tipsyleprachauns Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Here's something I never thought I'd say... 'She wasn't all that' So last couple weeks I met someone after several failed dating attempts, who I can genuinely say that stood next to my ex, makes her pale into insignificance. She likes me, I like her, and she is at first glances, everything I could have hoped for and more. Seems too good to be true. It. Feels. Incredible. It's like having just met 1 person I feel so lifted of so much crap off my shoulders. Even if it doesn't work out, the space of a couple weeks has completely changed the way I think about her. I feel free. Totally myself again. Just better. Catch is now - how not to screw this up with the new girl given my obvious excitement about having realized that there is far better out there! Gotta keep the head screwed down and just be me I guess. 2
Zammo25 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Here's something I never thought I'd say... 'She wasn't all that' So last couple weeks I met someone after several failed dating attempts, who I can genuinely say that stood next to my ex, makes her pale into insignificance. She likes me, I like her, and she is at first glances, everything I could have hoped for and more. Seems too good to be true. It. Feels. Incredible. It's like having just met 1 person I feel so lifted of so much crap off my shoulders. Even if it doesn't work out, the space of a couple weeks has completely changed the way I think about her. I feel free. Totally myself again. Just better. Catch is now - how not to screw this up with the new girl given my obvious excitement about having realized that there is far better out there! Gotta keep the head screwed down and just be me I guess. It sounds like it is based purely on looks and physical attraction. That will last exactly, let me see, 3 months ?
Mcnulty Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Ah, fantastic man, really pleased for you. Take it v. slow and be yourself, be honest with her and enjoy those happy shiny moments you describe! )
Keenly Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 It's nice to see that some of us can manage to attract some one we enjoy.
Zammo25 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 It's nice to see that some of us can manage to attract some one we enjoy. I am uncomfortable with him comparing the new one with his ex. Why do this ? They are individual people and I am sure his ex had good qualities as well. It is the wrong way to start things imo comparing to the ex and from what I read it seems she is better looking and that does not stay the course, you need more than that.
Author tipsyleprachauns Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 I am uncomfortable with him comparing the new one with his ex. Why do this ? They are individual people and I am sure his ex had good qualities as well. It is the wrong way to start things imo comparing to the ex and from what I read it seems she is better looking and that does not stay the course, you need more than that. So you can honestly say when you've met anyone you've never once though, this girl/guy is so much better than any before? Because theres a difference between comparing, and merely enjoying the fact that I've gotten out of a dump that someone put me in for best part of a year. For what it's worth, this new girl probably isn't quite as good looking. But she's so much nicer, respectful, caring, fun, honest, open, christian (important for me) and real. i'll take that any day and feel free to think what you will of it. I'm happy.
Zammo25 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 So you can honestly say when you've met anyone you've never once though, this girl/guy is so much better than any before? Because theres a difference between comparing, and merely enjoying the fact that I've gotten out of a dump that someone put me in for best part of a year. For what it's worth, this new girl probably isn't quite as good looking. But she's so much nicer, respectful, caring, fun, honest, open, christian (important for me) and real. i'll take that any day and feel free to think what you will of it. I'm happy. I have not found someone better than my ex and doubt I ever will.
Onionator Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Great to hear! Just some advice I'd give you from my mistakes is to not idolize her TOO much. A power imbalance like that is very unhealthy in a relationship, hopefully this experience has helped you realize that there are PLENTY of great females out there and if it doesn't work with one you will always find another. Enjoy your time with this girl and good luck.
Renard99 Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Glad it's happened to you mate! The same thing happened to me. Never thought it would happen, because I honestly thought my was great, but I actually met a girl who I felt was better in nearly every way. She made me feel comfortable not just with her but also with myself. It's a great feeling and it's good that you've managed to experience it. I don't feel comparing your current girlfriend with your ex is anything to be concerned about (unless you're not fully over your ex). The previous version of anything in your life is always the most recent experience that we can call upon and is therefore the most logical point for comparison. Take my car for example, I recently got a new one and the only thing I could compare it to was my previous one. I've had more cars than just those two, it was merely a case of going on my most recent experience.
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