Stoic44 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Sometimes when you lose, you win. And for the dumpers, sometimes when they win they really lose.
TaraMaiden Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Every time you lose, your winning potential goes up. It's in you to rise from the flames, and soar to better heights. When dumpers dump, they ALWAYS lose. Because Dumpers unfortunately, are intrinsically lazy, and always seem to run rather than stay and work on it. 9
Amelie1980 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Every time you lose, your winning potential goes up. It's in you to rise from the flames, and soar to better heights. When dumpers dump, they ALWAYS lose. Because Dumpers unfortunately, are intrinsically lazy, and always seem to run rather than stay and work on it. I like that.....mine said it it may well be the biggest regret he has looking back in the future I hope it is.....
ScienceGal Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I hope I feel as though I've won something soon, even breaking even would be a relief.
cavalier99 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 (edited) Every time you lose, your winning potential goes up. It's in you to rise from the flames, and soar to better heights. When dumpers dump, they ALWAYS lose. Because Dumpers unfortunately, are intrinsically lazy, and always seem to run rather than stay and work on it. Ummm i usually really like your posts a lot .....but hitting dislike button on this one. Come on "intrinsically lazy" , "always lose" I mean I'm a BIG dumpee supporter here but this sentiment seems a little too one sided for me. Although i do feel like the " her/his loss not mine" attitude helps to recover. Is this what you meant? Did you sleep well last night? Cav Edited January 17, 2013 by cavalier99 3
Amelie1980 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Ummm i usually really like your posts a lot .....but hitting dislike button on this one. Come on "intrinsically lazy" , "always lose" I mean I'm a BIG dumpee supporter here but this sentiment seems a little too one sided for me. Although i do feel like the " her/his loss not mine" attitude helps to recover. Is this what you meant? Did you sleep well last night? Cav Good point. just remembered I dumped someone because they were violent towards me. I didn't feel intrinsically lazy or like a loser in that situation.
ScienceGal Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Dumpers aren't all intrinsically lazy. Each story is different, everyone gives up for different reasons. Dumpees like to believe the dumper will feel like a loser at some point, but doesn't always happen. I didn't sleep well last night. A glass of wine turned into a bottle, then only two hours of terrible sleep. Plus the 3-4 hours I got the night before. I'm a zombie at work right now.. If I didn't have meetings I wouldn't be here.
TaraMaiden Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Actually, my bad.... I mistook the OP for someone else. C'mon, you should all know me better than that.... I evaluate each person's comments from their personal experiences... the comment I made isn't set in stone - I'm all too well aware that it's a generalised comment....but like I said, I actually thought Stoic44 was another member.... 2
dumPI Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Well I can really see how I have won in many other fields. I've become better than ever physically, emotionally, etc after the break up. But I've not become better in the love field. I am still not ready to date. Thinking about her although not longing for her. However after she left me, she has been dating & dumping at least a couple more of guys. She has what she wants: attention, new honeymoon period with every guy, not feeling alone, you name it. I know that is "losing" in the sense that this is not helping her for the future, neither solving her issues. So deep inside my thoughts are: I don't have what I wanted: I am "kind of" losing She has what she wants: She is not losing (not yet)
Amelie1980 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Dumpers aren't all intrinsically lazy. Each story is different, everyone gives up for different reasons. Dumpees like to believe the dumper will feel like a loser at some point, but doesn't always happen. I didn't sleep well last night. A glass of wine turned into a bottle, then only two hours of terrible sleep. Plus the 3-4 hours I got the night before. I'm a zombie at work right now.. If I didn't have meetings I wouldn't be here. At least you're not going to work on valium.... I was awake every hour & the anxiety is crippling.
cavalier99 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Actually, my bad.... I mistook the OP for someone else. C'mon, you should all know me better than that.... I evaluate each person's comments from their personal experiences... the comment I made isn't set in stone - I'm all too well aware that it's a generalised comment....but like I said, I actually thought Stoic44 was another member.... It all good taramaiden. You know we love you and appreciate all the helpful great advise you give! 2
TaraMaiden Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 At least you're not going to work on valium.... I was awake every hour & the anxiety is crippling. Amelie, did you delete his email and block him like I told you to?
Amelie1980 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Amelie, did you delete his email and block him like I told you to? I know his email address....but will never contact him don't worry. haven't blocked him yet as have been working late. I can't do it on my work pc or ftkm my smart phone. will do it this weekend when I can get on my computer at home. To be honest the anxiety is now more to do with work....things aren't going well. I am emotional & shaking all the time and I cant function. it isn't just him...work is going pear shaped.
cavalier99 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Mann Id love to party with you gals (Sciencegal, Amelie). Wooohoo break out the red wine and valium!!!!
Amelie1980 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Mann Id love to party with you gals (Sciencegal, Amelie). Wooohoo break out the red wine and valium!!!! Haha. Are you local? 1
cavalier99 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Haha. Are you local? Ha! Is this a trick question?
ScienceGal Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Haha! I've never had Valium.. Lets make a date! 1
Amelie1980 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Ha! Is this a trick question? Don't know what you mean?
cavalier99 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Haha! I've never had Valium.. Lets make a date! ..You know. Wellll...it wouldnt be fair not to tell you. I'm just coming out of a long term relationship so I'm not looking for anything serious. 1
cavalier99 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Don't know what you mean? Lol I meant that we are from all over the place. I'm east coast US:
ScienceGal Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I don't know what "local" is. I'm also east coast (northern) but that's as detailed as I will get on here.
cavalier99 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I don't know what "local" is. I'm also east coast (northern) but that's as detailed as I will get on here. Yes you do. Local means... are you from here? But is only relevant if you are speaking to someone locally. 1
ScienceGal Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Ha! I meant I don't know where she lives, so can't answer as to whether I'm local or not. Loco though, for sure 1
cavalier99 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 (edited) Ha! I meant I don't know where she lives, so can't answer as to whether I'm local or not. Loco though, for sure Well that is what my thought was also. That is why i asked if it was a trick question. Definativamente loco tambien. lol Edited January 17, 2013 by cavalier99 1
KatZee Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Every time you lose, your winning potential goes up. It's in you to rise from the flames, and soar to better heights. When dumpers dump, they ALWAYS lose. Because Dumpers unfortunately, are intrinsically lazy, and always seem to run rather than stay and work on it. Oh I like this. I like this a lot! It's actually true too. Since being dumped, I've soared to the highest places. I'm so happy being me now, so happy with life. My ex... all I know about him is that he tried a new relationship, it blew up in his face. He jumps. He doesn't work on anything. He is lazy. So I guess it's not really working out too well! HA! 2
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