edgygirl Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 So for my date tonight I chose this bar near my house that I sometimes use for dating, usually every 3-4 months. It has a cool atmosphere and it's convenient being close to my place, no worries about commuting. But! Last time I've been there was with the guy who caused me to join LS, on my too-drunk-disaster-date. We ended up making out at the bar. The embarrassing thing is the barman tonight remembered me and all the things I said on that date (2 months ago!)... in front of my new date! To close the story he added: do you only come here on dates? LOL. I wanted to burry my head in the ground. Obviously the guy tonight understood exactly what happened. I was secretly praying for him not to say that last time he saw me I was making out there haha. He probably did it because I was super friendly last time and he could tell my date tonight was a sarcastic guy. Still... looks like it can be dangerous to go on dates in the same location? Does this kind of thing happens to anyone? It's so Seinfeld-like that it seems like something that could only happen to me The other bitter side was remembering that date and how it didn't work out. Looks like I was really drunk as I didn't remember half the things I said. Ugh.
Pyro Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Barman needs to keep his mouth shut and mind his own business. 10
Author edgygirl Posted January 16, 2013 Author Posted January 16, 2013 Lol, I think both of you are right I think I am just too friendly and people sometimes take it as they can say whatever comes to their mind to me... seems like I did the same (no filter talking) when I was drunk there last time. They should teach barmans at their course not to be so indiscreet. I'm still flabbergasted this even happened
CptSaveAho Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Right! Only reason a girl takes me to a bar she regularly visits is because she wants to get laid that night... especially close to their place All guys know this, we dont care about old war stories...
dreamingoftigers Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Hey at least you were engaged to that former date 5 days later, eh?
D-Lish Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 I have a good male friend I've known for years, and we get together for a drink or two once every couple of months. We're just friends- nothing going on there... We met at the local pub- and he was telling me about the date he'd brought there the night before- that they'd closed the place and stayed to have drinks with the owner until the wee hours of the morning before he took the girl home and had his way with her. As we are halfway into our first pint, the owner sees my friend and comes over to say hello. He says "Hey S, I haven't seen you in ages! How have you been???" Then he says to me "S is a great guy..." 4
Star Gazer Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Barman needs to keep his mouth shut and mind his own business. Indeed! Bad barman, bad! 2
charlietheginger Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 When i met a women at a bar and she knows The doorman bartenders and bar backs by name I just have one date and never pursue the women. Makes me think " yuck std barwhore" 1
Imajerk17 Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 He actually remembered things you said on the date? From 2 months ago? With all the other people who came in since? Thats almost a little creepy.... Barman needs to get a life.
truth_seeker Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 He actually remembered things you said on the date? From 2 months ago? With all the other people who came in since? Thats almost a little creepy.... Barman needs to get a life. For him to remember says to me that the Barman has taken a liking to her. 1
Pyro Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 A person shouldn't live their life in a way that will cause them embarrassment. Be that as it may it is still not the barmans place to bring up that stuff while OP is on a date with another guy.
carhill Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Hmm, if the barkeep were globally indiscreet, his tips would suck and he wouldn't be tending bar at the same place months (or longer) apart given the propensity for most bars to have 'regulars'. I suspect it has more to do with the person, the OP, and that his behavior was purposeful with her for reasons unknown. So, OP, did sarcastic guy ask you out on another date? I never took dates to bars but have used a couple of restaurants where I've known the owners for over 20 years and am a regular. They saw me there for years with my exW and never batted an eyelash when seeing me there with other women during/after my D. Different generation perhaps, IDK. They were/are completely discreet and proper, so far anyway
Kylar Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 There are a few places I use for first dates, I've never had the staff actually tell a girl I was with about past dates there since I guess they have too much common sense. It really sounds like this guy needs to shut the hell up. How ever the staff will often tease me if I come there alone or with male friends. This one pizza place I go to, for some reason every girl in there has a good rapport with me. (All of them a bit too young for me to ask out) so every time I'm not in there with a girl I'm teased relentlessly and they love to gossip over my love life.
Pyro Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 That's the perfect time to bring up past misbehavior. He has a bar to watch over and a business to run. That has nothing to do with being rude to two people while on a date.
Samilia Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 So for my date tonight I chose this bar near my house that I sometimes use for dating, usually every 3-4 months. It has a cool atmosphere and it's convenient being close to my place, no worries about commuting. But! Last time I've been there was with the guy who caused me to join LS, on my too-drunk-disaster-date. We ended up making out at the bar. The embarrassing thing is the barman tonight remembered me and all the things I said on that date (2 months ago!)... in front of my new date! To close the story he added: do you only come here on dates? LOL. I wanted to burry my head in the ground. Obviously the guy tonight understood exactly what happened. I was secretly praying for him not to say that last time he saw me I was making out there haha. He probably did it because I was super friendly last time and he could tell my date tonight was a sarcastic guy. Still... looks like it can be dangerous to go on dates in the same location? Does this kind of thing happens to anyone? It's so Seinfeld-like that it seems like something that could only happen to me The other bitter side was remembering that date and how it didn't work out. Looks like I was really drunk as I didn't remember half the things I said. Ugh. Hun.. wtf is what comes to my mind. You're not some man eater who shows up every friday with a new guy. The barman really needs to shut his mouth.. I would have two words with him. Friendly words, but still words. Ask him to be a bit more discreet next time, with a smile, that way he doesn't get nasty on your next "rendez vous".
Pyro Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 If it was rude then it was the originating actions and behavior which was rude and not the recollecting. It was not the barmans business at all to share that info so yes the recollecting was rude.
Author edgygirl Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 Nah I wasn't rude to the barman 2 months ago, quite the opposite, I think my problem is I am too friendly and like talking with people. Although I confess I have a big mouth specially if I drink more than I should. I recall him telling us how he is 28 and never been on a formal date although he's been married He was actually trying to be fun/funny I guess, but he didn't realize how embarrassing he pointing out I've been on a date there before was for me. FYI, I was not intending to sleep with my date at all Lesson learned from all of you here and from that disaster date. I'm going abroad tomorrow and running against time, hence bar close to home. Yeah I might put this on Yelp but he'll totally know it was me and I'll become persona non grata and it will be even worse next time, lol. He's a sweet guy, but I think next time I go there I might have a card for him saying: you're a nice guy but stfu please
BUENG1 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 (edited) It is the bartenders responsibility to remind patrons of past misbehavior that will not be condoned. She is lucky she wasn't barred from the bar. If she was a man he might not be so forgiving. What are you talking about? It's the bartenders responsibility to serve drinks and that it! Edited January 18, 2013 by BUENG1
FitChick Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Now I know I need glasses. (sigh) I thought the title of this thread was "When a banana tells you about your last date." I thought it was another thread by Nightsky.
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