fallacy used to explain away happenings.....and as i always say at the end of my posts......even though i dont really believe in luck...more blessings.....and good luck with them......deb
TheZebra Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 At the same time, luck favors those who are prepared. Going out and meeting more people will give you a better chance at meeting the right person. Of course, it's always possible that you won't find it. Just like it's possible to buy 1,000,000 lottery tickets and not win. But one thing's for sure - if you never try, luck can never help you either. 2
Green Light Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 At the same time, luck favors those who are prepared. Going out and meeting more people will give you a better chance at meeting the right person. Of course, it's always possible that you won't find it. Just like it's possible to buy 1,000,000 lottery tickets and not win. But one thing's for sure - if you never try, luck can never help you either. This is true. Thus my 40% theory. The problem is that getting "out there" comes at a cost. Time, energy, money. For people with good luck they need not invest much in order to come out ahead whereas someone with bad luck can go "all in" and lose it all.
Green Light Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I do believe opportunities and circumstances and people happen in your lives......all for a reason and its your choice what to do ...... But some people have very few opportunities to choose from. It's always easier when one is presented with a myriad of opportunities and all they have to do is sit back and choose which one is the best. But when a person has limited or even no opportunities it takes a toll on one's mental state.
KungFuJoe Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 More poker analogy...but a TRUE professional poker player, to be good at his craft, has to be willing to lose it ALL on a single hand at any given time. In fact, most, if not all, professional poker players have gone completely bankrupt at some point in their lives. 1
todreaminblue Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 More poker analogy...but a TRUE professional poker player, to be good at his craft, has to be willing to lose it ALL on a single hand at any given time. In fact, most, if not all, professional poker players have gone completely bankrupt at some point in their lives. that is why believing in luck sucks....fairies and dragons and poker equals bankrupt.....deb
todreaminblue Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 But some people have very few opportunities to choose from. It's always easier when one is presented with a myriad of opportunities and all they have to do is sit back and choose which one is the best. But when a person has limited or even no opportunities it takes a toll on one's mental state. The more opportunities you have the harder it is to make a choice..more grey hairs..if life were kept simple then I feel it would be a happier one..thinking about what opportunities you don't have, spoils sometimes the simple pleasures and easy ones you do.....and it has nothing to do with luck....deb
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Luck is definitely a huge part. My mum met my dad when a friend canceled plans and she went fishing with her brother to kill the boredom. My dad met my mum when he lost a bet to a friend and had to go fishing with him as a result. Most of my friends have the running joke of me being the "unluckiest person" they have ever met when it comes to love. I am talking about just meeting someone (before even any of my "issues" come into play). When it comes to work/education though, I have always had a very smooth sailing. Being at the right place in the right time. That random I was just chatting to at the party? Turns out he is hiring and needs someone with my exact skill set. That scholarship I wasn't supposed to get? That year the number of appplicants was unusually low and I just made it. That exam I wasn't supposed to do well on? Most problems were the exact ones I practiced the night before and I aced it. It's almost comic, but this has always happened to me
Green Light Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Luck is definitely a huge part. My mum met my dad when a friend canceled plans and she went fishing with her brother to kill the boredom. My dad met my mum when he lost a bet to a friend and had to go fishing with him as a result. Most of my friends have the running joke of me being the "unluckiest person" they have ever met when it comes to love. I am talking about just meeting someone (before even any of my "issues" come into play). When it comes to work/education though, I have always had a very smooth sailing. Being at the right place in the right time. That random I was just chatting to at the party? Turns out he is hiring and needs someone with my exact skill set. That scholarship I wasn't supposed to get? That year the number of appplicants was unusually low and I just made it. That exam I wasn't supposed to do well on? Most problems were the exact ones I practiced the night before and I aced it. It's almost comic, but this has always happened to me I've never had much luck in any area of my life. NOTHING has ever flowed like that. It's always been a struggle. I can't even imagine that! But I REALLY like your Joy Division sig! You can understand why I would like that group!
ThaWholigan Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Hmmmmm. I've never believed in luck personally........
Green Light Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Luck is where preparation meets opportunity But getting that opportunity is all about luck as well. Lack of opportunity is lack of luck. 1
Author TouchedByViolet Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 When it comes to work/education though, I have always had a very smooth sailing. Being at the right place in the right time. Me too! Not so say I have my dream job or make a ton of money, but I am very happy with my work and income. I totally earned my career but there was no guarantee, especially when I graduated during the recession.
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