thembones Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 So I got curious when I was shopping on Amazon to just what my ex had on her wish list. I don't look at FB or Twitter, but I just had an inkling to see what she wanted for Christmas. She dumped me 5+ months ago. On her wish list was the engagement ring and wedding band she wanted. Now, the reason she left me was because it took me too long to ask her to marry me. There is more to it than that, but that's the story she's sticking to. Also, she knows I had a ring 2 months before she left me. If you really want to fall asleep, read my other posts for backstory. So, anyone got ideas why she wouldn't have cleared that out?
FailedFirstLove Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 She hasn't been on amazon or thought oh I should go clear my wish list? If I want something I wouldn't clear it off. One day I wud want it again. Saves me having to search again 1
stevie_23 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Yeah, I’d say she just hasn’t been on there or been bothered to clear it. My ex still has his email account he used to use just for me, and still has all the Youtube videos up that he did for me during our time together. He still has me as his only “friend” on a songwriting forum we’re both on, and has me as one of his many friends on another songwriting forum he’s on. I know none of this means anything at all, because if he wanted to be with me he would talk to me and he hasn’t for almost 6 weeks now. It’s simply that he feels no need to erase all of that.
Author thembones Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Sorry I forgot to mention that she had added like 6 things around Christmas. I know it's still probably nothing, but if I had those in my wish list in my situation, they'd be long gone..
stevie_23 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Hmm. To be completely honest, in that case it could be either… She is getting engaged soon,She is living in a fantasy world and misses being with someone and since she wanted to get engaged before, while she was with you, she still wants to but just not with you (or anyone in particular), ORShe is still stuck on that aspect of your ex-relationship and likes to dream.
MyAngel Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Maybe she still loves that style of ring as wants it for when she does get engaged? Her style is unlikely to change now that she is not with you. It would be different if you actually bought the rings, then she'd choose something else. But as they were not purchased its not too much of a big deal?
Author thembones Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 [*]She is living in a fantasy world and misses being with someone and since she wanted to get engaged before, while she was with you, she still wants to but just not with you (or anyone in particular), OR [*] Funny you mentioned that, as it really makes sense. I think she just wanted to be engaged to be engaged. She had this plan of when to be married, have kids, etc. A lot of her friends got engaged recently (after short relationships) and i know she was jealous a bit. I think the idea of being engaged was more powerful than actually being engaged. That's interesting from an outsider's point of view.
Author thembones Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Maybe she still loves that style of ring as wants it for when she does get engaged? Her style is unlikely to change now that she is not with you. It would be different if you actually bought the rings, then she'd choose something else. But as they were not purchased its not too much of a big deal? No I told her i got a ring different than the rings she had listed. It was similar but much nicer.
Own Worst Enemy Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 can you hear that massive swoooooosh? i think it's the bullet you dodged. seriously. if any of my male friends met a girl who had engagement rings on her amazon wish list, they'd run a mile!
CarrieT Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 I'm more shocked that a woman would pick an engagement ring from Amazon... :eek::eek: 1
flitzanu Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 i probably have dildos picked out for an ex gf 2 years ago on my amazon wish list. so basically, who cares, i don't think cleaning out an amazon wish list is high on the priority or meaningfulness list of breakups. you're really trying to find some reasoning that isn't there.
Author thembones Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 can you hear that massive swoooooosh? i think it's the bullet you dodged. seriously. if any of my male friends met a girl who had engagement rings on her amazon wish list, they'd run a mile! Haha heard that before. Its sad because its what I wanted too. But I probably dodged a slug.
stevie_23 Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Actually, that’s true, the comment about a woman picking an engagement ring on Amazon. I mean, what sane woman would risk buying an engagement ring and not even being able to see it and try it on and stuff!? This is why I think it’s a fantasy of her’s. She has this wish list of rings that obviously she won’t be actually buying (though she may pick them out on Amazon and then go and look at them in “real life” if they’re available), but more so, I stand by my opinion that she’s just stuck on the idea of being engaged, way more than what she thinks would be the reality of it. 1
Author thembones Posted January 16, 2013 Author Posted January 16, 2013 The reason they were on her list was so that she could tell me what she wanted. Not that she would buy them on her own. Ridiculous isn't it? She emailed me a link to her wish list awhile back and "hinted" (if you could call it that) that this was the ring she wanted. I thought she deserved better than a $400 amazon ring personally.
LduKaZ Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 The reason they were on her list was so that she could tell me what she wanted. Not that she would buy them on her own. Ridiculous isn't it? She emailed me a link to her wish list awhile back and "hinted" (if you could call it that) that this was the ring she wanted. I thought she deserved better than a $400 amazon ring personally. Nothing to do with the topic. But yeah, the old etiquette rule usually states you need to spend at least 3 months worth of your salary on the ring. Not a real rule but if girls knew this we would all be in deep trouble. lol Sorry for spamming your post, I just thought it was an interesting fact to share. But I think like everyone else that you did dodge a bullet, you might need to spend more on a ring with the next one, but at least she'll be worth it.
stevie_23 Posted January 16, 2013 Posted January 16, 2013 Personally, I wouldn’t care how much my ring was worth (engagement or wedding ring), as long as it was something I loved from my future husband, who I would love very much. I’d ideally choose a few not too expensive ones from him to choose from. I would NOT go onto Amazon though. I’d need to see them in person. Frankly, I find it ridiculous, the whole wedding thing. The point of a wedding is that you’re getting married to someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with – NOT so you can spend $50,000 on flowers, food, entertainment, rings, and dresses. I’d prefer to use the money I saved on more inexpensive rings and a dress on my honeymoon, to have an amazing experience travelling with my man! Memories last longer than a dress you wear once. 1
Author thembones Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 Thank you all for the great responses. The more time that passes, I do think I dodged a bullet more and more. I should have listened to my brother-in-law sooner. It just makes me realize how much she was into the idea, whoever the hell it was with.
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