CaliGuy Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 You may well be correct. But, I don't want to commit to this path 100% until I know there is no hope of normal relations. It's hard to have NC who works in the same small room as you. No small room here. I went through the same breakup issues everyone else has. I just finally learned to love and respect myself enough that I wasn't going to waste my time chasing someone who didn't want to be with me nor wanted to be caught by me.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 No small room here. I went through the same breakup issues everyone else has. I just finally learned to love and respect myself enough that I wasn't going to waste my time chasing someone who didn't want to be with me nor wanted to be caught by me. Yeah, it would be a real hard thing to do. It was such a big thing to me because it was an unexpected severing of a major communications channel. Albeit a poor, distorted, worse than a typewritten letter channel. Based on our in person rapport I think that going NC would be a bit too far at this point. If I was certain, that I was wasting my time, I would go NC or very low contact no problem. I'd rather regret wasting a little time, than giving up too soon.
CaliGuy Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Yeah, it would be a real hard thing to do. It was such a big thing to me because it was an unexpected severing of a major communications channel. Albeit a poor, distorted, worse than a typewritten letter channel. Based on our in person rapport I think that going NC would be a bit too far at this point. If I was certain, that I was wasting my time, I would go NC or very low contact no problem. I'd rather regret wasting a little time, than giving up too soon. Or on the other hand, not letting some time and distance to allow the heart to grow fonder may be your demise. It's about balance, and you're missing that. 1
Astra5 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Could be a few things.... She is afraid to let the world see she is with you.... OR she is just a cruel coldhearted person who has no heart... Or some kind of facebook issue that isnt about you.... I say be honest... and open... ASK HER...
CaliGuy Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Could be a few things.... She is afraid to let the world see she is with you.... OR she is just a cruel coldhearted person who has no heart... Or some kind of facebook issue that isnt about you.... I say be honest... and open... ASK HER... I disagree. Leave her alone so she has time to miss you. That doesn't mean she is coming back, but if she wanted to be with him, she'd be beating down his door. And since she isn't, I'd have to say his time is better served making himself a better HIM. Don't chase something that doesn't want to be caught by you....
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 I disagree. Leave her alone so she has time to miss you. That doesn't mean she is coming back, but if she wanted to be with him, she'd be beating down his door. And since she isn't, I'd have to say his time is better served making himself a better HIM. Don't chase something that doesn't want to be caught by you.... Well she sort of is beating my door down. We've had several talks since then and worked it out. Hasn't unzipped my fly with her teeth or anything... It appears that she just got rid of FB all together. Surely you understand why I was concerned though....it's the 21st century equivalent of calling a number you've used before and finding it disconnected.
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