gapeach0813 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Hi, ive been with my fiance for 10 years and here lately our relationship hasnt been what it supposed to be. He works a 8 to 5 job at a fire department so hes usually home by 6 but over the past few days hes been gettin home at 10pm, he had on street clothes on when he came home not his uniform and had a wet towel as if he took a shower at work (but when he got home he took another shower). when i noticed him gathering his thing for work the next day i noticed he was putting a pair of boxers and an extra shirt in his bag, so i guess my question is what the hell is he up to?
BetrayedH Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 There's not a lot to go on there. That said, your gut is telling you something is off and sadly, our gut is usually right. If you want to check for some of the typical easy things to spot, I would look at his internet history, his phone/text records, and your financials for anything that stands out. How is he with his phone? Does he leave it lying around without password protection or is it locked and always on him?
mitchell Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Going to the gym and working out after work? Why don't you ask him?
Author gapeach0813 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 yeah he goes to the gym when he gets off work but he comes home to take a shower and he has on gym shorts when he gets home and last nite he had on khaki cargo shorts..his phones been goin off more than usual but he doesnt have it on him all the time and its always been locked. idk maybe im being paranoid but somethin seems off.
Spark1111 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Follow your gut. Can you get ahold of his cell phone records without him knowing? Can you follow him? Do NOT talk yourself out of your intuition, but do not inform him either. Does he give a lame reason for coming home in street clothes after the gym? 1
SmokeRat Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Hi, ive been with my fiance for 10 years and here lately our relationship hasnt been what it supposed to be. He works a 8 to 5 job at a fire department so hes usually home by 6 but over the past few days hes been gettin home at 10pm, he had on street clothes on when he came home not his uniform and had a wet towel as if he took a shower at work (but when he got home he took another shower). when i noticed him gathering his thing for work the next day i noticed he was putting a pair of boxers and an extra shirt in his bag, so i guess my question is what the hell is he up to? A couple of things, since I am in the fire service. 1). He works 8-5 at a Hall? That's an odd shift for a firefighter, since nation wide most Halls do 12hr rotating, or 24 rotating shifts. Is he a firefighter? 2). It is not uncommon for firefighters shifts to fluctuate. It's part of the job, now if he's a dispatcher, then I can understand the questioning of the hours. Again, I do not know your situation. 3). The only times I come home in uniform, are when I'm in a hurry or something is going down at home. I normally like to change out of my uniform and get into my civilians at the end of my shift. 4). As for the extra clothing. I always have a bag full of extra shirts, boxer-briefs, socks and pants with me while I am on shift. Nothing worse than getting a scene and getting covered in something that isn't pleasant. That said, if your gut is telling you something is up, it's best just to confront the person. I never had the chance to confront my wife about her infidelity, as I was granted the priviledge of simply walking in on it while it was happening. Sit your SO down and explain your concerns. I'd say it would be a more effective approach than going on the offensive right away with spying and whatnot. But I can understand the want to find out right away.
drifter777 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 yeah he goes to the gym when he gets off work but he comes home to take a shower and he has on gym shorts when he gets home and last nite he had on khaki cargo shorts..his phones been goin off more than usual but he doesnt have it on him all the time and its always been locked. idk maybe im being paranoid but somethin seems off. According to you in this post: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/366521-tryin-my-fiance-move-my-affair You cheated on your fiancé and he has not forgiven you and does not trust you. Are you really so confused as to why he might be seeing someone else and getting ready to dump you? As I said on that thread: It seems you have laid the groundwork for a horrible marriage and I can't believe either of you want to go through with it.
Author gapeach0813 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 im not confused as to why he would do it just wanted a little outside perspective and we're not gettin married anytime soon and dont know if we will or not but we're still working on our relationship
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