Samilia Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Question says it all. I like being active, I like volunteering, and I'm single. Anybody gave it a try? I'm worried about ending up with the wrong group of people.
Enema Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 I've been to a few meets. It's good, give it a shot. I was only really interested in doing meets like, "After work drinks on Friday". 20-30 people turned up each time I did it and everyone is friendly.
Author Samilia Posted January 16, 2013 Author Posted January 16, 2013 Ok cool, I will sign up and give it a try.
clia Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Meetup is great! If you don't like one group, just try another.
newmoon Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 i've done 4 and they were all fine. normal people and just hanging out. even went to someone's home for a board game night. about 10 people showed each time. good experiences.
bodhesatva Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 (edited) Question says it all. I like being active, I like volunteering, and I'm single. Anybody gave it a try? I'm worried about ending up with the wrong group of people. It's the shotgun method: you have low hit rates (i.e. if you meet one hundred people, the number of people you're interested in amongst that hundred will be quite low) but it allows you to meet so many people that it can actually produce better results than, say, dating sites, where you have better hit rates but you can only really take out 2-3 girls a week even if you are very active. It is enormously contingent on being willing to let go. By that I mean this: size up a group, and the people in it, very quickly. If it seems clear within a meeting or two that you aren't interested, move on and don't look back. Again, the strength of meet up groups is the sheer number of people you will meet. If you stop and try to get to know every single person in order to make sure they aren't "the one," you're eliminating the entire purpose of meet ups in the first place. Edited January 17, 2013 by bodhesatva 2
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 They only had boring meet ups so I deleted mine and deleted the app from my phone.. I don't care about bikers or going to singles events specifically, that just seems like so much work and so desperate. I mean I know I am desperate but my God I don't think going to a singles event would be good for me.
zebracolors Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Im currently in two groups, which are both language and culture themed groups because those are two of my interests. And Ive been to around 6 meet ups so far and Ive enjoyed it every time. And Ive made some good friends from them, and been on a few dates. What I like abut Meet Up is that its not just a way to meet other singles, but its a way to meet other people in general in which you have chances to make friends, but you're meeting people while doing activities that you like. And you never know, that one friend you make could connect you someone who is just right! But as bodhesatva says, you get out of it what you put into it. Don't just go to ones for singles where there is pressure to decide if someone is or isn't possible r-ship material. If its an activity you'd have fun at, go and enjoy. 1
TheZebra Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Im currently in two groups, which are both language and culture themed groups because those are two of my interests. And Ive been to around 6 meet ups so far and Ive enjoyed it every time. And Ive made some good friends from them, and been on a few dates. What I like abut Meet Up is that its not just a way to meet other singles, but its a way to meet other people in general in which you have chances to make friends, but you're meeting people while doing activities that you like. And you never know, that one friend you make could connect you someone who is just right! But as bodhesatva says, you get out of it what you put into it. Don't just go to ones for singles where there is pressure to decide if someone is or isn't possible r-ship material. If its an activity you'd have fun at, go and enjoy. Oh that's cool! When I thought about joining a meetup group I specifically thought of going to the ones hosted for people from my native country. I think it'd be a good way to meet like-minded people.
monicaelise Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 (edited) I haven't tried it yet, but I do have the San Diego meetup page bookmarked for when Ms. Humpty Dumpty here has been put back together again. There are so many cool looking groups and activities in the area that, even as antisocial as I generally am, I can see myself checking some of them out just because the activities themselves look fun. There are almost 700 things listed right now for just SD! I'm actually more interested in the friends angle myself, but I don't really care what gender the friends may be. Edited January 17, 2013 by monicaelise
El Brujo Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 After 4 years of involvement with meetup groups, the very worst I can say of meetups is that they won't work for you if you live in a very small town in a rural area far from any cities. I've never heard of any "naughty" or "bad" meetup groups; I think you'd get shut down for trying to start an S&M or orgies meetup group.
fishtaco Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I've made friends from meetup. No one I'd date, although I think maybe a few of them I may have had a shot, but I wasn't interested. I approached it as just a hobby -- it was a hobby related meetup, I've never done those singles meetup. If you think magic will happen after you show up to two meetups, you'll be sorely disappointed. Make it something you enjoy as opposed a way to look for romance. If romance is going to happen, it will. If it's not, nothing you try will make it happen. Might as well just enjoy. Ultimately my meetup adventure fizzled out, since I had a pretty busy social life already, I didn't really need another way to increase my social life. But say if I had to move to someplace where I don't know anyone, I'd try meetup to see if I could jump start my social life at a new place.
charlietheginger Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I joined a softball team . It was more Like lets hit the ball around a little and "lets go get beer". I dont drink so it Was not my thing. Same with the runners club. We all jogged About 4 miles when it ended "lets all get beer" I hung out about 20min then left. Following few Days i get a message from a women i met asking If i was going the upcomming week. I wanted to Go but sitting in a bar drinking is idiocy when I Dont drink
Emilia Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I've made good friends through meetup and dated someone as well, the groups I join are related to my hobbies/interests though, they are not singles/wine tasting/hiking ones. I'd say it takes a while to get to know people in them, you will have fluctuating numbers and some are better at mingling with strangers than others. Some put up barriers, etc. Can be a bit like constantly meeting strangers at parties. Once you start making friends though it gets really good
clia Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 To put it more bluntly, if you are looking for an exceptionally physically attractive, highly confident partner, your chances of finding such a person through meetup are close enough to zero to simply not consider it at all in the first place. I totally disagree, but perhaps it depends on your location. I've met plenty of hot, confident, successful men and women through Meetups.
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