ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I'm exhausted with dating, and I have been thinking a lot... If I end up being single for like the rest of my life maybe my life will not be totally fully and completely horrible? I mean I could still have a baby, I would just have to go to a sperm bank (which if I am over 30 and still no potential man I will probably do anyways). If I have to be a single mom it wouldn't be that bad.. I can spoil my baby as much as I want, I can pick the names that I want with no interference... I mean what guy would willingly choose the name Paisleigh? I can just do whatever I want in my life on my own. Ideally it would be great for my future babies to have a dad and someone to look up to but I mean a lot of people are raised without dads and it's fine. It would be cool to have a guy who loves me and we take cute facebook pictures and I can brag about how great my BF is but.. oh well. On one level I know I can get a guy... If I want to keep talking to this abusive guy I could, he is nice to me and calls me beautiful and texts me first everyday... but I feel like if I actually do end up going to law school it just isn't realistic. We aren't on the same level, I would like a guy on my level but at the same time I want someone now, I know on POF I am not going to find someone on my level.. I have no idea what to do, I am trying to just let go and be like whatever BUT it is super hard when I see idiots in relationships but whatever.... I guess I can just be single and have sex with a lot of guys who want to have sex with me? It will keep me occupied.. but then I won't be a respectable person who is wife and mother material... I can't win.
Els Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Paisleigh!?!??!?! Oh my god, your poor kid. If it's a girl, she's going to get teased to no end in school. If it's a guy, he's going to not only get teased to no end, but also beaten up in locker rooms, given wedgies, thrown into dumpsters and having his head shoved into toilet bowls. 4
Lobouspo Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Don't obsess so much about not having a BF. You're still young. Enjoy life, spend time with family and friends and concentrate on career/school. Stay away from the loser criminals on POF and just let it happen. Being single is the best time for personal growth. 2
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 Paisleigh!?!??!?! Oh my god, your poor kid. If it's a girl, she's going to get teased to no end in school. If it's a guy, he's going to not only get teased to no end, but also beaten up in locker rooms, given wedgies, thrown into dumpsters and having his head shoved into toilet bowls. Paisleigh is the girls name and it is pronounced just like Paisley it's just spelled different, if it is a boy it'll be Rhys or Parker
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 Don't obsess so much about not having a BF. You're still young. Enjoy life, spend time with family and friends and concentrate on career/school. Stay away from the loser criminals on POF and just let it happen. Being single is the best time for personal growth. I am 4 months from my Bachelors degree, it is time to get my MRS. Degree now (thats what my friend and I call it)
veggirl Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Tip for naming any future children...how will that name look on an ADULT and on a job application? Can you picture a 40 year old woman (as opposed to an adorable 2 yr old toddler) named Paisleigh? lol. Throw that name idea back where you got it gf. As far as seeing all the idiots around you in relationships, perhaps you could take some initiative on not having to see that, like for example, deleting them off FB if they are your FB friend. As far as dating, if you are going away to law school it would be stupid of you to get in a relationship right now where you live. Enjoy your spring and summer, see what happens in school. Maybe you'll meet another law student or something. I'm very happy you are not settling for the baby mama beater though.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 Tip for naming any future children...how will that name look on an ADULT and on a job application? Can you picture a 40 year old woman (as opposed to an adorable 2 yr old toddler) named Paisleigh? lol. Throw that name idea back where you got it gf. As far as seeing all the idiots around you in relationships, perhaps you could take some initiative on not having to see that, like for example, deleting them off FB if they are your FB friend. As far as dating, if you are going away to law school it would be stupid of you to get in a relationship right now where you live. Enjoy your spring and summer, see what happens in school. Maybe you'll meet another law student or something. I'm very happy you are not settling for the baby mama beater though. Haha Ok what about if I just spelled it normal? Paisley? or Paislee? or Paysleigh? It is such a cute name! haha Anyways if I deleted all the engaged people and people in relationships or people popping out illegitimate children I would have like 0 facebook friend :/ it's sad I know. The thing is I want to go to law school eventually, but I am not really rushing it, I honestly hoped I would get a job and meet a guy and then wait on law school for... forever haha! Law school was a big deal for if I wasn't in a relationship but I never wanted to go immediately either way, now I am kind of stuck because I graduating in May and I have no idea what to do now, I want to find a job in my field but idk part of me wants to leave the state, part of me doesn't it is ALL just coming too fast! It would have just been so much more convenient if my ex would have just loved me a lot and stayed with me then I would be a girlfriend and eventually mom and it would be AWESOME! Now I have no clue what direction my life is going in. If I met a good guy now I would just stay here and go to school, I only wanted to leave the state because I hadn't met anyone.. I have no clue what I'm doing!
Els Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Paysleigh is even worse than Paisleigh (which I did not think possible when I first read the name). 2
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 Paysleigh is even worse than Paisleigh (which I did not think possible when I first read the name). McKenna is the second pick. Better?
somedude81 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 McKenna is the second pick. Better? I didn't know you were Scottish.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 I didn't know you were Scottish. I just love the name. I always have then I found Paisley on Toodlers and Tiaras and this little girl was amazingly beautiful and cute and I wanted to name my future daughter after her.
TheZebra Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 The name needs to look normal. I posted this on another thread, but they did a study where they gave identical resumes to employers with the only difference being the name. The names that sounded more standard (John, Mary, etc) were more likely to get hired than the people with weird names. It's also a pain in school. I remember my friends with strangely spelled names and they hated it. One of them was Rachael (she didn't understand why it was spelled like a combo between Rachel and Michael) and another was Kraig (yes, with a K).
chex Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Eh for girls names I would go with something like Vienna but I understand that not everyone has the same tastes. Also just relax! Live in the moment! Don't be so insecure
somedude81 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I just love the name. I always have then I found Paisley on Toodlers and Tiaras and this little girl was amazingly beautiful and cute and I wanted to name my future daughter after her. Dude, McKenna is a last name. Though I guess you could name her McKenna Paisley McKenna. 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 Dude, McKenna is a last name. Though I guess you could name her McKenna Paisley McKenna. I would name one Paisley and one McKenna, I can't use all my good names on 1 baby! I only have SO MUCH creativity haha 1
somedude81 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 How about Kenna? It at least seems like it could be a first name.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 How about Kenna? It at least seems like it could be a first name. No I don't like it. Don't worry by the time I have a little munchkin my taste might change (even though I have loved Paisleigh and McKenna for the last 4-5 years)
somedude81 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 No I don't like it. Don't worry by the time I have a little munchkin my taste might change (even though I have loved Paisleigh and McKenna for the last 4-5 years) LOL, so it has to be the full Scottish last name. BTW have you tried searching for a "sperm donor."
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 LOL, so it has to be the full Scottish last name. BTW have you tried searching for a "sperm donor." I figure even though I want to be a young mom and have a baby like NOW, I can wait until 30, BUT if at 30 I am not with someone seriously I will go to a sperm bank or get a guy friend or something to get me pregnant, or I will join POF again.. A lot of those guys wanted to sleep with me.
clia Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I don't understand at all why you are in such a rush to be tied down by marriage and kids. You are so young. You have plenty of time. Maybe if you aren't so focused on it and focus more on yourself and your own interests (outside of babies and men) you will be more attractive to men. On here at least you come across as so desperate for a relationship that I wonder how you are coming across in real life. The fact that you are even considering staying with the abusive loser you are talking to now speaks volumes. Also, why are you needing to do online dating if you are in undergrad? Join clubs, go to parties, etc. and try to meet a guy in person. No to Paysleigh or any variation thereof.
veggirl Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 lol honey McKenna is just as bad as Paisleigh. they sound very white trash tbh. Paisley is better than either of those...I mean at least spell it normal haha. Anyway. I think a move would do amazing things for you. You really, REALLY need to get out of the bubble you live in. Honestly...if at all possible, move. I know you like NC, you should legit look into getting there. A change of scenery I think would be so great for you.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 I don't understand at all why you are in such a rush to be tied down by marriage and kids. You are so young. You have plenty of time. Maybe if you aren't so focused on it and focus more on yourself and your own interests (outside of babies and men) you will be more attractive to men. On here at least you come across as so desperate for a relationship that I wonder how you are coming across in real life. The fact that you are even considering staying with the abusive loser you are talking to now speaks volumes. Also, why are you needing to do online dating if you are in undergrad? Join clubs, go to parties, etc. and try to meet a guy in person. No to Paysleigh or any variation thereof. I'm starting to realize I have a real problem with interacting with people. I hatehatehate being around large groups of people. I had my first day of class on monday and I walked in and the room was full and I felt so weird and self conscious and I didn't know anyone it was scary. I don't have a problem if I know people, like i have a Tuesday Thursday class and my pretty friend is in there and even though I still feel insecure because I am sitting their next to her I can talk to people and be outspoken. It is weird. I was a sorority girl, i joined because I wanted to meet hot frat boys and I didn't, I just had a hard to establishing real friendships. I left with a few friends but we aren't super in contact anymore. I don't know what is wrong with me? I mean I don't want to be some anti-social weirdo but I always feel like if I do stuff alone people will judge me. I went to the lib alone a few times last semester and that was fun but I didn't really talk to anyone, I just did my work. It isn't that I want to be tied down with marriage and kids yet, I just wanted to be tied down with a boyfriend
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 lol honey McKenna is just as bad as Paisleigh. they sound very white trash tbh. Paisley is better than either of those...I mean at least spell it normal haha. Anyway. I think a move would do amazing things for you. You really, REALLY need to get out of the bubble you live in. Honestly...if at all possible, move. I know you like NC, you should legit look into getting there. A change of scenery I think would be so great for you. What about the name Capri? There is a Colbie Caillat song called "Capri" about a pregnant woman who names her baby Capri, and it is beautiful
veggirl Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 What about the name Capri? There is a Colbie Caillat song called "Capri" about a pregnant woman who names her baby Capri, and it is beautiful lol girl FOCUS! Well, Capri is actually kind of sophisticated sounding. maybe once you have gotten a job in the real world you will meet more...suitable...men. 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 lol girl FOCUS! Well, Capri is actually kind of sophisticated sounding. maybe once you have gotten a job in the real world you will meet more...suitable...men. I hope that is soon! I figure I can job search this summer I don't know if I will be ready to leave the state though.. that might take a year or so?? (I REALLY hope not) at least if I get a job though I will stay occupied.
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