WIDESTI Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 (edited) I will try to make this short but if anyone need details just ask! my fiance (23) and i (26) have been together for 2.5 years. We found out she was pregnant after dating for 2 months. Our son is now 20 months. As they say dad's don't mature and put things into perspective right away like moms, so I was a bit selfish (basketball league, gym, etc.) and didnt have my priorities straight. As time went on I slowly "grew up" and set priorities straight. But throughout those times we have had arguments. After a big argument the other day she wanted to take a step back and look at things. Her reasons for having doubt is she's been hurt and while she was trying I "wasnt". Now it's at the point where I feel so many things have happened she is rethinking things. Is this something we can fix by going to counseling? She wants to try counseling. I still love her the same as the day we first met and I want to provide for my family (we are in escrow on our house) Don't want to lose her so any advice would help. Edited January 15, 2013 by WIDESTI
Empath Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Don't let insecurity breathe fear into you. Stress and emotional suffocation can do more harm than arguing. Take the fact that she wants to fix things as a good sign, certainly enough of one to warrant enough confidence to shed a little fear. Drop the over-analysis and retrospective judgement. It serves no immediate purpose due to the fact that you are aware of them. Level the playing field, and install a general amnesty. Her reasons for having doubt is she's been hurt and while she was trying I "wasnt" Because, apparently, you aren't the only one who takes things for granted. I would suggest shaking off some stress and fear, and taking control of the situation with a smile. She wants counselling? Great. Go ahead and book it. Be pro-active, non judgemental, confident and supportive. Don't fixate on the downward spiral or you'll validate it, breathe life into it. Keep your head up and work on solutions instead of past realizations Sorry if I'm a little blunt. It's just my opinion!
PogoStick Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Absolutely try counseling. You both got in young and probably felt trapped by the pregnancy. You need to work through everything and find out if you both really want to be together.
Author WIDESTI Posted January 16, 2013 Author Posted January 16, 2013 I for sure want to work things out, but this isnt the first time she has wanted to break things off. This times seems more serious because she wants to go to counseling and right now we are talking and hanging out but no affection shown
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