a0009 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 My girlfriend of 19yrs dumped me saying she wants to experience other guys and we have dated for 8 months and all I know is that our sex was great but she has not had sex with many guys. I am serious with her and she made promise to be with me when she comes back from holidays. We were best friends before and I always help her alot. whenever she needs helps she always looks for my help. I want her and still loves her and i dont know how to react when she will be banging someone or if I go to a party and she hooks up with a random guy. The problem is that she we live on the same floor and take some classes together, we also have same friends and I really dont know how the semester will be like. she wants to be friends and am a nice guy and jealous by nature and i have been fighting my jealousy. She broke up with me by text and we have not talked face to face. What should I do because i still love her. she said she loves me during the break up..
Chi townD Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 (edited) Okay, well. That post was kinda all over the place. If she wants to break up, then there's nothing you can do about it. Sorry if that's not what you want to hear. However, she made a choice to have you out of her life. SHe fired you and said that your services as a boyfriend are no longer required. Therefore, you need to go completely NO CONTACT with her. Talk to the building supervisors at your school and see if you can get switched to another floor or an entirely different building would be better. Do you want to walk out of your room one morning on your way to class and you see some random dude walking out of her room buttoning up his shirt? You are not her friend. I'm sure you didn't get into a loving relationship with her to ultimately become nothing more than a friend to her. DO NOT ANSWER ANY TEXTS, PHONECALLS OR EMAILS!!! ANd you don't send any either. If she tries to text you stop and post here. If she tries to e-mail you, don't resapond and post here. If she tries to call you, let it go to voicemail and post here. Block her on Facebook, AND PLEASE DO THIS!!! Remember, she wanted you gone, so you give her exactly that. Let her know that her choices have consquences. Edited January 15, 2013 by Chi townD 3
LduKaZ Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 I agree with everything Chi Town said. Let her go man, she sounds like a dumb young whore. Some girls want to have a boyfriend, some girls want to **** a variety of men. I don't want to offend you, but she sounds like she wants to do the second. The worst thing you can do, is lose your dignity and respect too! Do not beg her, do not tell her you love her, do not text her asking her if she is ok. Tell her to go screw who ever she wants and never talk to her again... Either she will come back crying in a few months, or she will be even more of a slut.
Chi townD Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 And to tell you all of this over a text? Yeah, that shows a lot of class. Telling you that she's breaking up with you to bang other guys? Is that how much she values you? She values the possibility of bang other guys than being in a loving relationship with you. And she didn't even have the balls to tell it to you to your face! That's low and you deserve sooo much more than that.
Author a0009 Posted January 16, 2013 Author Posted January 16, 2013 (edited) Thanks for the advice. I can do that and my worry is how to respond to her when we are in class or when she comes to hang out with my roommate since she is close to my roommate. Plus I had made her a promise to be friends if we broke up anmd she text me that she really wants me to be her friend, as I said am a nice guy and I really care for her and my new years resolution was to be nice to everyone. Should I be friends with her Edited January 16, 2013 by a0009
Chi townD Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Thanks for the advice. I can do that and my worry is how to respond to her when we are in class or when she comes to hang out with my roommate since she is close to my roommate. Plus I had made her a promise to be friends if we broke up anmd she text me that she really wants me to be her friend, as I said am a nice guy and I really care for her and my new years resolution was to be nice to everyone. Should I be friends with her NO! NO! NO! NO! And how did she ask you all of this? Over text again? Okay, you made a promise. So, you shouldn't have to feel bad about breaking it. She broke hers when she said she wanted to be exclusive with you. To date only you. Now, how's that turning out for you? Look, if she throws that "promise of being her friend" in your face, just inform her that you can't be "friends" with her while you still have romantic feelings for her. That wouldn't be fair to you or her. If she can't understand that, then that's her problem. And I'm going to say it again. MOVE ROOMS! If you like your roomate, but if he's going to hang out with her. Sorry, get to know a new roomate. Hell, she probably has plans to screw him anyway. Do you want to walk in on that? You need to distance yourself from this girl. She made a choice. And for her, banging other dudes is more important than you. THAT'S how much you mean to her. Find your spine man!! That was hurtful, cruel, selfish and insulting.....and you want to be friends with someone that would treat you that way?
Author a0009 Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 She is coming back on Tuesday and I have some of her stuff and how shouls I behave and not end up in awkward situation. I am not as strong as I always think I am and I am so deeply in love with her even though she has done this to me. I know its hard for me to resist her.
Chi townD Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 She is coming back on Tuesday and I have some of her stuff and how shouls I behave and not end up in awkward situation. I am not as strong as I always think I am and I am so deeply in love with her even though she has done this to me. I know its hard for me to resist her. If she has a roomate, give her stuff to the roomate. Don't deal with your Ex at all. If she has a close friend, give the stuff to her. Don't deal with your Ex at all. NC, dude. All the way.
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