livelife Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 How funny is this. I first came to Loveshack to post about my ex from highschool. How upset I was. In reality, we were both very immature and have matured a lot. I told him we couldn't be friends and eventually I got over him. We have helped eachother with our most recent relationships and both are no longer with our exs. Over winter break, we both decided we needed to help eachother get over the exs. We hung out multiple times, and we ended up kissing, but nothing more. We are both 20 years old. Anyways, he recently admitted to having feelings for me again. And I kinda feel the same way. My only worry is that he will end up going back to his cheating ex girlfriend, although he says that he won't. He told me he was finally ready for something serious and was over all the random hookups. He always told me how good of a girlfriend I was to him and i've expressed my worry to him that he is going to just dump me like he did in highschool, but again, he admitted he was immature and was listening to his immature friends at the time. *He broke up with me because of spring break. I'm not making it easy for him, but I am curious where this will go. He did ask me in the future if I ever we would become boyfriend and girlfriend, if I would be against it and I said no I wasn't against it. Thoughts? I figured this might be hope to some people, as this is a prime example that yes exs do come back!!! Time apart is good. You need to mature and grow from the breakup and make it a new relationship if you do get back together. As for my NC update: I am 2 weeks NC with my current most recent ex boyfriend.
HARPER100 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 I guess the question you have to ask your self is 'do I trust him?' If you believe he has grown up and wants the same as you then why not give it ago.
Author livelife Posted January 16, 2013 Author Posted January 16, 2013 He lives at home by me, but goes to school 3 and a half hours away. I'm going to visit him this weekend and I guess we will see where things go. When it comes to trust, my trust is KILLED by my ex, so I don't really know if I can trust anyone at all. I'm sure his trust is ruined too from his cheating ex.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 I don't see a need to rush in this situation. You can both help each other and comfort one another as friends first. You both have issues that have not faded and is yet to heal. you don't know if these feelings are real yet. It maybe that he wants to find a replacement to get over his ex. Hence rebound. If this was to have a real chance of working take it slow.
Author livelife Posted January 16, 2013 Author Posted January 16, 2013 I don't see a need to rush in this situation. You can both help each other and comfort one another as friends first. You both have issues that have not faded and is yet to heal. you don't know if these feelings are real yet. It maybe that he wants to find a replacement to get over his ex. Hence rebound. If this was to have a real chance of working take it slow. We are definitely taking it slow, we both agreed we aren't ready for a relationship yet but we kinda agreed that we are "talking" I mentioned being a rebound to him and said I didn't want to be, and he said " you wouldn't, you were first, afterall." I still consider myself one, but as time goes on we shall see.
Author livelife Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Update: I went to visit him at his college 3 hours away with a friend. We stayed the weekend It was great. He had his arm around me, would just openly kiss me, hold my hand. We didn't sleep together. His PSYCHO cheating ex girlfriend blows up his phone because shes a super jealous girl. He has told me multiple times when i've asked if they're talking and he says no, she contacts him. and it's true she blows up his phone this weekend when I was there and he didn't reply. Well when I left today He told me that honestly she was in the back of his mind at times because he said he was really worried she would call or text him and just ruin his night. I got pissed off and told him okay I shouldn't have gotten involved, just back out before we go even further. and he kept constnaly saying "no trust me please i'm done with her, I get over her more and more each day it'll just take a couple more days for her to completely get out of my mind, but Im really happy where me and you are. and he kept saying I'm 100% happy with us, I promise you you have nothing to worry about." He paid for my dinner and drinks this weekend also. He texted me earlier saying he missed me and stuff. OBVIOUSLY i'm holding back and he knows that, but I can't help how much I'm starting to like him again. Thoughts?
itsmyfault Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I think you are right to take it slow, You yourself are only 2 weeks NC. When me and my Ex split (i broke it off, Seems I have suffered more) she got into a relationship with a friend from uni "because he helped her when she was down" She got into this relationship quite quickly, I'm sure she is happy and she knows what she is doing, but part of me thinks she rushed into it because he was someone else to cling onto. Just don't be the the person who has feelings that aren't meant for you, projected onto you.
Author livelife Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 I think you are right to take it slow, You yourself are only 2 weeks NC. When me and my Ex split (i broke it off, Seems I have suffered more) she got into a relationship with a friend from uni "because he helped her when she was down" She got into this relationship quite quickly, I'm sure she is happy and she knows what she is doing, but part of me thinks she rushed into it because he was someone else to cling onto. Just don't be the the person who has feelings that aren't meant for you, projected onto you. I can understand this. me and my ex (most recent one) essentially broke up in June, but kept talking and seeing eachother. Things were great September/October, november things went downhill and December we were done for good. January 1st he got a new girlfriend, and thats when I told him hes gotta quit sending me texts every now and then, quit talking to me all together. I don't wanna fake feelings for someone, so I'll see, but i'm worried about him and his ex. Do you think he sounds sincere to me?
Author livelife Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Well, his ex texted me today and ended up sending me screen shots of messages he sent her tonight. Safe to say i'm done with him. So is she. long story short pretty much. I'm extremely upset.Why?
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