blueman Posted August 21, 2004 Posted August 21, 2004 so here is the deal my ex ( who is 18) dumped me (who is 19) about a month go. We had been together for 2 and a half years. We had minimal contact and i made the mistake of begging for her back 3 times. Then i slowly got over it and started doing my own thing. About a week before school started we worked things out so we could be friends. You see we have a class together every day and we didn't want it to be uncomfortable. So we worked things out and about two days before class started she called and asked if i was going to the pool with all of my friends and hers. I said yes and she requested that i pick her up because she wanted to go with me. I said ok and picked her up we joked alot in the car and had a great time and i made no comments about our old relationship. We get to the pool and as we are swimming with everyone she keeps making eye contact with me and giving me this look and its the kind of look i know very well because its the look she gave me for like 3 months before we ever went out. After i asked her what the look was that she was giving me and she said u know the look i don't need to explain it. After the pool i am driving her home and we are talking about a friend of mine that screwed me over and as i am discussing this she proceeds to give me a neck rub. Then she says how weird and hard it is for her to be in my car with me and not touch me or kiss me. She got really sad and held my hand the whole way home. I dropped her off and the next day it was like a total 180 she told me we shouldn't talk to much and we shouldn't hang out to much. She said she thinks i am hot and she has feelings for me but she also is in the mind set that once u breakup u can never go back out. I am wondering if the signs she is giving me are nothing or if i just keep being her friend and being the guy i am she might come back to me? I am not waiting for her and moving on but what do i make of her actions? thanks
applesouce Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 19 is too young unless you're in west virginia and you know you're just not going to have that many options. just have a lot of break-up sex. a lot. totally the best kind. get high beforehand. even better.
Author blueman Posted August 22, 2004 Author Posted August 22, 2004 lol thanks for the post its nice to laugh once in a while. I think i should just have drunk sex with her then her sister and then her friends. but sriously someone please help explain what my ex is doing to me.
genetic Posted August 22, 2004 Posted August 22, 2004 alright this is an easy case, rule of thumb if you guys have broken up and gotten together 2 times then screw it literally in your case the sign she gave you is shes attached to how u physically look and thats all physical but in all good thinking go out with her again you will break up again
Author blueman Posted August 23, 2004 Author Posted August 23, 2004 thing is before we had a physical relationship we were very good friends. i dont know i miss her so much
genetic Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 sure u miss her i get u man dont get me wrong ... i miss my gf to death and she just broke up with me .... but in the end its a 2 ways street if she chose something respect it in the end and dont do the mistake i' m doing trying to get back with my ex its a mistake
steve3536 Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 Hey, yea women are pretty messed up when it comes to having feelings for their ex. Im 21 and my ex is 19. we were together for 3 yrs and we broke up last october. Believe me man, and i guarantee every one here will tell u the same. if u try and get back with her your only lining your self up for a kick in the b***s. Dont get me wrong or anything i know how u feel!! one day their giving u looks and being touchy feely. The next they cut u in 2 with a look. Ive being trying to sort things out with her since janurary, so in the mean time shes bein seeing som1 else and telling me she has feelings. What a load of crap. We were friends to for a year b4 we started goin out. she said she still wants to b friends, but ill be honest i still have feelings for her. Do u still feel the same for this girl?? but in my case as of from today im finally pullin the plug on o 4 & a half year relationship. lad i think u should leave it for a while. Im not sayin u should do what im doing and pull the plug. Im just givin u my experience and if i could e-mail u the feeling of Pain ive gone through id do it. Just take some time out and go with the flow. your dead rite by not waiting and movin on. There will be a lot more of these looks she will give u!!! Just thread carefully!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
manofmystrey Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 blueman everyone that has offered u advice is 100 percent right. I just got out of a 7 year relationship. The girl and I were friends since we were kids. Anyway things happned and when we broke up she was like i still love you and i miss you and i need time and all that other garbage you could think of. Then she does a 180 and sends me a email telling me she hates me and that she blames me for her brothers suicide and that she is with someone else and then she is like i still love. I have not talked to her since Jan and at first it hurt like there was no tomarrow but i realized one thing, by going after her to get her back i was setting my self up for a lot of pain. just remember if she did not want to be with u then what are the gaurentees she wont leave u later and what would be worse is if u are married or start a family. Trust me take ur time and dont rush into anything. I met a nice girl this weekend and for the first time in a long time i have hope. keep ur head up and do what u have to do for u and the right person will come along. Everything happens for a very good reason. Plus u are 19 dude u should be having fun not settling down in a long term relationship unless u know u have the right girl for u.
Author blueman Posted August 23, 2004 Author Posted August 23, 2004 i appreciate all the posts and u r all right on thanks. Last night me and my 4 buddies were working out at like 11 pm and as i was going to get a drink this girl waves at me. I lok and realize first that she is gorgrous and second i know her. She used to work with me and when she said hi she ave me a huge hug and was all over me. Turns out she is a model right now!!!!!!!! sheinsisted for my # and said we have to go to dinner a movie and then get drunk at my house. i was like so yea that was a definite ego booster. i am moving on so f*&%k this ex crap and i just hope she realizes one day what she lost thanks again for the feedback i appreciate it
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