OSCAR_BUSTOS21 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 (edited) I broke up with her on boxing day and three days before, attempted to reconcile 5 days later but she stated a break was needed. It's been three weeks with constant contact and three dates. She misses me, loves me and gets really jealous when I stated I would go and see a former ex (just as friends) whats up? We have been together 3 and a half years, moved in after 8 months together and met in thailand (not thai though). She moved from a little town 45 minutes away and moved even though her job was near where she used to live. After initially meeting her I still had an ex lingering around, mostly sexual favours and I kept both on because lets face it I wasn't committed to either. Anyway I dropped my ex and decided to date this young lady. Eveything went very well, holidays in the sun, travelling for long periods in the summer everything was amazing. We moved in and never looked back, constant talk of marriage and moving back to her home town. Before christmas my father told me he would give me three houses to me and I jumped at the chance. She wasn't to happy as she said they would keep us from moving and I then told her to go and find someone else, but nothing happend and we swept it under the carpet. 3 weeks later get a permanent contract at a college and take the job (near me). I phone her to tell her the good news and she seems happy but cries at the end of the phonecall. Anyway the month leading up to christmas is a nightmare, I get negative and start to consider the future and she seems distant. I buy a ring and then tell her about it,after an arguement and she says keep it but I tell her Ive sent it back. I am controlling, she says I have trust issues (as I her her going drinking), hates the house where we used to live only because she pays my bro 250 per month and pays 250 on petrol, hates the fact that I come from money, doesn't like my dads influence etc. Since the split she has text everyday, saying she misses me, loves me and wants us to work in the future, says that we will sort things eventually. I believe this girl to be honest. I tried going nc but she pestered the life out of me about it. Whats up, will she come back? Edited January 17, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge
TaraMaiden Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I'm sorry, I hope not, because you sound like a pain. You say you have control issues and trust issues. What are you doing about that? To be honest, I wouldn't think about entering into a relationship with anyone until you come to terms with your slightly chauvinistic attitude (you kept your ex around for sex, initially - does your 'current ' GF know that?) You're privileged, and sometimes, that has the tendency to produce spoilt kids - and you sound spoilt, because you like things your own way. you don't sound particularly patient or tolerant... You need to go NC, stay NC and tell her that until you've fixed YOUR issues, you won't be dating anyone. She has a dependency on you that needs to be nipped in the bud. But until you stop responding, neither of you are going to move on anywhere, any time soon.
Author OSCAR_BUSTOS21 Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 I am a spoilt lilttle brat but I'm paying for it big time now, I often say things that I don't mean. how can I get help with control and trust issues
TaraMaiden Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Do you see them as a problem? if so, ask your doctor for referral to a qualified therapist/counsellor.
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