TerpVet87 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 So it has been about two and half weeks since my ex cussed at me, told me she hates me, and then told me about how great sex was with her new boyfriend, a guy she met the week before, just three days after I told her I could never get back together with her. I started no contact after she told me this. I hadn't heard from her and was thinking this is the longest we have ever not talked before since we met a year and a half ago. Yesterday she emailed me at midnight and said, "Hey just wanted to say happy new year and go ravens. Hope you're doing well and adjusting back to being home." (for those of you outside the US the Ravens are a football team from Baltimore, near where we live) What is interesting about this also is that I blocked her email address and cell phone. I got the email from her cellphone number so she found a loophole around my blocks. This leads me to believe she had been trying to contact me and didn't get a response. So what's going on here? Is she laying in bed missing me? Did she burn through this rebound relationship? Or is she finally happy with this guy and wanted to leave things with me on a better note?
jovan Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Just forget it bro. You'll never know whats going on in her head, so why bother? your just hurting your self. Let it go mate. Its over and its time for you to start moving on. You will probably fall and hurt your self along the way, but at least you can do it with your head held high!
cavalier99 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 (edited) F*ch her. I cant think of anything more hateful than her telling you that stuff. Burn her out of your existence and never even give her the satisfaction of apologizing to you. Again..F her... I believe is the proper attitude. She is feeling guilty...so let her wallow in it..she just wants an ego boost and for you to clear her conscience. Totally selfish. She only deserves complete and piercing silence from you. Edited January 15, 2013 by cavalier99 1
na49 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 How ironic... two weeks ago she tells you how much she hates you. Then once the dust has settled, she's trying to be the "bigger person" and check up on you. I know that you want her to be laying in bed missing you. If she's screwing a new guy, she probably isn't doing that. You weren't a bad guy, so she'll see if she can relieve some guilt for what she did to you and reel you into her friend zone so that she feels better about things. Get emotional needs from you, and physical needs from the new guy. Don't fall for it. She doesn't like the idea that you went NC on her and want nothing to do with her. In her world, what she's doing is "mature" and "the right thing to do". It's BS. You do what's right for you. and what I think is right for you is to ignore and stay NC. 1
Author TerpVet87 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Thanks guys for the support. I wasn't planning on responding but it definitely helps strengthen my resolve hearing it from others. I honestly just feel sorry for her. A lot of people want to see their ex self destruct after a breakup but I hope she can work out her problems and be happy. It won't be with me though, she blew it. 1
ScienceGal Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 She is very emotionally immature. Yelling and telling you she hates you, but now tries to contact you, truly reflects this. And the fact that she moved on and is throwing her new sexual escapades in your face is cruel! This girl (she does not sound like a woman) has great capacity to harm you, and will clearly try if she sees fit. Not stable or reliable. I'd stay away from her.
cavalier99 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Additionally her contact wasn't even an apology. WTF..GO Ravens?? Stay hardcore NC..even if she does eventually apologise. Block that phone number in your email. 2
Chi townD Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 She's feeling guilty, she said some extremely mean things to you and it's getting to her. She wants to see where your head is at and see if you truely hate her for the comments she made to you. Nothing more. Nothing less. 1
sharkbite Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 i love that quote "if someone is willing to risk losing you from their life, let them" This girl is a joke. (no offense) i just say, people need to think their actions through and when they want to just go through life acting like they give a damn about whoever they are with when they know how easy it is for them to move on, be honest with the person you're in a relationship with. The title of boyfriend and girlfriend should be taken more seriously when your in your 20's and up its no longer just a fling or someone to go out with, if you give the titles it should be understood that you want something serious and if the feelings ever change you show the other person respect and sit down and have a civilized conversation.
mutant Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 So it has been about two and half weeks since my ex cussed at me, told me she hates me, and then told me about how great sex was with her new boyfriend I am all for going NC but in this case I recommend that you reply with a simple "fack off" every time she sends you a message or email. That way she will know that she burnt all bridges and there's nothing more to say.
arrowfoot Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 From what I've seen of female vs. male break ups, and being a woman myself, is that we can be quite fickle. It seems as though she wasn't quite sure about breaking up and then when you showed her you had self-respect and don't deal with immature spitefulness, she's realizing what she's lost. However, be warned; do NOT take this as a sign of possible reconciliation. She's just playing mind games with you. Either she has low self-esteem and simply wanted an angry reaction from you, or she's incredibly immature. Either way, you did a good thing by ignoring her attempts to break you.
Author TerpVet87 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Cav after I read your last post I thought of her coming to me, hat in hand being like "umm look I just wanted to say...uh about last week...you see uh...I said some things and um...go Ravens?" Haha made me laugh. Also I broke up with her originally. Then we talked about getting back together, went on a few romantic dates, talked about moving back in together, but she wanted me to marry her right away and when I told her to slow down we needed work she went nuts and told me she quits and three days later she meets the new guy, who is the polar opposite of me. I should have trusted my initial instincts and stayed broken up, then I would be healed instead of hurting now. I've also moved two and a half hours back to my hometown so that helps. I won't run into her and she can't show up at my door anymore. 1
cavalier99 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 (edited) Cav after I read your last post I thought of her coming to me, hat in hand being like "umm look I just wanted to say...uh about last week...you see uh...I said some things and um...go Ravens?" Haha made me laugh. Ha. I can see how the marriage ultimatum would be sort of a turn off while trying to just reconcile. She did have a good point though . ...at least about football. That game was F*ckin awesome! Edited January 15, 2013 by cavalier99
Author TerpVet87 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Hell yea it was. Next game will be great too. She doesn't even like football! It wasn't quite a marriage ultimatum. It was more like constant whining and pleading and asking me when when when. Finally I was like I'll tell you when NEVER!
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