ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Let me pose this question for everyone. Recently, I was talking to a good friend of mine and informed her how I dream and think of my ex everyday. I dont know when but at some point it doesn't bother me as much as it use to. Anyhow, I use to (probably still do to some extent) have my ex on a pedestal and she could do no wrong. I mean she was this perfect being which I dont think the real her can even live up to. I mean in my head I gave her qualities that I dont even think she possess. Anyhow, my friend suggested that when i'm better I should meet her and see that the person that is in my head is not who she is and it will make me feel better. To me, I think this is a dangerous game. I mean you may think that you are better and when you run into your ex all off a sudden you fall back to square one. I definitely dont want that to happen. What are peoples thoughts on this? Also, I have always been able to look at past pictures of her and not miss her. I dont know if that makes sense. I just see memories of us but not like hurting pain. Does that mean i've moved on? Sure doesnt feel like it.
LduKaZ Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 What your friend said could be true. It has happened to me before, specially after a break up you start thinking shes the most perfect thing on the planet lol. The key thing here is... DRUM ROLLS... Only try to see her and test it when you are happy with another woman. Do not even try to go close to her while you're still single and looking. It doesnt matter how good you think you are doing, if you havent replaced her you WILL go back to square one.
oracle Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 NO. That would be a mistake. I agree with your friend, but you won't come to that realization over one meet. One meet will send all the emotions flooding back.. you will get sucked in, things will be nice n easy etc. Not till you see the bad side...by then it will be to late Let me pose this question for everyone. Recently, I was talking to a good friend of mine and informed her how I dream and think of my ex everyday. I dont know when but at some point it doesn't bother me as much as it use to. Anyhow, I use to (probably still do to some extent) have my ex on a pedestal and she could do no wrong. I mean she was this perfect being which I dont think the real her can even live up to. I mean in my head I gave her qualities that I dont even think she possess. Anyhow, my friend suggested that when i'm better I should meet her and see that the person that is in my head is not who she is and it will make me feel better. To me, I think this is a dangerous game. I mean you may think that you are better and when you run into your ex all off a sudden you fall back to square one. I definitely dont want that to happen. What are peoples thoughts on this? Also, I have always been able to look at past pictures of her and not miss her. I dont know if that makes sense. I just see memories of us but not like hurting pain. Does that mean i've moved on? Sure doesnt feel like it.
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