walfootrot2 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Ok so this is my situation. I met a woman who works in a local gas station. She is quite sweet and fun to be around. Anyway she got home only to find her house had been burgled. Last night she texted me saying " I just wanted to say hi, and my home has been broken into." We texted for a bit, and she said her phone was about to die. Okay no problem so far. We have only been on one date and supposedly tomorrow we were to meet again. However, I texted her today and no response. My question is this, would I be out of line going to the gas station where she works later on tonight and asking her if we are still going on a date tomorrow? I ask this, as I am wondering if her phone may still be dead?
ChatroomHero Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I would say to go up there to ask her how she is doing and if everything is ok with the burglary situation. See where it goes and if she acts like it was no big deal ask her if she still wants to hang out. If she seems upset, I wouldn't even ask about the date. 1
Author walfootrot2 Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 I would say to go up there to ask her how she is doing and if everything is ok with the burglary situation. See where it goes and if she acts like it was no big deal ask her if she still wants to hang out. If she seems upset, I wouldn't even ask about the date. Thanks, I think I am just paranoid about coming across as a obsessive. I live out of town, but am going into town tonight anyway. So I may indeed stop by where she works.
veggirl Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Sorry but it is ALWAYS inappropriate to show up unannounced and unexpected at somebody's place of work when you barely know that person. Don't do it. You can call her or send another text, but if she didn't respond I'm not sure why you'd think a "surprise" visit to her work would make her want to go out with you. I think she was blowing you off. A 2nd text would be appropriate, showing up at her work would NOT be. 3
StanMusial Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Ask her if you can come over, and then clean out whatever is left. Lol, jk. I asked a girl for her number once and she refused me. Then as I walked away she told me where she worked and that I should drop by. I never did because I thought it was weird. 1
TheZebra Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I think he should show up at the gas station with flowers and say "don't let these get stolen" than not even ask if the date is still on. This is actually super sweet. If a guy did that for me, I'd swoon 1
carhill Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Since you've been on one date, call her to confirm your meetup. These days, people will sooner cut their arm off than walk around with a dead phone. Your interaction with her is personal, not business. However, should you need gas..... 1
Disillusioned Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 I learned the hard way that living next to a housing project makes my house a smorgasbord for burglars. About half of my tools are now someone else's. 1
veggirl Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 This is actually super sweet. If a guy did that for me, I'd swoon really, if you ignored a guys texts and he showed up with flowers at your work you would swoon? 1
Author walfootrot2 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Hi all and thanks for the responses. What I ended up doing was NOT going to her place of work. A couple of women friends of mine said that was a no, no after only going on one date. So I sent her a second txt. One of my friends said if she received a txt just saying "hey" she would have deleted it and not responded. The second txt said the following, or close to it: "Hi I know you are going through a difficult time at the moment. I would love to see you if possible. If you are still interested in meeting tomorrow perhaps I could help cheer you up. My treat." A couple of hours later she responded, and yes she is interested in meeting. So tomorrow date 2 and we shall see how it goes.
TheZebra Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 really, if you ignored a guys texts and he showed up with flowers at your work you would swoon? Since when is not replying to 1 text from a guy supposed to mean ignoring? Heck, when my home got burglarized a couple of years ago I wasn't answering many texts either... even from my poor boyfriend at the time. 1
Author walfootrot2 Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 Since when is not replying to 1 text from a guy supposed to mean ignoring? Heck, when my home got burglarized a couple of years ago I wasn't answering many texts either... even from my poor boyfriend at the time. Thanks for this. I was reminded she was probably having a pretty rough day, and that a guy she had had a single date with was probably not high on her list of priorities.
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