aussieguy78 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Hi all, First time post. Up to 18 months ago I had been married for 7 years. Divorced and living by myself. Wife told me the old 'I love you but not in love with you.' Anyway felt as though it was time to get back out there and on Sat night met a girl while out and having some drinks with mates. Big night, lots of kissing and etc. Got home way after the sun came up. Had a smile on my face ever since. Obviously I am excited and I think she is also going by her texts. Called her yesterday and date set for next Friday. I am 34 and she is 24. The age means nothing to me and she says she does'nt care either. Now being that it's been nearly 9 years since dating another woman, I ask you guys how do I approach this? As stated above I am excited but don't want to come off desperate. Does playing it cool work or does it turn women off? I forgot how you get this feeling after meeting someone and having an awesome night.
Leigh 87 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Hi there my fellow Aussie! First of all, it is great you have finally put yourself out there and been more open to dating and meeting new people! That's great:laugh: The main thing you have to realise is: everyone does dating differently... Furthermore, peoples country and culture and even the types of people they hang around with all infuence any rules or norms in dating that occur to amongst certain people. I am in Aus, so I can just tell you the best ways people I know go about dating here, in Aus. Although I think what I am about to suggest applies to almost everyone, regardless of their country and age! The main thing to remember is: most women want to know your interested! Call them first, wait for them to respond, than message back. It is all about making it obvious your interested without playing stupid games, or trying to be cool. I think it is safe to stick to back and forth messaging to begin with! you know - You send a message, then she does, and so on.... Then, if she takes days to respond, make a second message asking about her... You know, give people a couple of chances when they do not respond for a day or two, just to be sure it is disinterest, or just them being genuinely busy! I think there should be a good degree of communicationm where both parties regularly contact the other. Everyone is different, but I personally want a guy to at least have 2 minites to text "goodnight" to me, or to find the time at least once every day to say " hey how's hyour day going" Even the busiest people can find 2 minutes to text a girl they are really into, just to say hello!. Although some women prefer less contact, or do not require a daily "hey how's it going" text". If you got along really well with this girl and your really keen on meeting her again, just be yoursel for gods sake and tell her how you feel! But of course, in a way that is not over the top. Just a simple text asking if she wants to hang out again next weekend is fine, and then repling to all her texts so she knows your keen! Good luck!
Author aussieguy78 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Thanks for the advice. YEah she is interested as she replies to all my texts pretty much straight away and some have even stated that she was actually thinking about me at the time. Question though for you Leigh87, if the 87 is your birth year, would you think a 34 yr old guy is to old?
Leigh 87 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 wow then, it is time to start the dating process and see if it works out! If she's acting like that then yes, you just have to keep arranging to hang out, and see where it leads. Things are going as well as they can go. And no, 34 is not too old. In fact, I would prefer my partner to be older, because of this: older men can get hotter younger women. When we are both 40 would by partner feel tempted by thinner, signifcaltly more attractive 30 year olds? This works out much better for you, think about it! When your 40, you will have a much better looking partner if she is younger! Of course I do not feel my own partner would leave me for this reason, however it IS a perk having a younger women, in the long run.
weee111 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 I tend to lean towards less communication in the early stages. Check in and see how she's doing, make it obvious that you are interested, but don't text back and forth for 8 hours every day. Save the real conversations when you see her in person.
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