Panda87 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 I did make myself to be busy, go out with friends, exercising, vacation. But i still cant stop thinking about her, its been 1 month... Its so hard to be happy again, i keep telling myself i need to be happy on my own, treat myself well. Respect myself, which i did. But i still feel the pain so badly, keep torturing myself everyday... I really need to stop it now, im tired
TaraMaiden Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Can you take some time off work, and go on sick leave for a week or so....?
HaveFaithxx Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 One month isn't very much time. I am at 6 weeks now, but a few weeks ago, the pain was unbearable. Just try to be around friends as much as possible. What works for me is that I write down a list of goals, fir example: 1) get perfect bikini bod before summer 2) Start planning for trip to Nepal in summer (so I buy a guide book) 3) Play tennis once a week with a friend etc. I hang my goals up on the mirror in the bathroom and on the fridge. The next thing I do is go on a shopping spree, get my haircut and buy expensive perfume. Go to the spa and pamper myself. Another thing I do is I ask my friends to write down a few of my best qualities. I put it on a list and also hang it on my fridge. And as soon as I think about him and feel sad, I say to myself: "It's his loss, I am (then I think of some of the qualities from the list on the fridge).
MyAngel Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Hi panda. I know you're thinking that it's been a month, you should be over it by now, but sometimes the heart takes longer to heal than you would like. It's been a month for me too and I'm still very upset and hurt. I'm not rushing through my emotions, I guess I'm just waiting for it to pass on its own. It will get better eventually.
Kubda26 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Keep keeping yourself busy. You don't realise it, but in the long run it does help. By keeping occupied, you have more of a chance of keeping your mind off her and not pine for her. One month isn't that much time in the whole scheme of things, so don't be too hard on yourself. Process all of your emotions, time will always help.
Author Panda87 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Hi Tara, i will be on 2 weeks leave next month. Cant wait for that, i just dont know why i cant stop the pain... Even at this stage, i alr fully accept that its over, i dont want her in my life anymore. The pain suddenly pop out of nowhere
Author Panda87 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Hi faith, thanks alot for encouragement. Really appreciate it, trust me i do everything to love myself. Smile everyday, talk to friends and my family, i know i just need to be patient and accept it will get better. Just cant wait for that day to come, the day when i look at her i feel nothing... fyi, she is my coworker, sit just behind me... Her laugh eat my confidence everyday
Author Panda87 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Hi my angel, thanks for the advise. Yes, i guess seeing her everyday make it longer for me to heal... Hope we all can go through this and be happy again. I just want the old happy and single me back...
Author Panda87 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Hi Kubda, i believe time will heal all wounds. I guess you are right, maybe im punishing myself by wanting to delete this emotions fast. Maybe also because this is the first time someone that i really love let me go and move on easily... I guess Break up with someone that you know u are not gg to meet them again is easier than break up with someone that you know you are gg to meet them everyday... Got to force myself everyday to be strong in front of her
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