NM1901 Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 Please I need advice on being shy. I am in love with my neighbor.I am 28 and she is 26.We are both single. I am just so shy and scared to say something to her.how in the world do I get over the shyness and just ask her out? I see her Stepfather because he cuts my lawn hes a landscaper.I see him every week and he likes me. Should I say something to him or at least feel him out about what he thinks?Please I'm confused and desperate for some answers.Thanks NM
masked_man Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 I don't think I'd say anything direct or up-front to her step father. It might look just a little over the top. If I were you, I'd work on this from two fronts, if shyness is a major problem. Take advantage of your "relationship" with her as neighbours to build up some rapport. Try to keep your deeper feeling for her in the background for now, and just try some civil neighbourly banter. Say "hi", or "good morning" when you see her around. Be a little shrewd. Ask her about places in the area, for instance, tell her you're looking a place to take some friends for dinner and get her opinions on local cafes or restaurants. Ask if she has seen any good movies, concerts, things like that. Look for ways to get talking about other topics such as work and hobbies as things "progress". Sure it's all small talk, but keep at, while remaining cool, calm and collect, and see if you can build up a friendship with her. You'll also get to learn a bit more about her in the process. As for her step father, just keep things as they are. Keep on chatting to him as usual, and building up your image as a "good sort". Who knows, he may even put in a "good word" for you (to her) after a while. It may take a little time and patience, but taking a more gradual approach is probably better. Once you know her a little more, and feel more comfortable around her, and have lost some of that shyness, then think about asking her out. Good luck
Author NM1901 Posted August 22, 2004 Author Posted August 22, 2004 That was really great advice maske man.we always wave at each other but never have talked.I hope I can get over this because she is sooo cute.I wisk to god I was not so damn shy.It is an aweful trait to have.thanks again Maske man NM
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