makeitright Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 This Friday will mark 3 weeks since my gf left me. I've been No Contact since 1/6. However I had to talk and see her on Sun 1/13 to move out of my house and to talk about some of the things that were hers or mine. I have not talked to her since. I'm able to get through the day however I'm still not able to sleep. I sleep for very few hours but then when I do wake up the pain is excruciating. I started to see a counselor who told me to just take those emotions to the gym in the afternoon. I am trying that but it does not seem to be working.. the pain is not getting any easier infact its getting worse. I've been dreaming about her constantly and when I wake up I feel as if my chest is going to explode. I constantly look out the window in hopes that she pulls into the driveway one night to come home. I'm not going to lie I've thought about calling her and telling her how hopeless life feels right now and how close I am to truly breaking. But I know that won't do any good.. and I know its just pitiful. We were together for 4 years and lived together 3.5 of those years... 1 month from now marks the day we were to go on vacation and i was going to ask her to marry me. Now I believe she's already seeing another man who's separated from his wife but still married with kids.. and I believe she's moving in with him. This is too hard.
ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 First thing you need to do is to stop thinking about what she is or is not doing. I know its hard to stop your mind from going rampant (I'm guilty of this as well) but you have to try to focus on something else. This is specifically why you went NC because it prevents you from learning what she is up to and what she is doing. Trust me just try not think about what she is doing. Secondly, I know you dont see this right now but it does get better with time. You are only 3 weeks out of the relationship so its still going to be hard. I was in a 9 year relationship in which we were engaged. She broke my heart and its been 3+ most post BU for me. I was exactly where you are right now. Dreaming about her and waking up with nightmares. The morning ALWAYS sucked! I'm not sure when but somewhere in the 2 month period it got better. Dont get me wrong I still dream and think about her every freaken day for the last 3+ month but now its different. I'm not sad as I use to be and it doesn't affect me the way it use to. I still do get sad but it last about 5 mins or so if even that. Trust me....you will get to where I am right now. I know it doesnt seem like it but it will get better. Keep yourself busy in the meantime. Stay strong and push forward. Good Luck.
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