i can't wait For You to get over me so we can be friends ?????????

[HeartBrkenGal]

this is something my ex recently said to me he msg read he loves me im beautiful, funny and all that other stuff. blaaaa he just doesnt feel the same way and has fell out of love with me months ago. after a year relationship.

 

and has recently started seeing somebody else after seeing and being intimate with me only 10 days ago i said to him ur offering friendship to let me down slowly and so u dont feel guilty.

 

What i wanna know do men actually want to be friends? why is he saying this?

 

does he mean it ?

 

and we dont really have mutual friends so i dont see how it would work.

 

what do you think ??

[Toddbt12y1]

I think he is going to play you, and play you darn well. He is doing you(ten days ago?)...and has the other girl. He is keeping you around as a backup, maybe action on the side. I wouldn't play his game.

 

Sometimes friendships can happen. I doubt this is one of them.

[HeartBrkenGal]

thanks for the reply he is so sincere in how he says it to me make me think he does just want a friendship but say the feeling have gone tbh. but i told him to give me closure to tell me that he doesnt want to to be with me and will never love me again.

 

and he wouldnt say it

 

and i said i will just have to find the right guy next time and his reply to that was i dont think you need to find somone else mby just keep busy ? confused thank you for taking your time to reply

[HeartBrkenGal]

also he said he doent know what it is yet with this new girl but it was enuf to leave me i guess but our relationship was sort of casual never titled as a couple just sorta was

[HeartBrkenGal]

anyone had somthing like this happen to you ????????

[Toddbt12y1]

He still sounds like he is playing you. He is telling you, he doesn't love you. Then refusing to admit he does or doesn't.

Of course he is going to say he doesn't know about this girl yet. He is trying to confuse you. It is working sweetheart. Look, he doesn't want you to moveon. No more booty calls for him(hopefully), if you did.

 

Do not play to this act. Sorry for the late response.

[flitzanu]

it's very simple. you slept with him 10 days ago, and he wants to keep you around to bang in case this doesn't work out with the new girl. he already told you he's over you and is with a new person, you're trying to hold on to hope that he's going to change his mind if you stay friends with him.

 

he isn't. that's not what is going to happen.

[HeartBrkenGal]

its okiii i get the same responce everytime i need to move on even i know this but i wont be going there for it again lol

 

funny thing is i want him in my life as a friend it might not be now but maybe later but its earli days for me just have to no contact him thank youu

[Toddbt12y1]

...How old are you? I don't get wanting to be friends with someone who uses you...

[HeartBrkenGal]

im 22 this is my first real love which explains alot as people tell me.... i pushed him to have sex if anything to prove that he still want to ..... sounds bad but it was to prove that what he said about losing love for me was wrong but at the end of the day he's a man and is not gonna turn down sex i call it sex coz thats what it was

 

i even said during that i felt uncomfortable as i was thinking about the fact he met somone new and asked him how he felt after it and he said he didnt feel weird...

 

he's not a playerr.. but i do think he is torn and about a month ago told me to make him miss me ?

 

i could talk about this all day thank god for this site but i know what i have to do its just putting it into action that i struggle with

[Toddbt12y1]

I understand the hardships of it all. First love and all.

 

Just don't give him your body anymore. If he doesn't want the heart, then no on the body. A Guy never turns down sex(rarely). Sex is no way to fix things or show love(,I have been down that road..)

 

Well he is using you and probably this other girl he's with. It isn't fair to her. It isn't fair to you. Ofc he will feel comfortable with what he's done...what he's wanted.

 

He is your first love. They rarely work...You should find a better lover.

[HeartBrkenGal]

thanks for all your replys to me made me feell like it not the end of the world out off alll the advice i have had this one hit me the most he is my first Love THAT doesnt not mean last. thank you again im gonna start it todayy i hope he dont text. thankss

[Toddbt12y1]

Awww you seem like such a doll!! I love how you type, it is Soo adorable!! I can't stand but say it!!

 

Um...anyway. I hope he doesn't either. I am sure a pretty young lady such as yourself can find your special someone soon! I hope he doesn't text. If he does just talk to us not him. Stop you from responding! I just wanna tickle you! I've always had a soft spot for this type

[arrowfoot]

My ex said this to me and I felt two things:

The first being completely heartbroken because it sounds as if he's completely moved on from us. The second feeling is flabbergasted; why the **** would you say that!?! It was a if he was TRYING to make me feel terrible.

 

My understanding of this (lame) offering of friendship is that he has no idea how much I'm hurting and is very selfish and inconsiderate.

 

"Hey, can you just suck up all those old feelings for me? I know I shattered your heart into pieces but don't be dramatic. I want to be friends! Get over me already so I can use your friendship as a crutch to alleviate my guilt and move on to another girl."

 

Run. Run far away. He's being a selfish D-bag and you need to tend to your wounds. My further advice to you is to initiate NC; he has shown through his callousness that he is not considering your feelings beore opening his mouth.

 

So don't cater to his any longer. He doesn't deserve to even know what your thinking.

[LduKaZ]

From a guy point of view:

 

We can only be friends with someone we don't have feelings for anymore, or someone who we want to keep as a backup.

 

If a guy broke up with YOU, and he says he wants to be friends, it's because that will make HIM feel better. I have said it in the past to girls I wasn't attracted to.. It's kind of a way to walk out on someone, and feel like you are still such a nice guy offering her your friendship, and still get your texts begging him. Its true, its HORRIBLE, but its an EGO boost.

 

My advice? Tell him to go and stick it in his own ass!!!

[HeartBrkenGal]

Arrowfoot thanks you have had the same deallings and telling what happened to you abit

 

God i hate being the one that has to move on and have a hard time over it my ex even said i wish i could change things?? well he could of made this allot easier and told me sooner waiting to find sombody else to move on to.

ldukaz thanks for the male point of view im 50 50 i feel like he doesnt have them feelings but i feel that he does too but he's obv more intrested in pursuing this other person

so im done Nc it is

i hope he it all fails with the new person like a nasty person and karma hits him hardd. from a male point of view have you ever tried to be friend later on and its worked?