LK30 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 (edited) I got quite friendly with a girl at work towards the end of last year and she was in a relationship so I kept my distance. I messaged her from time to time and she's a bit aloof but this made me attracted to her. We have much in common and I admit I developed some minor twinges of feelings for her. At the Xmas party we got a bit drunk and a friend was leading her on and resulted in a naughty kiss when I walked her back to hotel. I knew it was wrong but I fancied her, and the next day we both apologised. She blamed the drink which made me feel a bit worthless! I've seen her around in office since but don't talk to her as much as usual. She did text saying she hoped I didn't feel awkward about what happened. In some ways the kiss made me go another rung up the emotional ladder, and I really hoped she might have felt something too. She did compliment me a lot but that's all stopped. She's single now and I hoped she might give me some attention but she hasn't. In fact I've noticed her on a dating site, so clearly she didn't waste any time! I did hint at her coming over to mine one evening but she just replied with a random comment as if skirting over the issue completely. To me that's a sign I've got no hope. I thought being back on the dating so soon was a bit odd and perhaps she just wants male attention. I'm stupid getting feelings but I'm human and trying hard to forget what happened but obviously feeling a bit unwanted! I know there's a work night out coming up but I probably won't go as in a funny way I don't want to see her getting off with men in the nightclubs as expect she'll be enjoying her freedom. I don't know if she knows I like her so I'll just let it go. Perhaps she knows working in same office would be uncomfortable - or I'm just bloody ugly!!! I'm quite good at hiding my feelings so would never really show I liked her and thinking about it it's doomed anyway. Expect if it was the other guy in the office who's a charmer she'd be straight on him! I'm not sure what advice I want, but just feeling a bit upset and wanted to share it. Edited January 14, 2013 by LK30
StanMusial Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 It's not looking good from what you wrote here. I would leave it be personally, it's not worth pursuing since your chances of success at this point are 0.01% and you work together.
pcplod Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 Well, the advice is, whether you want it or not, and no matter how human you are, the odds were statistically against you from the start, so move on to the next potential conquest rather than look back at those that were never going to be. As an aside, I always like to remind myself, "Never sh*t on your own doorstep". The clearing up mission is just fraught with difficulties even to the point of maybe being impossible.
Author LK30 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 not totally sure why it was doomed frm start but never mind!
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