bgfrombg Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 You ever wish there was one thing in your life you could change. Doing one certain thing different, like not dropping out of school, doing better at a job, or like say for instance, never meeting someone? But do you think about how much it would have changed your life? I think about it alot. What if I would have never met my ex? Things in my life would be totally different. I'm not saying I regret it, although, if it weren't for my son, I probably would. But if I wouldn't have met her, I wouldn't have met so many other people that I'm still friends with. And we did have a lot of good times together. Sometimes I wish I could erase her from my memories, everything about her, but I can't. To me, it seems like if you could change the past, to take away something bad, you might take away something good from the future, if that makes sense to anyone. I don't know, I'm just rambling on here, just thoughts coming out of my head and I wanted to share them with someone.
krbshappy71 Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 The movie Butterfly Effect is right up your alley, then. There are things I wish I could change, yes, decisions I've made that still haunt me. But, yah, they were for a reason and that's the hardest part is accepting that and moving on. Hang in there.
blackheart Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 Every time I think about how I wish I had never met my ex I then realize that without her I wouldn't have the two children I have. So despite all the pain she caused me she did give me two wonderful things. Now if I could exorcise everything else about her then . . . . . .
sweetadeline Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 Check out the movie *Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind* for an interesting take on this question.
Blah Toolz Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 I sometimes wish that I had never met my most recent ex... just because of the way the break-up went down and how it is effecting me now. However... I believe that things happen for a reason, and this is no different. Whether it is to teach me a lesson or to show me that she was not the one... I think God makes things happen for a reason. To go back in time and refuse meeting her... there would be so many experiences and good times missed. I also am closer to knowing what it is that I don't want in a woman, how to recognize some warning signs... and what not to put up with.
UCFKevin Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 There is only one single thing I would change in my past, and that's getting to say goodbye to my grandmother before she died. Other than that, everything happened how it happened for a reason. I'm where I am because of the choices I made or didn't make. I think.
SwEeT P Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 i cannot understand y my ex came into my life...........we were together for 3yrs then he left.........i dont get it....
blue636 Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 I've learned, from my own experience, that fantasizing about changing the past is unhealthy when going through a separation or divorce. I'm not quite sure how severe it is for a break-up... unless it was a relationship of 5 years or so. Just my thoughts - depressing, I know.
UCFKevin Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 Sweet, I'm sure you learned a lot in your experience with that guy.
HokeyReligions Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 I wish I'd never taken that first taste of chocolate. . . .
Mr Spock Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 I wish I could go back three days with the winning lottery numbers.
savethedrama4allama Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 I wish that I had made my dad go to the hospital. I wish I had been there when he died. Those are the things I regret. All else is part of life's lessons.
Chelle0582 Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 I wish I called her back right away. I wish I wouldn't have turned around and walked away from her apartment. I wish I would have broke the door down. I wish I trusted my instinct. I wish I could have held her and told her I needed her. I just wish I had my Mom back!
Summerday Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 I wish I had never cheated on my ex. It's the one thing I would change.
hurtingandconfused Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 If You Could Change The Past..... I would have never tried weed!
emra Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 I think everyone thinks about this one some time or another. I believe with all my heart that everything happens for a reason. At first you might not realize why it happened. Or what the reason behind it are. But there is always something. If it is being with someone you wish you never met. What did you learn from the situation? WHAT DID YOU LEARN ABOUT YOURSELF? I think so many times, we all look for the BIG picture in why something is happening, when it might only be something very small, that could change our lives if we see it and use it. I used to have a million things I would have changed about my life. Not anymore. I am now realizing that there were a millions situations that lead me to the point I'm at in my life now and for all those things, even the ones that caused serious pain, I am greatful. Up until a year ago, I would have traded everything in. Now I am re-learning to live My children's father killed himself. What good was that. Hurt like he** Out of that, I become a person of my own. He gave me 2 beautiful children that, had to survive for besides myself. I found out from that I was strong. I have been in recovery for a year now from drugs. Do I wish I never would have started, No, I wouldn't be who I am now, I wouldn't have had my children. I used to hate the person that turned me in. No I want to thank them. They gave me my life. They are giving my children and new and better life. You can not learn without mistakes. They are the best things to learn from. What you get out of any situation. What you will and will not accept in your life.
sugarnspice Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 I always find that right after a bad situation, I wish I could go back and change it. But after a few months or even years have passed, I am glad it happened. I still have yet to find out why I met my ex. Sometimes I wish I never had.
Blah Toolz Posted September 9, 2004 Posted September 9, 2004 If I could change the past... I would have started lifting hardcore at age 13. I'd be on the pro circuit by now... dream job.
dyermaker Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 We're living in the best of all possible worlds.
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