If youre ex rebounded fast after you and time pased pst sme stoires how thy failed

[health]

I am 4 years out since my break up. Was with her for over 5 years. Healing has been challneging but I feel I'm comming out of it. Last pains.

 

I have healed. I wish her the best. However recently I got triggered when a mutual friend told me she - my ex wants to punch me out if she ever sees me!

 

Really? That kinda brought things back but I'm determined to get over this still.

She is still with the guy she rebounded with.

 

In that time I did alot of growth - traveled, I'm back in College, quit drinking, new apartment, just so many great things. Her being angry shows she STILL didn't heal.

I'm not angry at her, but I kinda got hurt/scared when I heard that - not scared of her - just scared of me and my troubles in finding a new partner. It's been tough, I have dated but haven't really found anyone great.

 

Her on the other hand

- Is on welfare

- claims she's happier with him and is on Anti-deppresants - she was never on that with me

- she gained weight

- the guy she's with is an alcoholic and pothead

- they get kicked out of everywhere they move etc etc

- she is isolated and doesn't socialize with anyone but her guy

 

Years ago that would have made me happy seeing her do bad---but really sh'es doing very bad - and part of me is bothered by it.

 

But oh well - that's on her - sometimes I think she is happier, but in reality it sounds like her life is being destroyed.

 

I sometimes still feel pain and still struggle at times with my self esteem, but I'm committed to self growth.

 

Just curious if any one else has any other stories - on how instead of healing - people rebounded and their pain came out in uglier ways.

 

I feel like I have issues with women and I'm going to see my therapist tommorow.

 

When I got triggered I started thinking of her again. I will heal and let it all go this year.