boblet Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 So. Out of the blue, after 2 years of NC, the ex before my current ex messages out of the blue to apologize, telling me he never forgot, wants to be friends again, realized he hurt me etc. This completely caught me off guard and he was the last person I expected to hear from (well him and my current ex lol) but it's making me feel a bit messed up. I thought my current ex was my first love, but now I think I realized it was my ex ex. I know for sure he isn't the one for me and he's no good for me. I have no desire to be with him, but it scares me a bit , we've talked and I think I'm a bit vulnerable right now and I have a really uneasy feeling. As much as I'm glad he apologized I was doing fine without us talking. I think maybe it's true that you don't get over your first love in a way. It was kinda good talking to him, I kind of had that same comfort we used to but it scares me to continue talking.. I kind of feel like an addict now that he reopened that door. I didn't want us to stop talking, but it would probably lead to something I'd regret and have to get myself out of, especially now when I'm not over my current ex. Anyway, anyone had any similar experience? I guess the best thing to do is keep my distance I know but these stupid feelings!
HeartBrkenGal Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 oh geezee it sounds like one thing after another. i hope you find ur solution i Am very unhelpful at the moment but ur story jumped out coz the ex ex was ur first love and my ex is my first love on some level i want this to happen to me cause its earli days of nc but i reallly really dont good luck
cavalier99 Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Hey boblet. Wow that is strange. I would be sorta cautious. I get the feeling having read you posts over time that this BU has been pretty hard on you. I think your doing great and are recovering but you really don't need anything to rock the boat right now. You need to take care of yourself. Ok? Cav
Author boblet Posted January 16, 2013 Author Posted January 16, 2013 Isn't it?! Lmao this feels so effed up! Haha. You're right, I definitely don't need that right now, I could be his friend one day but probably not when I feel so vulnerable with another BU, that's for sure. Timing is so weird though! So far now, all my exes came back when I didn't want a relationship with them anymore. So I think in a way, it kind of put my mind at ease that I'd get over this current BU, just like I (mostly) got over the ex ex for the most part. Things do come around! Anyway, back to NC for ALL exes lol. 1
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