TiredAndUnhappy Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 I started taking a new yoga class a week ago and I'm absolutely captivated by my instructor. I feel like she is attracted to me as well. During one class last week she told me I had very tight shoulders and there was a lot of muscle in there. There have also been a couple of other instances where she seems to very enthusiastic towards me - of course she is an upbeat person in general so it is a little difficult to judge. I have done a lot of reading lately and see that it is apparently not at all uncommon to have a crush on your yoga teacher, however, I feel like this might be somewhat mutual. I also had what seems to be to be a sign that I was meant to be there in my very first class with her. I won't go into the details because it is a lengthy story but it was basically very surreal. I did not feel right asking her out at the yoga house as it is kind of sacred to me. So instead I sat down and wrote out a long email explaining the surreal sign thinking that as someone who is in touch with her spirituality she would find it interesting. Then I eventually led into telling her I would love to take her to dinner sometime and regardless of the answer to my question I would have respect for it and not let it affect my yoga. My question is this - I just left my third class of hers and I am dying to send her this email but I wonder if it is too much too soon. Aside from class I've probably only chatted with her for a total of about 15 or 20 minutes, but again she seemed enthusiastic towards me and that comment about my muscles makes me think she's interested. I also think I saw her checking me out when I was in one of the laying down poses. I feel like I should take a chance - but I don't want to scare her off by jumping into this only a week after I met her.
PogoStick Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 You're probably taking a huge leap on this one! It's her job to interact and connect with her clients. Do not send her a crazy email! Most likely you are misreading things and you need to not make her professional life uncomfortable. You need to establish more of a connection before you do something. Try some small talk to find out if she's single and what some interests are. Give her a chance to say "I've been wanting to try restaurant XYZ". The best you can do is invite her to a group gathering that is as non-threatening as possible. Plan a happy hour or whatever with some friends, just after class. At the end of class try a little small talk, drop the "that was a great session, now I'm meeting some friends at the piano bar". "Stop by if you don't have anything going on." 2
OJ loved Nicole Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Do not write an email - it is not cool. It's beyond not cool, it's childish. Like passing a note in grade school "hey little Sue I think you're cute, if you think I'm cute too, write me a note back". Grow a set and ask her out.
GravityMan Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 That yoga studio may have a policy that states that yoga instructors and other employees are not allowed to date clients. Keep that in mind. That said, PogoStick had good advice. Take it slow and keep it very casual. I hope things don't get awkward to the point where she's uncomfortable in your vicinity and she's unable to do her job at peak performance, which is detrimental to the other students in the class. Have a backup plan to switch to a different class or studio w/ another instructor just in case.
EasyHeart Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Do NOT send an email. That is one of the worst things you could possibly do. You are in an ideal situation to get to know this woman. Honestly, you could not ask for a better scenario. Talk to her every now and then after class and see how she behaves. Keep in mind that people in these kinds of jobs are PAID to be friendly with you, so there is a high probability that what you perceive as "interest" is just her wanting you to come back to her class because she has bills to pay. But you never know. (Also keep in mind that a woman in this kind of job gets hit on a LOT. A LOT.) Do not send her any emails. Do not tells her about your destiny together. Do not make any proclamations of love. Just talk to her like she's a person -- because she is!!!
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