bitterruin Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I've held NC for almost two months now. But after seeing him on OKCupid I started shaking and panicking, thinking about texting him that I miss him and see if he responds. I guess part of me thought that I should run back to him before it's too late and I lose him forever before he finds someone he likes. He responded telling me that he misses me too and that it hurts him beyond reason, but he has to remind himself why we broke up. We've been talking for about an hour about our situation. I didn't beg, and I didn't try to convince him to come back. All I wanted to know was if he believed we gave up too easy, if we tried our best to solve our problems. All he said was that it was necessary, we were in an unhealthy relationship, and that he wants to be in a relationship with me if only it were healthy but that he doesn't know whether or not that's a realistic want at this point. I told him that if he believes we tried our best and there's nothing else we could have done that that's good enough for me. He asked me if a complete disconnect is the only way. I responded that if the solution is breaking up the distance and time are the only way we're going to get over each other. He hasn't responded since it was only a minute ago that I sent that message, but if he says anything other than let's try again I'm going to restart NC, this time for good. I think I've tried everything I possibly could for this man, it's up to him now.
sotoman Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 i wish that my ex who dumped me would do what you are trying to do! i think that if he feels it was an unhealthy relationship, you should do something with him to improve it. ask if he would like to go to a counseling session with you, or go over a relationship workbook or workshop.
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