S12345 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Its been about 5 months now since the break up. He has already been in and out a couple of very short relationships since the breakup. I haven't been with anyone else. I cant seem to get over him. I still feel the same about him, and in all honesty would still like him back. I miss him a lot. We were together for 8 months and he broke up with me for reasons that could of been resolved- he obviously didn't want to though. I sometimes have an inkling he will come back, which doesn't help with my healing process! We still talk now and again. I do feel that we could of continued our relationship.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Its been about 5 months now since the break up. He has already been in and out a couple of very short relationships since the breakup. I haven't been with anyone else. I cant seem to get over him. I still feel the same about him, and in all honesty would still like him back. I miss him a lot. We were together for 8 months and he broke up with me for reasons that could of been resolved- he obviously didn't want to though. I sometimes have an inkling he will come back, which doesn't help with my healing process! We still talk now and again. I do feel that we could of continued our relationship. Maybe the reason why you can't get over him is because you still talk to him. It's hard to heal when your still in contact with him because you will always remember what you had Everytime you talk to him. I think you know your problem 1
na49 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 We still talk now and again. This. Stop doing this. This is the reason why you haven't been able to heal in 5 months. Tell him to leave you alone the next time he reaches out to you. He's not feeling guilty at all about dumping you now because you agreed to still be in contact and be "friends" with him.
stevie_23 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I think that it is not necessary to completely lose contact with an ex in order to get beyond the old feelings and residual hope and longing and move on. I remained friends with my first ex (and yes, ok, we were best friends first from age 14 and were together for 4 years from age 18-22, and are still best friends now we’re 34, but even so) and though it was hard, it would’ve been worse NOT seeing her or talking to her at all. I knew there was no hope of getting back together and THAT is the key I think. You can still talk to your ex and it won’t necessarily exaggerate or prolong your pain IF you know for SURE that there is NO chance of a relationship with that person again.
cavalier99 Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 I think that it is not necessary to completely lose contact with an ex in order to get beyond the old feelings and residual hope and longing and move on. I remained friends with my first ex (and yes, ok, we were best friends first from age 14 and were together for 4 years from age 18-22, and are still best friends now we’re 34, but even so) and though it was hard, it would’ve been worse NOT seeing her or talking to her at all. I knew there was no hope of getting back together and THAT is the key I think. You can still talk to your ex and it won’t necessarily exaggerate or prolong your pain IF you know for SURE that there is NO chance of a relationship with that person again. That's great that friendship worked for you before. Unfortunately it isn't this time. Go NC for 6 months or so then start up a friendship if you want. Time to recover. Good luck!
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