kaylan Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I swear to god itd be nice for a girl I message to read my profile after I message them lol. Its happened numerous times where chicks reply to me and ask me questions that are RIGHT in my profile. I just exchanged several messages with a girl tonight who asked me 3 or 4 questions that are answered right in my dang profile. I got her number, but Im already thinking this is going to go nowhere...all because she was too lazy and disinterested to read my profile. Nevermind the fact that her replies werent too long or engaging. *sigh* Im kinda seeing where this could go, but do you guys feel messaging and text would have a spark if the real life meeting had spark potential? Then again, I have a friend who I click pretty well with over chat, yet things are different in person. 1
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I swear to god itd be nice for a girl I message to read my profile after I message them lol. Its happened numerous times where chicks reply to me and ask me questions that are RIGHT in my profile. I just exchanged several messages with a girl tonight who asked me 3 or 4 questions that are answered right in my dang profile. I got her number, but Im already thinking this is going to go nowhere...all because she was too lazy and disinterested to read my profile. Nevermind the fact that her replies werent too long or engaging. *sigh* Im kinda seeing where this could go, but do you guys feel messaging and text would have a spark if the real life meeting had spark potential? Then again, I have a friend who I click pretty well with over chat, yet things are different in person. Sometimes we do read your profile but forget. I know I was talking to this guy and he is currently in Afghanistan (it was on his profile) but I totally didn't see that part. He kept saying "when I come back..." and I was like 'where are you?!" and he was like "Afghanistan, it is in my profile" I had to go back and reread. I did read his profile but I skimmed it to find things that interested me, like his fascination with zombies lol 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 If I did OLD, I would probably skim a series of profiles and then msg one by one the one's that intrigued me with a personalized msg. BUT I would probably maybe do five msgs at a time making things perhaps a little confusing but the odds of ALL FIVE msging me back would be low and I prob wouldn't remember all five profiles with intricate detail. The quality of the convo would say more. As well some guys really BS their profiles (I'm sure) BUT they might forget their front-story when asked directly, presenting their first red flag: exaggeration and dishonesty. Easier to next.
Author kaylan Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 If I used OLD I wouldn't care if they read my profile. Isn't it kind of a girl thing to worry about people reading the profile. A girl thing? lol, not really. I think anyone would be slightly annoyed being asked several questions they previously answered. Btw, Im not just looking to get laid...so in that case, itd be nice to talk to a woman who seems to take enough interest in me to read my profile.
CptSaveAho Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Btw, Im not just looking to get laid...so in that case, itd be nice to talk to a woman who seems to take enough interest in me to read my profile. POF? (10 chars)
phineas Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I swear to god itd be nice for a girl I message to read my profile after I message them lol. Its happened numerous times where chicks reply to me and ask me questions that are RIGHT in my profile. I just exchanged several messages with a girl tonight who asked me 3 or 4 questions that are answered right in my dang profile. I got her number, but Im already thinking this is going to go nowhere...all because she was too lazy and disinterested to read my profile. Nevermind the fact that her replies werent too long or engaging. *sigh* Im kinda seeing where this could go, but do you guys feel messaging and text would have a spark if the real life meeting had spark potential? Then again, I have a friend who I click pretty well with over chat, yet things are different in person. And GOD forbid you forget some detail of their profile. They don't read the profile. They look at the pics. I hid my account. Too many woman who respond with "LOL" or "too funny". Guess what, talking to them on the phone isn't any more engaging. And this was like 99% of the women I made contact with. 1
sweetkiwi Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Yeah I found it extremely annoying to answer the same questions over and over and over. Where are you. Where are you from. How many tattoos do you have. What does your chest say. Everything already answered in my profile. I am so happy I deleted that ****.
IT Geek Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I just exchanged several messages with a girl tonight who asked me 3 or 4 questions that are answered right in my dang profile. At least you get replies to messages you send. 1
irc333 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Yeah I found it extremely annoying to answer the same questions over and over and over. Where are you. Where are you from. How many tattoos do you have. What does your chest say. Everything already answered in my profile. I am so happy I deleted that ****. Sometimes I wonder why people are so critical of others, so what if you have to answer the same question? Perhaps they want it repeated in person when you're on the date in your own words? 1
Emilia Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I swear to god itd be nice for a girl I message to read my profile after I message them lol. Its happened numerous times where chicks reply to me and ask me questions that are RIGHT in my profile. I just exchanged several messages with a girl tonight who asked me 3 or 4 questions that are answered right in my dang profile. I got her number, but Im already thinking this is going to go nowhere...all because she was too lazy and disinterested to read my profile. Nevermind the fact that her replies werent too long or engaging. *sigh* Im kinda seeing where this could go, but do you guys feel messaging and text would have a spark if the real life meeting had spark potential? Then again, I have a friend who I click pretty well with over chat, yet things are different in person. I'm afraid this is the reality for lots of people. I think quite a few on OLD just take a stab in the dark and don't make the effort ie the phrase 'time wasters'. I only carry on with conversations when we seem to click within the first few messages. Why force a conversation when there is no will or any kind of similarity of wavelength/humour? 1
sweetkiwi Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Sometimes I wonder why people are so critical of others, so what if you have to answer the same question? Perhaps they want it repeated in person when you're on the date in your own words? :lmao: As a woman I got 10+ NEW messages a day. It's annoying that they didn't take the time to read my profile. And that I had to answer the same questions in messages over and over and over. I DID respond to all messages because I am SO critical of others that I didn't next them instantly. It wasn't on dates that I answered the questions. It was in messages. Any other questions or assumptions I need to clarify before lunch? 1
EasyHeart Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 What does your chest say Your chest can TALK?!?! Amazing. 1
sweetkiwi Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Your chest can TALK?!?! Amazing. Yeah. It says quit lookin at my tits. 1
EasyHeart Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Yeah. It says quit lookin at my tits.Tell it to shut up! 2
tigressA Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 This annoys me too. I make sure I never do this with guys I send messages to--but then, I am hardly ever motivated to send a guy a message because I hardly ever see any profiles that are sufficiently interesting. What I do is have the guy's profile open in a separate tab so I can refer back to it while crafting my message 2
Author kaylan Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 (edited) POF? (10 chars) Nah, this is OKC Im using. I know POF has a different kind of dating culture. Its more for hookups and has lower class women IMO. People never write anything of substance, let alone fill out their profiles with more than 3 sentences. Its all "Im like this this and that....hit me up if you wanna know more" I find the girls on OKC to be more girlfriend material. Since the site encourages people to fill in their profile and answer match questions, it seems to attract more serious girls.At least you get replies to messages you send. Lol....I am definitely not batting 1.000. Im prolly batting WAY under the Mendoza line. In other words, my success rate aint high at all. Sure I may get some replies at times. But sometimes things have fizzled out before I ask for a number...or I text with them and realize there is definitely no click. Edited January 17, 2013 by kaylan
IT Geek Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Lol....I am definitely not batting 1.000. Im prolly batting WAY under the Mendoza line. In other words, my success rate aint high at all. Sure I may get some replies at times. But sometimes things have fizzled out before I ask for a number...or I text with them and realize there is definitely no click. I'm batting 0.000 over the past year. LOL
FitChick Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I've found that "clicking" via email usually translates well to phone calls and then to real life. I take it step by step because a few men are only good on paper, so when the phone call happens, that can be the end of it. When I've ignored my intuition and met them, they were just as difficult to talk to. I like conversation, so that doesn't work for me. These types of men usually require a mind reader. 1
Casablanca Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 A girl thing? lol, not really. I think anyone would be slightly annoyed being asked several questions they previously answered. Btw, Im not just looking to get laid...so in that case, itd be nice to talk to a woman who seems to take enough interest in me to read my profile. While I agree, perhaps she is using those questions to hopefully springboard a conversation? I don't respond to someone who has responded to me but didn't ask any questions. That is the red flag for me Nah, this is OKC Im using. I know POF has a different kind of dating culture. Its more for hookups and has lower class women IMO. People never write anything of substance, let alone fill out their profiles with more than 3 sentences. Its all "Im like this this and that....hit me up if you wanna know more" I find the girls on OKC to be more girlfriend material. Since the site encourages people to fill in their profile and answer match questions, it seems to attract more serious girls. Lol....I am definitely not batting 1.000. Im prolly batting WAY under the Mendoza line. In other words, my success rate aint high at all. I think it depends on your area, I've seen good ones on both, but I find a lot of trash on both. I decided to take the plunge and give match a try and I am very happy with my results. There are tons of attractive and accomplished women and I'm seeing one woman off there who is fantastic and I think we have a great chance. I also did get a lot of responses on match, I didnt send many out on pof as there werent many worth sending too the last time I checked it out
dreamingoftigers Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I started dating just as OLD was starting to become a debated topic. I know this may make me sound old: It just seemed a little too convenient, like ordering a pizza. So if this profile didn't provide any butterflies, who cares about the person on the other end? They are just pixels and text anyway that you didn't have to put much work into communicating with and could just blow off the next instant. I think when a potential relationship starts that way, it's hard to turn it into anything really workable. It just seems like a lot of OLD would just be "who's the easiest person to get here that I have a little attraction to. Which person is going to give me the least work and be the hottest most neatest ever." Going into a dating scenario trying to be as effortless as possible strikes me as a very bad idea. 1
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