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I apologise for the length.

 

So basically I don't know whether it is my paranoia or something else but it's driving me insane.

 

Been with my boyfriend 6 months. Things have got serious and he has hinted at me moving in, but I have held off cause I don't want to kill it before it's started.

Every now and again I get paranoid he is going off me/bored of me. This basically happens on a regular basis and then goes away for a while.

 

He is extremely affectionate, attentative and an easy going person. Whenever I have had these doubts before he has always reassured me that he loves me to bits, but I can't keep asking him.

 

It started Sunday, he was very tired, very quiet and we hardly spoke to one another all day. He did ask me for a cuddle a couple of times but I think he knows when I am going to get grumpy and so does it anyway.

So Monday morning I left his to go to work - he siad see you later but didn't say he loved me - which he doesn't every single time. Then Monday lunch time he text me to see how my day was going etc, no I love you. Monday tea-time he rung me, we spoke about work etc, conversation was short and he just said "love you" before he hung up. Later that evening we spoke again on text and he didn't say he loved me.

 

Yesterday lunch time we spoke - no I love you. Last night I suggested going over and he said ok. He didn't kiss me for ages when I got there and my face must have looked grumpy cause he said "you ok babe?" and I said yeah. then he kissed me. Last night in bed he asked for a cuddle and we fell asleep like it. This morning I woke up early hours and he was cuddling me from behind.

 

This morning I left early and didn't hardly say a word to him. He said are you in later and I said yes. And that was it. No I love you again.

 

Is it me am I paranoid? And if he is going off me how can i get him to admit it or how can I deal with it so I can get in there first and dump him

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After a while, the "I love you" gets routine and expected a lot of times. However, I do think you're being a bit paranoid. Even if he doesn't say the words constantly, he certainly acts like he loves you. Actions speak far louder than words! As for him being quiet, he could just be having a bad day and doesn't want to take it out on you.

 

I wouldn't worry too much about it.

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Dude. Usually when you "off" someone you make their death look like an accident.

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Are you telling him you love him and not getting a response or are you just waiting for him to tell you he loves you?

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OMG really? you are now counting and keeping track of ILYs? that is paranoia, seriously. Why don't you just say it to him when you leave and stuff if you want to? Please relax a bit...

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