MissLY Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Hi guys So I've been seeing someone for 10 weeks and at the beginning he was amazing. He was in contact everyday and we saw each other frequently. Now for some reason, he's only in touch every other day or every 2 days via text. He also doesn't ask me out as often as before. He could be seeing someone else. It almost feels like our relationship could be over but for some reason he still texts me things like "good morning" and "how was your day". He won't go two days without saying something to me via text. I don't get it. If his interest level has gone down, why is he still in contact?
HitMeNow Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Hi guys So I've been seeing someone for 10 weeks and at the beginning he was amazing. He was in contact everyday and we saw each other frequently. Now for some reason, he's only in touch every other day or every 2 days via text. He also doesn't ask me out as often as before. He could be seeing someone else. It almost feels like our relationship could be over but for some reason he still texts me things like "good morning" and "how was your day". He won't go two days without saying something to me via text. I don't get it. If his interest level has gone down, why is he still in contact? Wow. Do you ever initiate contact? If he's starting once in 2 days then maybe he's expecting you to do the other half?
NiceGuyDTW Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Hi guys So I've been seeing someone for 10 weeks and at the beginning he was amazing. He was in contact everyday and we saw each other frequently. Now for some reason, he's only in touch every other day or every 2 days via text. He also doesn't ask me out as often as before. He could be seeing someone else. It almost feels like our relationship could be over but for some reason he still texts me things like "good morning" and "how was your day". He won't go two days without saying something to me via text. I don't get it. If his interest level has gone down, why is he still in contact? Sounds like he's just not into any more. As you said, he could be seeing one else. Time to have a talk if you really want to know.
Author MissLY Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 Wow. Do you ever initiate contact? If he's starting once in 2 days then maybe he's expecting you to do the other half? I do initiate contact but not very much. I noticed his behavior hasn't been the same so I figured, why the hell should I be reaching out to him since his interest seems to be waning? I'd rather test his interest level by not contacting him as often.
HitMeNow Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I do initiate contact but not very much. I noticed his behavior hasn't been the same so I figured, why the hell should I be reaching out to him since his interest seems to be waning? I'd rather test his interest level by not contacting him as often. THIS IS ****KKED. And believe me I do this all the time. What if he was doing the same thing?
Author MissLY Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 THIS IS ****KKED. And believe me I do this all the time. What if he was doing the same thing? Lol. You make a good point, I guess I never thought about it like that.
HitMeNow Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 (edited) Lol. You make a good point, I guess I never thought about it like that. Honestly I am a guy and I expect girls to contact at least as much as I do. If a girl never initiates contact I just assume she's not into me. 1 Advice (which I need to follow). After the initial attraction phase, where you both are getting to know each other, just drop the games altogether. Be as genuine as possible. People are used to different "customs" in the dating dance. So just let them do theirs while you do yours. Don't overreach to them, but believe me, if they like you it won't bother them. If they're just "OK" with you, then it might, but again in that case you are not meant to be anyway. Edited January 17, 2013 by HitMeNow
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