FreeAries Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Hey hi, excuse my english in case and im sure ill have mistakes while typing this message as im not a native speaker. She lives in England, pakistani mother and english father but she is an English citizen, her parents are quite conservative, her dad is catholic but way conservative and her mom is muslim quite conservative too. I´m Mexican, both parents mexicans and well my family is quite liberal, they are catholics but not very good ones you cud even say they arent catholics. Im Atheist and she is catholic but not as conservative as her parents. So after giving some background ill tell u my story. We met on a online game, after playing some days we realised we enjoyed all this times together and kind of started growing interest on eachother so we added on facebook and started chatting outside the game. she told me somethings about her and i shared some too, so she asked me wud u like to be on a relationship with me? I was shocked because i wasnt looking for a relationship, so i said maybe as i wasnt sure about the distance. So we kept talking and only knowing eachother by pictures so i asked for a video call and she said she cudnt because her laptop was too old and doesnt haves a cam on it , so i said "ok" so being curious i looked for her pics on google image engine and ta ta! there she was her picture was fake ofc my red light blinked and i started telling her i didnt wanted her to talk to me again ofc thinking the worst (perv) and she said she was sorry and gave me a reason for this, she was raped 5 years ago, so she was insecure and very careful about all of this of giving info away. She send me her pictures and ofc i double checked them and no result wich in a way is good but still maybe its a stolen pic from facebook. She told me her facebook was almost new because she wasnt allowed to have one on the past and she didnt have many friends. She even send pics of her 3 bros and mom but i still dont know her dad as she said he doesnt likes pictures. Wud you trust someone after this? She even tagged someone on the pic a guy wich is her ex but i still feel insecure about this, so i want to ask u think someone wud be sick enough to make this kind of story or shud i understand and let it pass?
Aedra Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 There are some red flags here I'd be worried about. I'm not saying she couldn't be a sweet girl and telling the truth, but it does sound kind of fishy from a first impression. Now I'm a little ignorant of some cultures but women in certain cultures are not allowed to post pictures of their real selves I think. It really isn't fair to expect to be in a LDR and not be able to see their real face though =/ I'd say hold up in being in a committed relationship until you spend alot more time with her, say 2 more months or so to get to know her more if you are serious about it, and she finally gets a cam to let you see her face. She may just be very shy and uncomfortable and maybe it'll take her more time to open up. I knew one guy who I was interested in who'd make this excuse for months on end to never show himself on cam...and turns out he was NOT who he said he was whatsoever. (Long story lol.) So I'd keep your guard up as long as she is being evasive. Just be honest about what you feel to her, get to know her more and trust your gut instinct. If it keeps feeling fishy probably best to not bother.
Empath Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 You have every right to be sceptical. I'd run for the hills. She seems either manipulative, insecure or constrained. Perhaps all three. Add distance and Facebook to the mix and you have a LOT of red flags. Yes, I'm being harsh. But you should weigh the odds a little, in my opinion, before taking an emotional leap of faith.
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