Fondue Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Long story short, I know this lady whom has fancied me for a few months now. I don't exactly work with her, but we we work along the same "project," so to speak. I see her about once to twice a week for ~45mins. She always sent me signals and made somewhat sexual remarks at me. I kind of shrugged them off as I don't really dig her in the same way, but there is intrigue. The other day, I gave her my phone#, she texted me a few times, I texted back. Nothing major. I saw her today, and she was rather aggressive. She made more sexual commentary and I kind of laughed it off. Anyway, after work, when I got home, I got a little bit horny and decided to send her a text. I was pretty ambiguous, stating that maybe we should hang out "so to speak" and that I am not just misreading her signals, I just chose to ignore them. She didn't get back to me right away, so I "took care of business," and my horniness went away. I suppose she just got my text message a few minutes ago and she just blew up my phone with like 8 texts and a missed call. All int he matter of about 10minutes. Stating I should tell her what is on my mind and that I just "need a push" and that we should "hang out." I suppose she is up to "play," but I don't really want that anymore. I am no longer horny and I don't desire her in that way anymore. I dunno if I should ignore her and then see her next week in person, or do what. I think I got her overly excited over nothing. What do I do?
carhill Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Hell hath no fury like a swollen clit denied You have to ask yourself....what would a woman who was approached sexually by a man she had little to no attraction to do? Just because you're a man doesn't mean you're required to 'service' females who approach you sexually or find you attractive, any more than you're required to service them emotionally. Do what you want. If that's nothing, it is. 1
TheZebra Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Poor girl is probably extremely confused. In her mind she's thinking 'oh this guy talks to me, he gave me his phone number, he texts me, and OMG he even suggested we hang out!' In the future, if you know she wants you but you don't feel the same way, do let her know. Don't lead her on. It's not fair for her. 3
Author Fondue Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 I kind of feel bad that I gave her a little bit of hope with that previous text, suggesting we do meet up. But now that I don't feel that urge any more, all that went away. Now she's blowing up my phone! Worst part is, I have to see her next week. If I ignore her, it'll be awkward. If I don't, I have to let her down gently somehow. EDIT: The girl made it a point to mention she's been sexually starved lately and needs assistance in that department. I mistanekly gave her the idea that I may be available for that, hahaha. I feel like this is not the position I want to be in anymore.
april38 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 If you feel you led her on, and it was a mistake, I think you should say something, not just blow it off and leave her hanging. At the bare minimum you should probably send her a text letting her know you're aware that you led her on, but you think it was the wrong thing to do and you just want to be friends. If she tries to investigate further, you could even make something up like you're uncomfortable getting involved with people from work or something. It may not be totally honest, but it's better than saying/doing nothing.
Lani Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Dude, this isn't cool. You have to do the right thing and tell her what you did. Deal with the consequences on this one, and learn your lesson. 1
TheZebra Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 At this point just tell her. Say you were thinking it over and while she's a nice girl you just don't see her that way. Be curt, but be nice.
ascendotum Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 EDIT: The girl made it a point to mention she's been sexually starved lately and needs assistance in that department. I mistanekly gave her the idea that I may be available for that, hahaha. I feel like this is not the position I want to be in anymore. No ****ing ambiguity there. When you say I am not interested anymore because you "took care of business", that just means not interested for just today...right?? You don't want to schedule a get together for a couple of days time or Friday after work?
Author Fondue Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 No ****ing ambiguity there. When you say I am not interested anymore because you "took care of business", that just means not interested for just today...right?? You don't want to schedule a get together for a couple of days time or Friday after work? The thing is, I don't know. I think I accidentally fed her that interest is because I was in a temporarily in lust and was horny this afternoon. Too much so, that I decided to see if I can relieve that with her. So I texted her, clearly sending out an invitation for that sort of junk, or to even discuss the possibility in the near future. When she didn't reply soon enough, I simply took care of it myself. Post orgasm, I thought, "Hahha, why did I even want her in the first place?" And no longer care for wanting to be with her. I couldn't just undo what I sent to her. If I could turn back time, I would. So I am not sure if I will feel that again in the future. Maybe, but I don't think it is enough to want it on a regular basis, it seems to be in moments of slight desperation.
SOLACEMENT Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 (edited) Won't you get horny again at some point? Lol... Tell her what you did "My dick needed a-wetting and you were a trigger finger away. My finger did the job of contacting you but then I met my hand, I no longer need you" Edited January 15, 2013 by SOLACEMENT
D-Lish Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 You waved a scrap of food at a hungry dog, then ate it yourself. I think you can expect to get bit the next time you see her:lmao:. 2
FitChick Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 An easy way out is to tell her you don't believe it's a good idea to date co-workers. If she says she will keep a secret, tell her people always find out. They do.
Emilia Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Anyway, after work, when I got home, I got a little bit horny and decided to send her a text. I was pretty ambiguous, stating that maybe we should hang out "so to speak" and that I am not just misreading her signals, I just chose to ignore them. She didn't get back to me right away, so I "took care of business," and my horniness went away. I suppose she just got my text message a few minutes ago and she just blew up my phone with like 8 texts and a missed call. All int he matter of about 10minutes. Stating I should tell her what is on my mind and that I just "need a push" and that we should "hang out." I suppose she is up to "play," but I don't really want that anymore. I am no longer horny and I don't desire her in that way anymore. I dunno if I should ignore her and then see her next week in person, or do what. I think I got her overly excited over nothing. What do I do? Ah this is a classic. If a woman was posting this she would be called an attention whore. What to do what to do? 2
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 (edited) Long story short, I know this lady whom has fancied me for a few months now. I don't exactly work with her, but we we work along the same "project," so to speak. I see her about once to twice a week for ~45mins. She always sent me signals and made somewhat sexual remarks at me. I kind of shrugged them off as I don't really dig her in the same way, but there is intrigue. The other day, I gave her my phone#, she texted me a few times, I texted back. Nothing major. I saw her today, and she was rather aggressive. She made more sexual commentary and I kind of laughed it off. Anyway, after work, when I got home, I got a little bit horny and decided to send her a text. I was pretty ambiguous, stating that maybe we should hang out "so to speak" and that I am not just misreading her signals, I just chose to ignore them. She didn't get back to me right away, so I "took care of business," and my horniness went away. I suppose she just got my text message a few minutes ago and she just blew up my phone with like 8 texts and a missed call. All int he matter of about 10minutes. Stating I should tell her what is on my mind and that I just "need a push" and that we should "hang out." I suppose she is up to "play," but I don't really want that anymore. I am no longer horny and I don't desire her in that way anymore. I dunno if I should ignore her and then see her next week in person, or do what. I think I got her overly excited over nothing. What do I do? As a guy who would literally kill for that kind of attention from any woman, no matter how attractive, you should see how lucky you are and act accordingly. If the roles were reversed, and some hot woman used me for sex just because she was horny and didn't really like me, well I'd have no problem with that! It would actually be way better than straight up rejection. But I think MOST women don't think the same. But you never know. After you're done with her, she might go telling her friends how she hooked up with the hot guy at the office. But just the same, I'd probably let her know that you just weren't into her point blank. Edited January 15, 2013 by JuneJulySeptember
sid3 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 So she's attractive enough to jerk off to but not to attractive enough to sleep with.
CptObvious Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Hey ts, if you live anywhere around vancouver I'd be happy to take her off your hands. I'm guessing she's a solid 6.5 so I'm sure I can make it work.
Author Fondue Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 So she's attractive enough to jerk off to but not to attractive enough to sleep with. No, I jerked off to some girl on girl porn. She merely initiated the said horniness. As a followup: I ended up texting her late at night that I missed her phone calls and messages because I was watching Dr. Who (I was), and that now is too late to discuss anything and that I am doubtful that I am up for anything anyway. I think she just tried to call me on a blocked number, or something today. She texted me with question marks this morning.
Author Fondue Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 As a guy who would literally kill for that kind of attention from any woman, no matter how attractive, you should see how lucky you are and act accordingly. If the roles were reversed, and some hot woman used me for sex just because she was horny and didn't really like me, well I'd have no problem with that! It would actually be way better than straight up rejection. But I think MOST women don't think the same. But you never know. After you're done with her, she might go telling her friends how she hooked up with the hot guy at the office. But just the same, I'd probably let her know that you just weren't into her point blank. I dunno if I am truly sexually attracted to her, to be honest. Everyone has their preferences. I always went after the skinny girls, this one has "a little extra." Many men find this awesome, and I am happy for them, but not me. I don't know if I want to "try to ride that bike," so to speak. I think it was a temporary moment of weakness and I took it too far.
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