irc333 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Ever have issues dating and schedule conflicts? One woman I've been talking to, every weekend she's occupied mostly with camp outs with the Girl Scouts (she's a leader) and other activities within her community that last through out the span of the weekend. Though she could squeeze in a date after she puts up he camping supplies that same day, she probably be much fun because she'd be dead worn out. I have weekends off currently, and that's usually my "date days", while I have been working nights during the week days, so I can't date during the week days. Anyone have issues with scheduling?
EasyHeart Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Always. There are lots of women I never dated because we couldn't find any time to date.
curlygirl40 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Yes I'm just coming across this with a new guy I'm dating and not sure how it will work out so not sure if I have any actual advice. He works third shift and has a young son that he has custody of. We're about to go on our 4th date and I started to wonder if/when we get to that point of intimacy how that will work. My kids are here most of the time, his son is with him most of the time. So far we have managed 3 quick dates, late lunches mostly (while his son is in school). The way I look at it, where there's a will there's a way. If we grow to really be crazy about each other we will find a way to work it out. But it will be challenging for sure. Good luck to you
grkBoy Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Ever have issues dating and schedule conflicts? One woman I've been talking to, every weekend she's occupied mostly with camp outs with the Girl Scouts (she's a leader) and other activities within her community that last through out the span of the weekend. Though she could squeeze in a date after she puts up he camping supplies that same day, she probably be much fun because she'd be dead worn out. I have weekends off currently, and that's usually my "date days", while I have been working nights during the week days, so I can't date during the week days. Anyone have issues with scheduling? I have, but I usually believe if the girl is "constantly busy" then she's not into me. If she was really into me, then she would make time. She suddenly would not fill her weekends with stuff because she would want to see me. Don't settle in life, even if you're one of those guys who doesn't get women easily. Lord knows if things were reversed, the woman would be rejecting you easily. You have to hold them to the very standards they hold on you. In my opinion, she's not into you enough to believe you're worth giving up her Girl Scouts/camping time for.
Author irc333 Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 Just curious, do you start to date others (even though you're seeing this guy)...like if you start running into people that you'll have better chances of seeing more frequently than the guy you're with now.....would you be considering dating them, too? Because that's what I'm doing, since there's been no real talk of "exclusivity", if I happen to find a woman that has more time for me than the current woman I started seeing casually, I probably would not hesitate. Yes I'm just coming across this with a new guy I'm dating and not sure how it will work out so not sure if I have any actual advice. He works third shift and has a young son that he has custody of. We're about to go on our 4th date and I started to wonder if/when we get to that point of intimacy how that will work. My kids are here most of the time, his son is with him most of the time. So far we have managed 3 quick dates, late lunches mostly (while his son is in school). The way I look at it, where there's a will there's a way. If we grow to really be crazy about each other we will find a way to work it out. But it will be challenging for sure. Good luck to you
Author irc333 Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 In my opinion, she's not into you enough to believe you're worth giving up her Girl Scouts/camping time for. Well, some of these camp outs were something that was pre-planned before we saw each other the first time. So they were kind of obligatory to her.
grkBoy Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Well, some of these camp outs were something that was pre-planned before we saw each other the first time. So they were kind of obligatory to her. I'll give you that. See then if she'll make future time for you then. Please don't think I'm bashing or attacking you. I simply like to use "hard truth" or "hard reality" to keep men and women from letting lust cloud judgement. I want you to demand more for yourself. 1
Lani Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 There will always be scheduling conflicts in the beginning. Most of us are happy to date, but not put everything we were doing before we met that person on hold. Until things get to a stage where you are sure things are going somewhere, then seeing you won't be at the top of yet priority list. It's just the way things go. Give it some time, and if its working out, she'll make some more time for you. 1
curlygirl40 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Well I'm not very good at dating more than one person at a time, even though we haven't discussed exclusivity. Although if in a couple of weeks I see this as a big stumbling block, I could possibly end it completely so that I could find someone who is more suited for me, scheduling wise. But I hate to give up a good guy for that reason so I will give it some time. Sounds like you said something about some of these scheduling issues were in place before you met. So give her some time to free up her schedule a little. And also, how does she act around you, etc., when it comes to wanting to see you. Do you sense her frustration as well with wishing she could see you more often, not be so tired when she does, etc.? If she seems perfectly fine with it then maybe that's a sign that she's not into you and just filling her time. People move at different paces. Give her time to get through her obligations and see if she starts freeing up her schedule soon. In the meantime, I don't see anything wrong with dating other people, it's just not something that I personally am good at.
StanMusial Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 This is a good topic because scheduling and particularly timing can make or break a romantic link. I traveled for my job extensively for a good part of my 20's. It made a relationship very difficult, because most girls require quite a bit of attention. Normally in your situation I would say the girl is not interested but she seems to have a fairly legit excuse. You could either go out with another girl that weekend or do something else maybe.
curlygirl40 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 There will always be scheduling conflicts in the beginning. Most of us are happy to date, but not put everything we were doing before we met that person on hold. Until things get to a stage where you are sure things are going somewhere, then seeing you won't be at the top of yet priority list. It's just the way things go. Give it some time, and if its working out, she'll make some more time for you. Well said!!
Emilia Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 In my experience people who are ready to date and ready to date YOU find the time to see you. Others are time wasters. 2
Author irc333 Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 This is a good topic because scheduling and particularly timing can make or break a romantic link. I traveled for my job extensively for a good part of my 20's. It made a relationship very difficult, because most girls require quite a bit of attention. Normally in your situation I would say the girl is not interested but she seems to have a fairly legit excuse. You could either go out with another girl that weekend or do something else maybe. Funny you mention that, the woman in question actually had a guy move in with her, but he traveled extensively, when they first met, they met online and he lived an hr away, moved in with her, but STILL his travels kept them away from each other. She lives in a remote town as well, so that doesn't help matters, and she's well established in he community and career there. So it's like have to wait and see situations.
HitMeNow Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 ... IMO, you have to let her make the plans. Unfortunately you cannot plan her time. Simply call her up and state your free times. If she can't make any of them. Well then you just weren't meant to be.
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