MrCastle Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Actually Xxoo, since you asked me to go back and read, these two gems were on page 2 Don't be so sure. Part of my attraction to my current is his height of 6'4. It may play a bigger part than you realize. Funny you say that Night. I always ask guys I am sexually attracted to how tall they are. I am barely 5ft yet I prefer men much taller. One ex was 6ft 4. The last one was 6ft 2. So, explain to me what this is doing exactly? Who is this helping? The man said his height has not helped him in dating. Instead of giving advice on how to build up his personality, two women chimed in with these responses. Unless you're a tall guy, what purpose do those posts serve? Especially when it comes to success in dating?
xxoo Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Those posts were after the OP stated he believed he is too tall. He asserted that his height was hurting him: "In fact, I may be TOO tall for some of these short girls -- it could actually be a turn off if the height difference is too great." The women were assuring him that's not the case, for them at least. And note that neither of those women claimed that height alone is enough! You edited out the part where Kiwi talks about the benefits of a shorter guy.
somedude81 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 For me mystery is my bread and butter. I give the girl just a taste of what I can offer and see if she bites. If I had to pick the best qualities that have made me successful, it's passion, wit/humor, boldness/confidence, creativity, style, and being cool. I had to work on being what I perceived to be "cool". This included the way I walk and the way I talk. Among other things, but I mostly display the coolness in my body language. I've said it before, I used Rebel Without A Cause as my template. James Dean is the king of cool. He's who I wanted to be. So I took some of his stuff and used what I could. Now it's become second nature. I did a total personality transformation. You can be whoever you want to in this life. I don't believe this idea that people can't change. I wanted to be cool, so I became cool. So in order for you to start getting women, you had to undergo a total personality transformation? That's really sad. If you were taller, would you have to go through the transformation to get women? Probably not. Your story isn't encouraging at all. I don't want to completely change who I am just because I'm short.
MrCastle Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Those posts were after the OP stated he believed he is too tall. He asserted that his height was hurting him: "In fact, I may be TOO tall for some of these short girls -- it could actually be a turn off if the height difference is too great." The women were assuring him that's not the case, for them at least. And note that neither of those women claimed that height alone is enough! I'm not saying they claimed it was the be all end all, obviously, the fact that the guy is struggling and he's as tall as he is is testament to that, either way, their posts are not adding anything to the main discussion. Them gushing about tall men is not going to help this man improve his dating life. The topic is, why is this guy a ghost when it comes to attracting women, not "I'm tall, why am I not getting laid".
MrCastle Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 So in order for you to start getting women, you had to undergo a total personality transformation? That's really sad. If you were taller, would you have to go through the transformation to get women? Probably not. Your story isn't encouraging at all. I don't want to completely change who I am just because I'm short. Well, I like overcoming what I have. It builds character. If I relied on my looks I wouldn't have any other redeeming qualities. That's why I'm beating out taller guys, or sometimes better looking guys, because some of those guys rest on their laurels and I'm out here grinding. You don't have to completely change who you are to get a girl. I'm sure if you wait around long enough, you'll find a few that like you for you. I changed mostly for me, but also because I wanted results, in both quantity and quality. There are traits that the bulk of women are attracted to, many of which I possess. It wasn't that I didn't have them before, I just didn't know how to use them effectively when it came to dating. If you're one of those guys who's looking for a girlfriend, one single girl, your approach is probably going to be different. I've tailored what I do so I can land girls of any height, body type, age, ethnicity, etc. I'm only interested in multi dating at this time. I've spoken before about me having to change my approach when it comes time for me to look for a girlfriend. 1
xxoo Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 So in order for you to start getting women, you had to undergo a total personality transformation? That's really sad. If you were taller, would you have to go through the transformation to get women? Probably not. Your story isn't encouraging at all. I don't want to completely change who I am just because I'm short. Why would you want to stay the same when you are so miserable? You don't have to give up the core you, just the way you package and sell it. 4
cerridwen Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I'm not saying they claimed it was the be all end all, obviously, the fact that the guy is struggling and he's as tall as he is is testament to that, either way, their posts are not adding anything to the main discussion. Them gushing about tall men is not going to help this man improve his dating life. The topic is, why is this guy a ghost when it comes to attracting women, not "I'm tall, why am I not getting laid". Gushing. Clearly you're emotional enough about the topic to resort to hyperbole. Xxoo understands context well. I was responding to somedude's post and agreeing with him. The OP is discounting his height and its role. FYI: You're not giving advice on how to improve OP's situation with your last series of posts, Castle. How EVER is this helpful?
MrCastle Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Gushing. Clearly you're emotional enough about the topic to resort to hyperbole. Xxoo understands context well. I was responding to somedude's post and agreeing with him. The OP is discounting his height and its role. FYI: You're not giving advice on how to improve OP's situation with your last series of posts, Castle. How EVER is this helpful? Back it down Cerri, I like you I came in here initially to stick to topic, but when I saw it became a tall guy love fest, I had to put a stop to that nonsense. I'm not resorting to hyperbole. I didn't alter your quote or take it out of context in any way. It is what it is.
kiss_andmakeup Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I think OP's problem is that he's too short. Personally, I only date men over 6'8. :love: 3
Els Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Don't you have any women at all in your social circle whom you can actually talk to without doing a cold approach? In class, at work, when you hang out with your friends? If you don't have any, get some. I'm not knocking cold approaches, I'm sure they work for some people, but you need to do LOTS of them with little encouragement from the other party for them to succeed. If you're not even open to talking to stranger women who don't smile back, chances are the cold approach is not your best bet. Also, I don't understand your rationale with regard to the girls in campus. If I saw a guy smiling but not saying anything in a crowded place, I wouldn't think that he wanted to engage me in conversation. The smile might not even be at me - it would be way weird for me to go over to him and talk. 1
cerridwen Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Back it down Cerri, I like you I came in here initially to stick to topic, but when I saw it became a tall guy love fest, I had to put a stop to that nonsense. I'm not resorting to hyperbole. I didn't alter your quote or take it out of context in any way. It is what it is. I like you too, Castle. Gushing According to MrCastle: Originally Posted by cerridwen Don't be so sure. Part of my attraction to my current is his height of 6'4. It may play a bigger part than you realize. Come on, now. Your gnashing of teeth (I do hyperbole too!) isn't a little flippin-your-shtish? I dunnnnooooo...I'm with SweetJasmine on this one! See you back on the OTT!
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