Imported Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 If I were to date someone in the 20002 zip code, I'd yelp and search "date ideas" or just restaurants. I rarely do coffee dates or cheap dates as a first date. I also have never tried online dating and doubt I ever will. Anyway, I yelped Date ideas Washington, DC Didn't try too hard, #11 caught my eye and I'd go with that Bistro Cacao - Capitol Hill/Northeast - Washington, DC I think it is always a better idea to pick a place that serves a lot of different type dishes. I don't really consult the girl what place she wants to go to, but I won't just take her to a seafood only place or anything like that. Unless she wants to meet me there on her own, then I ask what area is good for her, but generally I push for her to let me pick her up. Some might think it is too expensive, trying too hard or whatever, but I actually do enjoy dressing up, going out with a gorgeous girl that is totally all dolled up and enjoying her company in a nice quite restaurant that we will be pampered in and I want to do it as a first date. This not some chick on the internet, I already met her in person and talked with her face to face and got a feel for her. Or we can go for brunch there and if the weather is warm, sit outside and she can wear a sexy looking summer dress. Love it when women wear dresses and they're probably not going to do that if you take them to Chillies. Seriously, if there is a good chance a place will have little kids running everywhere, don't go there. I'd checkout their menu, but I almost always have some kinda beef plate cooked rare or chicken breast and rice. I am not a wine expert and never try to pretend to be, I just get what drink I want which is usually Jameson on the rocks and leave it up to her to get what drink she wants and I'll make a mental note. Unless we got there in a cab, I only have 1 to 2 of those depending how long I plan to stay out. Even if we came in a cab, I never get **** faced or even close. I don't go out on random dates with women I never met before. It's not like I am doing this all the time. That place I picked here might be a little pricy, but not that bad. I have picked more expensive places and less expensive places. I just go for what looks nice to me. She'll probably enjoy herself and I want to give her a reason to dress up. In my experience, women like to dress up, it makes them feel sexy. Women that feel sexy..... 1
Aedra Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 (edited) I can't speak for every woman, but personally yeah, it kind of gets really annoying after a while. Whether a guy can plan stuff to do or not sometimes speaks volumes about his confidence level, his interest level in you or even his long-term planning abilities for when a relationship get more serious. Although I'm pretty sure that would apply to women too. I enjoy planning stuff to do with my man since I don't believe its always the man who should do everything, but I get tired of having to do it ALL THE TIME, it make me feel like he's not interested enough in me or really lazy. Assertiveness is good. With my ex it was always "I don't know" and it got more then dull after a while. I felt like I was wearing the pants and carrying a doormat with me everywhere. He would never, ever suggest anything. It was far from the main issue I broke up with him but I came to really dislike that trait of him. Anyways that's just my view. Edited January 17, 2013 by Aedra 1
PJKino Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 What some women in here are basically saying is what they offer in a relationsip is between their legs..if the man does most of the work there contribution is they dress sexy then reward him with sex 1
Michael Johnson Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 The situation was not implying a first date. It was more of a bf/gf situation. Referring to her as a possible "future wife", he presumably was impressed by her in some way. Women show interest in ways that many men fully appreciate. Ways that men really, really like You keep repeating women know how to impress in many fruitful ways. What are they, specifically, besides the sexist "reward him with sex" option?
Drseussgrrl Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 You keep repeating women know how to impress in many fruitful ways. What are they, specifically, besides the sexist "reward him with sex" option? We laugh at your dumb jokes, DUH.
xxoo Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 You keep repeating women know how to impress in many fruitful ways. What are they, specifically, besides the sexist "reward him with sex" option? I don't reward with sex. I revel in it. But sure, sharing her sexuality with a man is an important way women show interest! We don't tend to revel in it unless we are interested in the man. In addition to sex, women may share their time, talent, and treasure to show interest and impress a man. She can share her warmth and support, her adoration and respect. Some people refer to the 5 "love languages", which are as follows: words of affirmation acts of service receiving gifts quality time physical touch Any of those can be shown by either a man or a woman. Men and women, however, may differ in how much they feel loved by each of them. This whole thread is sexist, and I don't have a problem with that. Men and women commonly enjoy different roles in interpersonal relationships. That doesn't mean any individual should be forced into that role, but understanding how men and women generally tick can be helpful for people who struggle in dating. 1
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