LadyChatterley Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 If you know the email she uses for facebook, attempt to log in with it with some fake password, and it'll direct you to a "Is this you"..thing..if it shows her profile pic, it's still active..if it's a grayed out avatar, it's deactivated
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 If you know the email she uses for facebook, attempt to log in with it with some fake password, and it'll direct you to a "Is this you"..thing..if it shows her profile pic, it's still active..if it's a grayed out avatar, it's deactivated Now that would be cyberstalking. I do know that email, but I won't go there. I'd rather just deal with this face to face at school. We still have to work in the same places, where all the really spatially relevant friends we have are. They can see how I am and how they are live and in color and in full motion. People who only know the situation via FB can pound sand. If there is even an issue...it will be worked out in real life because we won't have a choice. Funny thing though is when I type their name in the search box it still shows up. I thought if someone blocks you then that won't happen? Unless there is a lag time? IDK WTH is going on.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 Curiouser and curiouser. I tried a little experiement today. As I was reading http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/366654-caliguy-no-contact-guide-updated#post4510329 and preparing to implement a full freeze out I blocked the person in question on facebook. Then I did a search for their name, it did not show up. Then I unblocked them, waited a bit, and now it will show up in a search again. Man I need to just talk to this person and see where things really stand. 1
Art_Critic Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Now that would be cyberstalking. I do know that email, but I won't go there. Something else is that FB sends an email to the account holder upon the wrong login mentioning the wrong login, it only takes a person to add 2+2 to come up with who ever did it. 1
Art_Critic Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I was just thinking that she canceled the account on her own behalf and it had nothing to do with you.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 Hey Art critic where the hell have you been hiding To your comment: I certainly hope so. If not, then I must be an atrocious judge of character. What kind of person hears "My parent is really sick" and responds by cutting all ties?
CaliGuy Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Curiouser and curiouser. I tried a little experiement today. As I was reading http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/366654-caliguy-no-contact-guide-updated#post4510329 and preparing to implement a full freeze out I blocked the person in question on facebook. Then I did a search for their name, it did not show up. Then I unblocked them, waited a bit, and now it will show up in a search again. Man I need to just talk to this person and see where things really stand. You have a long road to recovery if that is how you are spending your time...
Failboy Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I once had a girl approaching me and being all over me for the entire evening, giving me her number before she went home. When I searched for her on facebook, I couldn't find her. I later found out that she blocked me before I even contacted her, without me giving any indication that I even use facebook prior to that.
charlietheginger Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I once had a girl approaching me and being all over me for the entire evening, giving me her number before she went home. When I searched for her on facebook, I couldn't find her. I later found out that she blocked me before I even contacted her, without me giving any indication that I even use facebook prior to that. Use a fake facebook for searches
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 You have a long road to recovery if that is how you are spending your time... You may well be correct. But, I don't want to commit to this path 100% until I know there is no hope of normal relations. It's hard to have NC who works in the same small room as you.
suladas Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 FB is really weird. I have tried logging out and searching for myself, and I don't come up. I have tried to look in privacy settings and can't find anything on why, it makes no sense. Some people take FB way to seriously though. I've had people upset and hurt because I didn't add them to FB......
mortensorchid Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Facebook has changed our lives, no question about it. With that being said, we now live by a new code of conduct like it or not. If she has taken her account down for some reason, don't think that it has to do completely with you. Move on from it because you have no choice in the matter.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Facebook has changed our lives, no question about it. With that being said, we now live by a new code of conduct like it or not. If she has taken her account down for some reason, don't think that it has to do completely with you. Move on from it because you have no choice in the matter. If they have taken their account down totally then it has nothing to to with me to be sure. They weren't a big FB user to being with. @suladas As someone else pointed out it is a bit coincidental that I would post something mentioning the mere fact of having talked to them about my father like "as I said to .... he is ..." :/ On the other hand I've had people trip over less.
carhill Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Since you have consistent real life contact, discount the FB stuff and see how real life goes in that small room. When in doubt, choose real life as the control set, IMO. 1
AlexDP Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Privacy restricted to that list about his sickness, the simeltaneous sickness of myself my mother and my sister, and my fathers status since leaving hospital. Why is everyone sick in your family? It's not your fault and you probably can't help it, but if I talk to a girl and everyone in her family, including her, is sick, I automatically assume something is off. And usually that is the case.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 @Carhill I will certainly take your advice. Just to make things even worse, when I wrote my email the first line said something to this effect. Why is everyone sick in your family? It's not your fault and you probably can't help it, but if I talk to a girl and everyone in her family, including her, is sick, I automatically assume something is off. And usually that is the case. Well there has been a very virulent flu going around. Flu Outbreak Still Widespread In U.S., But Starting To Ease, CDC Reports We caught it. It is especially dangerous to one of the races in our mixture. For a number of cultural, economic, and genetic reasons. Native Population at Higher Risk of Illness or Death From Flu Sweeping the Nation - ICTMN.com If your in the United States of America be happy you haven't heard of this yet, then go out and buy a face mask.
Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 So it may not even be about me. If you and many other LS posters would recognize this on a more regular basis, you'd be much happier people. I'd say the majority of the time, it isn't about you... your ego just makes it think it is. 4
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 If you and many other LS posters would recognize this on a more regular basis, you'd be much happier people. I'd say the majority of the time, it isn't about you... your ego just makes it think it is. Hmmm a bit of an aggressive message there. But, there is the fact that the action was taken after I posted something. So a cause-effect relationship isn't beyond the realm of the possible.
AlexDP Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 @Carhill I will certainly take your advice. Just to make things even worse, when I wrote my email the first line said something to this effect. Well there has been a very virulent flu going around. Flu Outbreak Still Widespread In U.S., But Starting To Ease, CDC Reports We caught it. It is especially dangerous to one of the races in our mixture. For a number of cultural, economic, and genetic reasons. Native Population at Higher Risk of Illness or Death From Flu Sweeping the Nation - ICTMN.com If your in the United States of America be happy you haven't heard of this yet, then go out and buy a face mask. Ow I see. I thought you were talking about a chronic illness. It's the flu.. I don't see how this could be construed as there being a problem with you.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 My last message @ Carhill was garbled. Basically the first line in my email to them said, if this is not because of anything I did and your just withdrawing from FB which you never really liked then never mind. Alex, yeah just the flu. One of us, my father got really bad and so had to be hospitalized. It was a dark time for us, and we are only starting to see some daylight. If things are as bad as they could be, then I've just learned who in my life was really worth a damn and who wasn't.
Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Hmmm a bit of an aggressive message there. But, there is the fact that the action was taken after I posted something. So a cause-effect relationship isn't beyond the realm of the possible. Not aggressive at all. And you've proved my point: I think one of the main problems in relationships (of any kind, not just romantic/dating) is that so many people ascribe malicious or ill-intent to others' actions and assume those actions have something to do with them. 99% of the time, what others do has absolutely nothing to do with you, because the world doesn't revolve around you; and your bent-out-of-shape feelings are really the result of miscommunication and assumptions on your part. 1
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Not aggressive at all. And you've proved my point: I think one of the main problems in relationships (of any kind, not just romantic/dating) is that so many people ascribe malicious or ill-intent to others' actions and assume those actions have something to do with them. 99% of the time, what others do has absolutely nothing to do with you, because the world doesn't revolve around you; and your bent-out-of-shape feelings are really the result of miscommunication and assumptions on your part. I would add on theirs as well. I hope that's all it is. Because that's a problem that people can work on if they want to. It takes two to communicate.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 TUrns out I was panicing for almost no reason. We are sitting right across from eachother. Everything is fine.
MyPoutine Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 This is why I will NEVER get a Facebook account, so much drama for nothing.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 This is why I will NEVER get a Facebook account, so much drama for nothing. Basically. In a way it lets you know so much about someone that it's no natural.
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