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So how do you end the relationship with the OM/OW?

 

So far I've tried honesty and tact, then starting a fight....he's not letting go.

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Then you have to ignore him, as hard as it may be. He's not in control of you so if you say it's over, then it's over. He is the married one, not you. Just walk away.

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Then you have to ignore him, as hard as it may be. He's not in control of you so if you say it's over, then it's over. He is the married one, not you. Just walk away.

 

No, she's married too. To the OP, why not have your h give the MM a call. I'm sure he could make it abundantly clear.

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Delete and block all his email accounts and change your phone number. Let your H do the talking if possible.

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Is it really fair to ask him to help me with this?

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So how do you end the relationship with the OM/OW?

 

So far I've tried honesty and tact, then starting a fight....he's not letting go.

 

Maybe the police can convince him otherwise?

After all...its harassment now isn't it?

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Maybe the police can convince him otherwise?

After all...its harassment now isn't it?

Well it might be if it continues a couple of days. Its fresh, just a few hours ago. I figure I will let him digest it (and ignore anything that comes my way) for a couple of days before I do anything drastic.

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Well it might be if it continues a couple of days. Its fresh, just a few hours ago. I figure I will let him digest it (and ignore anything that comes my way) for a couple of days before I do anything drastic.

 

Well, you left that bold part out!

 

Yes...ignore him...his ego is bruised (it sucks getting dumped)...if he persists or intensifies...call the police.

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It depends how long you were together for and whether you were in love or not.

 

As the OW who has been recently left by her MM, this is SUCH a painful thing to go through. If your OM won't let go (it's only been a very brief time too), try to work out WHY?

 

If it was a fairly long term relationship and he loved you, he will be still in love with you and it'll take time for him to let go of that. He may not consider the reasons you've given for ending it are valid and may be trying anything he can to convince you to stay with him. This is understandable. I would write to him one last time, telling him your reasons plainly for not being with him anymore, and then go NC. In time, he will stop and eventually move on.

 

If, however, neither of you were in love and it didn't last for that long, again, go NC, and if he continues trying to stay with you or his actions escalate instead of reducing over the next few days to a week, then look at taking further action.

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he 'won't let go' after a couple of days?

 

i'd run as far as i can. that guy's got issues.

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