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arrowfoot Member

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Mine said he wanted to be alone and that the feelings were gone. He said he could imagine me being with another man and it no longer upset him and that I didn't appreciate him.

 

You?

Amelie1980 Established Member

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Stupid little disagreement, interests don't match.....irrelevant stuff. Emotionally immature a$$clown.

 

He also said he felt sick to his stomach at the thought of never seeing me again and that it

it may well be the biggest regret he has looking back in the future.....

 

But he still did it.

 

Head f--k

MyAngel Established Member

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Many reasons. Overwhelmed with life, too many feelings, too much pressure, heart wasnt in it anymore. Eh, I'll never know if all that was true or not, guess I never will.

HeartBrkenGal Member

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Felll out of love

and met someone elsee

but still pushes for that good old friendship :/

 

funny thing about my ex was that everytime i mention about going out gettin with new people he says you dont need to to that just yet keep yourself busy :o ohh did the whole crying that he will never see me again. and final a few days later he cant wait for me to get over him so we can be friends Yeaa i dont think thats gonna happen u broke my heart friends dont do that ~~ nc it iss

Amelie1980 Established Member

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She felt that I was a misogynistic bastard, "emotionally unavailable" and exceedingly cheap when it came to spending money ( on dates ).

 

She was absolutely correct.

 

That made me laugh for the first time In weeks.

Love Bites Member

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She said she wanted to teach me a lesson by loving someone else...stupid bitch

acapelo_dp Established Member

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It was unexpected. He told me he was was stressed about everything, didn't know his feelings anymore, was going through a "psychoological breakdown" and wasn't happy anymore.

 

It's been two months and I call bull. I think he just couldn't handle normal human relationships and was a coward, didn't wanna work through the small problems we had. Thank God we didn't move in together in April like we were supposed to.

Amelie1980 Established Member

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It was unexpected. He told me he was was stressed about everything, didn't know his feelings anymore, was going through a "psychoological breakdown" and wasn't happy anymore.

 

It's been two months and I call bull. I think he just couldn't handle normal human relationships and was a coward, didn't wanna work through the small problems we had. Thank God we didn't move in together in April like we were supposed to.

 

Are you sure we didn't break up with the same person!

stevie_23 Established Member

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He told me absolutely nothing for 10 days. Not a single word. Just left, cut all contact suddenly after a brief argument online, with no warning.

 

Then he wrote a song called “Remember” and uploaded it on his music site (which I found. He didn’t tell me or send it to me or anything. There was still no contact). The first words of the song were “it’s done”. Before that, I didn’t know if his was still angry at me, or if something bad had happened to him.

 

He finally responded to my many emails and told me his wife had found out about our relationship again (fourth time), and now he had this new job which takes up a lot of his time, it’s just too hard for him to live two lives anymore. Before this, he’d told me he would need me more than ever now he had this new job. He also told me if his wife found out again, we wouldn’t be over. HAH!

 

He said I am his only true wife and he will always love me, but we can’t be together the way we should (in real life, in person, etc). So…yep.

 

I honestly don’t know if this is true or not, if his feelings have changed. I do know it’s always been a huge strain on him to carry on our relationship and still be with his wife. But I also know that say, a year ago, he would NEVER let a job get in our way. That’s just a flimsy excuse I think. Though even up until 2 days before he left me suddenly, he told me he loved me so much, he'd love me forever, and he needed me and would never leave me.

acapelo_dp Established Member

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Are you sure we didn't break up with the same person!

 

Haha, you never know! (jk)

 

But my ex had major anxiety/panic disorder issues and couldn't handle anything remotely negative, so it was probably for the best. I can't imagine what married life would be like with him! Phew, his future girlfriend is in for a surprise.

Toddbt12y1 Established Member

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LOL suppose there is no reason for me to say anything at all...well except this.

 

Or I could just be childish and for the sake of it...

 

 

 

 

She liked jumping on random dicks???

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arrowfoot Member

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That made me laugh for the first time In weeks.

 

HAHA, ditto.

soccerrprp Established Member

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She felt that I was a misogynistic bastard, "emotionally unavailable" and exceedingly cheap when it came to spending money ( on dates ).

 

She was absolutely correct.

 

LOL! :lmao:

NoMoreJerks Established Member

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Mine listed a whole bunch of them:

 

"I can't keep in a relationship while traveling so much for work." (code word for -- "I wanna bang lots of girls at every location that I visit, and being in a relationship makes me feel bad/guilty about doing that.")

 

"You're moody. You always try to start arguments. It's like a minefield." :rolleyes: (says the guy who made me walk on eggshells)

 

"You're needy." (says the guy who wanted to be the center of the universe and wanted to talk on the phone for hours every day whenever he felt down)

 

"I can't give you the attention you deserve." (yeah, cos he didn't want anything serious, just something light-hearted. he wanted the benefits , but not the responsibilities that come with a relationship)

 

"I don't have the same feelings for you that you do for me" (i.e. love) (narcissistic ass*ole who lacks empathy)

 

Not sure which of these it REALLY was all about, or if it was ANY of these to begin with.... probably something totally unrelated... that he did not even tell me about..

FailedFirstLove Established Member

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I can't even recall exactly the reasons he gave me.... There was just so many damn reasons I'm still confused.

First it was because of me. Too controlling demanding and had to have it my way.... Next it was he was comfortable up there and his friends and family... [probably needs to breast feed from his mum]

it all comes down to. His able to sleep in however he wants. Go out whenever. Doesn't have to really do anything. No one pushes him. His family doesn't give much about it. They just live off gov money so who gives right.

NoMoreJerks Established Member

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I forgot one more:

 

"You're selfish. It's always about you. All you care about are your needs. What about me?" (says the guy who kept pressuring me to do a threesome, who didn't even want to hear about my day, because it supposedly made him "feel stressed")....

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No reason. She just disappeared for a while and showed up with a new guy.

Leigh 87 Established Member

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I forgot one more:

 

"You're selfish. It's always about you. All you care about are your needs. What about me?" (says the guy who kept pressuring me to do a threesome, who didn't even want to hear about my day, because it supposedly made him "feel stressed")....

 

 

 

Man. It sounds like you were with a guy who literally did not give a sht about you!

 

Literally.. He sounds like he was not into you at all!

 

 

I hope you have learnt!!!!!!!! You deserve so much better.

 

How did you manage to stay with a man who didn't like you much?

 

I mean, surely there were signs?

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Harradin Established Member

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None.

 

The breakup email (that I'm positive she didn't even write) just said that she has "moved on" to my 'friend' and that they wanted to make my 'heartbreak go as smoothly as possible.' And when I asked her why, she couldn't give me a reason. Why I'm so positive she was manipulated by my 'friend.' No warning signs either that she was going to do it either.

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Man. It sounds like you were with a guy who literally did not give a sht about you!

 

Literally.. He sounds like he was not into you at all!

 

 

I hope you have learnt!!!!!!!! You deserve so much better.

 

How did you manage to stay with a man who didn't like you much?

 

I mean, surely there were signs?

Well..... he did not show that he was not into me at first.. the first 2 months were like a dream... so amazing... he even used to cook for me (and i for him), wanted to see me often, there were never any arguments, no criticism, etc. Then it all went downhill -- his true colours started to show... he would criticize me all the time, and I had to walk on eggshells all the time. he broke up with me at the 3 month mark.. then, when we got back together, it was never the same anyway, and it got even worse over time... i was just scared of saying anything, or not saying anything, of not texting hmi enough, and texting him too much.. and i never could find the golden mean / the right balance to keep him happy. I had fallen in love with him by the end of the 2 months, though, so I stuck around, and hoped that he'd love me at some point.. and I wondered if I really WAS to blame for the arguments, etc. I had no prior experience with relationships, and I thought that was the problem... and I thought I WAS needy, when in fact my needs were fairly normal/average , nothing extraordinary. I realize that only now, though, but not when I was still with him... He has narcissistic personality disorder. I am convinced of that, and nothing anyone tells me will convince me otherwise.

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Never got one. Basically just stopped seeing me. Everything was hunky-dory, I was getting attached, got scared and had a bit of a drunken freakout after a nice day with her. After that, nothing. I either a) made her feel like I was rejecting her and she just turned off or b) went too fast and emotional and turned her off that way. Doesn't really matter either way, I made my desire to spend time with her clear after that and she wasn't having it and now she's "trying to see if she can do better" to quote the words from mutual friends/acquaintances. So I'm letting her.

Toddbt12y1 Established Member

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I wonder if the picture she sent and lied about was her breakup? LOL, that wonderful picture she so kindly circled and drew an arrow confessing to "love" soso. Oh...wait I ended it. LOL...yay me! Seriously couldn't be ****ed anymore in that department

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arrowfoot Member

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None.

 

The breakup email (that I'm positive she didn't even write) just said that she has "moved on" to my 'friend' and that they wanted to make my 'heartbreak go as smoothly as possible.' And when I asked her why, she couldn't give me a reason. Why I'm so positive she was manipulated by my 'friend.' No warning signs either that she was going to do it either.

 

Scandalous, geez.

 

How did you know she didn't write it? Think the "friend" wrote it?

Harradin Established Member

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Scandalous, geez.

 

How did you know she didn't write it? Think the "friend" wrote it?

 

Wasn't her writing style if you understand what I mean, and yeah I do, it was pretty much my "friend's" writing style.

th90 Established Member

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"I don't feel the same anymore"

 

"It's different now"

 

"I'm not good enough for you"

 

"I really think you're better off without me"

 

Yup, he decided everything and I had no say at all.

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