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So I'm doing everything people advice me on here but lately I've been so emotionally tired and demotivated, I haven't been truly happy in a loooong time and I have a lot of work lately, every day I wake up and have absolutely no energy, optimism or motivation to get up and go through the day again to find myself doing the same thing day in day out..

 

(I should note that I follow classes 33hours/week, workout 1,5hours 5 days/week, work 12 hours and get with friends the other free time left)

 

it just feels so pointless some times you know + I've been feeling so weak lately

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You seem to have a very busy, active life despite your feelings of a lack of motivation to do these activities. I assume you feel you’re just going through the motions on auto-pilot, and receiving no fulfillment or satisfaction or enjoyment from any of them?

 

This is common after a traumatic experience, a breakup, a rejection, a major life / emotional change. Sometimes counseling can help, or going on anti-depressants for a while to get you a bit more “excited” about life (for me this is working I think, but I’d never recommend it to anyone else of course).

 

What kinds of things do you enjoy doing that you’re not doing in your life right now? If you can think of some, maybe try to incorporate them in small ways into your daily life if possible. That’s one suggestion…

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You seem to have a very busy, active life despite your feelings of a lack of motivation to do these activities. I assume you feel you’re just going through the motions on auto-pilot, and receiving no fulfillment or satisfaction or enjoyment from any of them?

 

This is common after a traumatic experience, a breakup, a rejection, a major life / emotional change. Sometimes counseling can help, or going on anti-depressants for a while to get you a bit more “excited” about life (for me this is working I think, but I’d never recommend it to anyone else of course).

 

What kinds of things do you enjoy doing that you’re not doing in your life right now? If you can think of some, maybe try to incorporate them in small ways into your daily life if possible. That’s one suggestion…

 

Aside from drugs (haven't touched any in a while) I can't think of anything that I would enjoy to be honest, and yes you're absolutely right about the no fulfillment and auto-pilot

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Yeah…what did you USED to enjoy doing? Can you remember or recall those feelings?

 

Maybe you’ve just changed and you used to find the things you do now as your routine boring and mundane now, but perhaps some other things might change that? I don’t know. I just think time heals things and eventually you will start to feel that spark of interest again.

 

Are you creative at all? Artistic? It can be quite cathartic to express yourself through art, drawing, painting, sculpting, songwriting, singing, playing an instrument, acting, cooking even…

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So I'm doing everything people advice me on here but lately I've been so emotionally tired and demotivated, I haven't been truly happy in a loooong time and I have a lot of work lately, every day I wake up and have absolutely no energy, optimism or motivation to get up and go through the day again to find myself doing the same thing day in day out..

 

(I should note that I follow classes 33hours/week, workout 1,5hours 5 days/week, work 12 hours and get with friends the other free time left)

 

it just feels so pointless some times you know + I've been feeling so weak lately

 

It just takes time...

 

I know you know that - "Father Time" is the only anti-dote. I was there with you back in October. I felt awful....anxiety, depression, and so on. Nothing helps. Nothing makes a difference. But, if you eat well (Please try) and you get out and exert yourself...

 

Keep busy....

 

 

and rediscover old friends and hobbies - you WILL see a difference. Even if you need to "Hunt" other available girls - just the chase can be rewarding...

Don't look for love. Just wait until the time feels right - then make your move.

 

The one thing for sure - is stay away from your ex. She is gone as she does not want or love you anymore - and that's her loss. Move up - and on.....be done with her.

 

This is about you now. Good luck!

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Yeah…what did you USED to enjoy doing? Can you remember or recall those feelings?

 

Maybe you’ve just changed and you used to find the things you do now as your routine boring and mundane now, but perhaps some other things might change that? I don’t know. I just think time heals things and eventually you will start to feel that spark of interest again.

 

Are you creative at all? Artistic? It can be quite cathartic to express yourself through art, drawing, painting, sculpting, songwriting, singing, playing an instrument, acting, cooking even…

 

Hmmm not really, I used to play guitar, I really hope it gets better with time, thanks for the replies

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