winstonsdreams Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Well i have been doing exceptionally well, unlike others on here i have been following strict NC and moving on, very slowly. i don't know how long it's been since we broke up, i don't know how long she has been with her new bloke, whatever i guess. But last night i had a really messed up dream that has put her back on my mind today. It was a sexual dream which is stranger still. I Thought the best thing would be to vent on here. I can honestly say this break up has been my worst, but i won't dare break NC. All the advice I have received has taught me well. I still care, I probably still love her, i know i do actually but i have to move forward, my progress has been amazing. I am slowly getting out there and have a whole bunch of new goals i have set for this year. The show must go on..
LduKaZ Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Dreams are only a representation of your subconscious. Sometimes we like to think that it is only the heart that misses a person, but the body does too. Those chemical reactions (or sudden stop of them) will produce many weird effects, and dreams are one of them. During my last breakup, the worst ive ever been through, I had dreams of my ex almost everyday for months... I dont remember most, but one of them was a sexual dream where I saw my ex havimg sex with her ex. I woke up and almost puked. Another bad one happened after watching the Hunger Games. I dreamt that in order to save my ex I had to go through all this obstacles where I saw my family and friends die. Absolutely horrendous how our brain works sometimes... But remember, its only a bunch of stupid chemicals!!!
Gingerxr2 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Over the last week I've been having dreams about my ex every night , luckily not sexual ones , but ones where she's laughing at me almost like she thinks it funny that we split ? Every dream has her in it atleast once
SuperGeek Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 It's been awhile since my break but I can still dream about her very rarely. At this point I'm mostly indifferent, so the dreams can be very interesting and not as painful as they were in the beginning. Some of the dreams have been good ones recently. I have been in full no contact for years and so I have no idea what the ex is doing and I keep it that way. So if i do dream about her, my brain makes up all kinds of weird stuff. It's easy to dismiss it because it's just chemicals as someone else already mentioned. Sometimes I do get curious and wonder what she is doing now, but I know that it is better off that I stay away and have zero knowledge. Nothing could be gained by researching her at this point or checking up on her life via the internet etc. That would be a step backwards and I'm moving on up!!! SuperGeek 1
Author winstonsdreams Posted January 17, 2013 Author Posted January 17, 2013 Good call SuperGeek it is much better to stay NC. I just have to remember it's just stupid chemicals then! It was a sexual dream which was not cool. I thought i was on my way to indifference but i guess not there yet. Ginger i totally used to have those dreams where my ex laughed and mocked me, they were horrible. But after a long period of NC i became indifferent and we talk again occassionaly, just need to remember the lessons i learnt from last time! Stupid brain haha!
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