xxoo Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 But youre the same poster who admits to fantasizing about your husbands close friends just to get you turned on for sex with your average looking husband I do sometimes fantasize about others....but they are never in any way "hotter" than my H! Just different I have never, ever been more attracted to any man than I am to my husband. But no, I was not swooning at first sight. It took a few meetings for me to get weak in the knees, but I still remember the moment it first happened 2
xxoo Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Here' a scenario: We were watching tv last night, and there was a scene with 2 average men and an average woman working with an animal. I was watching the animal, and didn't even notice the people. My H noticed the woman, because, even though she was average and dressed plainly, she had HUGE boobs, and he commented on them. We had a laugh, and I questioned HOW did you even notice her, when there was such a dramatic animal in the middle of the scene? Answer: he's a guy. I get it. Me? I'm watching the animal. I'm not even thinking about sex. Does that mean that I've insulted those men, because I didn't notice them? Does it mean they are less attractive? Or does it mean that women are simply less likely to be thinking about sex when we talk to you? Yes, if a Hollister hunk were working with the animal, naked, I'd notice! But you sort of have to hit me over the head to shift my mind that way. That doesn't mean I can't be extremely attracted to an average guy, once he shifts my mind that way. 1
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 And again, from a woman's pov, it can be really disappointing that you guys are attracted to SO many women. Sometimes, we'd like you to be more like us, too, and be attracted to us because we were special in some way other than having this or that physical qualities. But we need to love and accept you guys as you are, or else we'd just be miserable--cause it's not changing! So you wish that guys were much more selective in who they were attracted to? Do I need to explain why that is a path to failure for men? Trust me when I say you gals DO NOT WISH that it were like that, and men were as picky as women. Unless you are in the top 20% of women that is. If guys were like that, there'd be hordes of women here complaining about men being only into the top 20% of women, how they only go for alpha females, and how to avoid the friendzone. Sound familiar? 1
xxoo Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Trust me when I say you gals DO NOT WISH that it were like that, and men were as picky as women. Unless you are in the top 20% of women that is. If guys were like that, there'd be hordes of women here complaining about men being only into the top 20% of women, how they only go for alpha females, and how to avoid the friendzone. Sound familiar? It's a double-edged sword, either way.
KungFuJoe Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I openly admit that my first gf...I was not very attracted to. I thought she was "ok" looking, but really not my type at all. I asked her out because I was 18, never had a gf, and figured, like a lot of guys on here, that I "needed" one. BUT, she had a lot of very good qualities...I didn't just arbitrarily pick a girl and she wasn't the first girl to give me the time of day. She was very fun (we used to hang out, with a mutual friend, all through the night til the sun came up the next morning), was mature compared to the girls I knew (she was 4 years older than me) and just seemed like a very down to earth, nice girl. I was happy with her for two years and I did "grow" to be very attracted to her. We had sex almost 3 times a day for probably a year straight...no joke. But, eventually, things about her that I didn't like came out. She was dishonest, had low moral fiber, and her jealousy was INSANE. And that's what ruined us...not her physical looks.
somedude81 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 A long time ago, back when I was 22 or 23, I was very desperate and "dated" an obese Filipino girl that I had zero attraction for, she was 18 or 19. One day we ended up on her bed and I got her shirt off. I was repulsed but still horny because I was a man. There was a lot of conflict in my head. I could have had sex with her that day, but I really wasn't excited about the thought at all. Looking back at it now, I'm glad we didn't have sex. I don't even want to imagine what she looked like naked. We were "together" for two weeks. To this day, she is the only girl I have ever kissed.
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 A long time ago, back when I was 22 or 23, I was very desperate and "dated" an obese Filipino girl that I had zero attraction for, she was 18 or 19. One day we ended up on her bed and I got her shirt off. I was repulsed but still horny because I was a man. There was a lot of conflict in my head. I could have had sex with her that day, but I really wasn't excited about the thought at all. Looking back at it now, I'm glad we didn't have sex. I don't even want to imagine what she looked like naked. We were "together" for two weeks. To this day, she is the only girl I have ever kissed. Did she know you, or did she hit on you out of the blue as a stranger? Did you know her at all?
somedude81 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Did she know you, or did she hit on you out of the blue as a stranger? Did you know her at all? Oh, I forgot to mention that we were coworkers at a retail store. A week after she got hired, she started flirting with me and made all the moves. On our first date she had her hands in my pants. What a classy girl.
KungFuJoe Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Oh, I forgot to mention that we were coworkers at a retail store. A week after she got hired, she started flirting with me and made all the moves. On our first date she had her hands in my pants. What a classy girl. Oh come on...that's not fair and I think you know it. 2
somedude81 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Oh come on...that's not fair and I think you know it. What's not fair?
KungFuJoe Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 What's not fair? You making fun of her because she was quick to "pull the trigger" with you. Maybe she REALLY REALLY liked you.
somedude81 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 You making fun of her because she was quick to "pull the trigger" with you. Maybe she REALLY REALLY liked you. If she really liked me, she wouldn't have found a new guy to play with after two weeks. She clearly knew that as an obese girl, she had to aggressive with guys to get what she want. She also had a reputation going around. BTW I'm not really making fun of her, more like stating my disgust in myself for being so desperate to stoop down so low. A stark contrast to your experiences with your ex, no?
KungFuJoe Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 If she really liked me, she wouldn't have found a new guy to play with after two weeks. She clearly knew that as an obese girl, she had to aggressive with guys to get what she want. She also had a reputation going around. BTW I'm not really making fun of her, more like stating my disgust in myself for being so desperate to stoop down so low. A stark contrast to your experiences with your ex, no? I never felt "disgust" for being with my ex. EVER. I loved her...obviously very much so because I was a raging fool after we broke up. No, she wasn't what I wanted by MY tastes PHYSICALLY, but as a person (or so I initially thought) she had a lot of qualities I did like. Anyways...just saying you should take it as a compliment that a chick likes you enough to want to get physical with you. and I mean "you" in general...not you specifically. 1
somedude81 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I never felt "disgust" for being with my ex. EVER. I loved her...obviously very much so because I was a raging fool after we broke up. No, she wasn't what I wanted by MY tastes PHYSICALLY, but as a person (or so I initially thought) she had a lot of qualities I did like. You say that, and yet you also say that being with her did nothing for your self-confidence. Anyways...just saying you should take it as a compliment that a chick likes you enough to want to get physical with you. and I mean "you" in general...not you specifically. So you are saying that guys in general should be happy that a girl liked him, just because she was a girl and it doesn't matter that she meets none of his standards and actually turns him off? All that she matters is that she's a living human female?
KungFuJoe Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 You say that, and yet you also say that being with her did nothing for your self-confidence. So you are saying that guys in general should be happy that a girl liked him, just because she was a girl and it doesn't matter that she meets none of his standards and actually turns him off? All that she matters is that she's a living human female? Did nothing for my self confidence. Confidence is knowing you can get what you WANT...not what someone else wants. Sure...why not? External validation, right? It might not make you want to shout it out from a mountain top, but it's still a compliment.
Els Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 If she really liked me, she wouldn't have found a new guy to play with after two weeks. This is exactly what I was referring to in my post to you earlier in this thread. You can't seem to understand why some women might not be too thrilled about a guy asking them out along with 100 other girls, but here you're clearly extrapolating that exact same behaviour from that girl (2 weeks is a long time btw, compared to some guys' down-time) to mean that she wasn't that interested in you, just desperate. Now at least you know it's human nature to feel that way. I do agree with KFJ that you're being unnecessarily contemptuous towards the girl. How would you feel if a girl you asked out were to say that about you, complete with the ?
somedude81 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 This is exactly what I was referring to in my post to you earlier in this thread. You can't seem to understand why some women might not be too thrilled about a guy asking them out along with 100 other girls, but here you're clearly extrapolating that exact same behaviour from that girl (2 weeks is a long time btw, compared to some guys' down-time) to mean that she wasn't that interested in you, just desperate. Now at least you know it's human nature to feel that way. I do agree with KFJ that you're being unnecessarily contemptuous towards the girl. How would you feel if a girl you asked out were to say that about you, complete with the ? Two weeks after we started "dating" she ended it and was with a new guy. There was no down time. Not sure what any of that has to do with guys needing to ask out a lot of girls to get a date.
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