ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 So anyways i'm 3 mos post BU and was doing very well! Today I was running a credit report to buy my house and they were verifying my previous address. One popped up that I did not recognize. All of a sudden I realized that the address was probably the place my ex moved into. DAMN IT! I did not want to know that information. Once I realized that information I started to get anxieties. I did not want to know where she lived or ANYTHING about her. I was freaking doing so well too. WHY?????? Why must this be so hard when I was doing so well with NC and not knowing about her. What the hell!!!!
na49 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 That sucks. The less we know about them the better we feel. Just think, it could have been worse. You could have seen her with a new guy or something else. You'll be fine.
cavalier99 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 This is FANTASTIC information to have if you want to start doing drive byes or stalking! ...kidding of course
Author ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 This freaken sucks! See its always better that you dont know anything about them. I had thought I was doing fine until this! This is why NC is SO important!!! UGH!!! I cant believe this is happening to me. I did everything right too.
cavalier99 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 This really isn't a big deal. I know where my ex lives and works. I just don't go there. Its not like you broke NC or anything like that. So you know an address. Shouldn't change anything.
Author ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 This really isn't a big deal. I know where my ex lives and works. I just don't go there. Its not like you broke NC or anything like that. So you know an address. Shouldn't change anything. I know it shouldn't change anything but it still affecting me and thats why i'm so pissed. I should be over this by now or at least thought I have moved past these stupid anxieties. Now I have freaken set myself back. Hopefully this setback will only last a day. Ironically, I was about to start reaching out to mutual friends because I thought I have moved past this point in my life. Apparently not! I guess reaching out to our mutual friends is a definite no no then. Its amazing how far you think you have progressed and something so trivial sets your emotions off.
cavalier99 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I know it shouldn't change anything but it still affecting me and thats why i'm so pissed. I should be over this by now or at least thought I have moved past these stupid anxieties. Now I have freaken set myself back. Hopefully this setback will only last a day. Ironically, I was about to start reaching out to mutual friends because I thought I have moved past this point in my life. Apparently not! I guess reaching out to our mutual friends is a definite no no then. Its amazing how far you think you have progressed and something so trivial sets your emotions off. Yeah it is tough. Don't reach out to mutual friend. I had fantasy about doing this but realized it was a bad idea.
SharkTooth Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 That totally sucks but you said it yourself, you avoided a possible situation with old friends that you weren't really ready for. You were given an eye opener to say, wait a little longer for the friend contact, you need it. Your doing great! Just a little bump
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