irc333 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Well, I got an email back from a woman, on OK Cupid, though we had a lot in common, she said I lived too far...only an hour away....apparently she said she does a lot of driving for work. I responded in kind, "I drive there all the time to date and socialize with my friends since my social life is in that city anyhow, so it's no big deal." I'm currently concerned about a woman I started seeing, even though she said she does indeed like me, she thinks I live far as well (but didnt' meet her online, just at a friend's gathering) I don't get it....my parents, when they met....they were at beach, but they lived like 2 hours in the opposite direction from that beach.....so he had a 4 hr ride to see her. Are people too lazy or something? lol
will1988 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Some people are lazy, others are not. My GF and I met when I was going to college in her home town (about 8 hours from where I was from). We dated for a little over a year, and I practically lived with her for that year. It came time for me to move home. We did the LDR thing for two years, and once every 3 months I'd drive down and spend 4 or 5 days with her (we couldn't see each other more often because I worked weekdays, and went to school at night, she worked on weekends some times... so we had to save up leave, and or work around holidays). We made the LDR last, and in May she moved to my city, and we are going strong. So it can work, people just need to put a little effort into it.
Author irc333 Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 Some people are lazy, others are not. My GF and I met when I was going to college in her home town (about 8 hours from where I was from). We dated for a little over a year, and I practically lived with her for that year. It came time for me to move home. We did the LDR thing for two years, and once every 3 months I'd drive down and spend 4 or 5 days with her (we couldn't see each other more often because I worked weekdays, and went to school at night, she worked on weekends some times... so we had to save up leave, and or work around holidays). We made the LDR last, and in May she moved to my city, and we are going strong. So it can work, people just need to put a little effort into it. Funny where I live...there's a small, 2 year college, and I couldn't date much THERE because allt he womn were pretty much dating the guys they've carried over from the local Highschools....yeah, there's serious monogamy going on where I live, people latch on to a mate VERY early in life. AFter that...some of their boyfriends that finished at the college first, and leave 8 hrs away to live ata University, the woman would stay behind. There wast his one hostess at a chili's I had thing for, that was in a LDR with a guy who was 8 hrs away at a college...I was trying to talk her out of the relationship for THAT reason, but there was no budging her. LOL
will1988 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Funny where I live...there's a small, 2 year college, and I couldn't date much THERE because allt he womn were pretty much dating the guys they've carried over from the local Highschools....yeah, there's serious monogamy going on where I live, people latch on to a mate VERY early in life. AFter that...some of their boyfriends that finished at the college first, and leave 8 hrs away to live ata University, the woman would stay behind. There wast his one hostess at a chili's I had thing for, that was in a LDR with a guy who was 8 hrs away at a college...I was trying to talk her out of the relationship for THAT reason, but there was no budging her. LOL That was my problem to at my 4 year college... all the local southern girls had BFs. lol. I dated a few though, but it never worked out. I still find the women in that part of the state/country more attractive (generally) than the women here in the DC area/ my home town. lol. Hence why I'm still with my gf, well amongst other reasons. lol Yeah, my GF actually had a similar story. She was/is a hair stylest (how I met her) and guys would flirt with her all the time. She had this one guy who was infatuated with her and he would come in every week to get a hair cut just to talk to her. He would always try to convince her to leave me. It didn't work out the way he planned. lol. I mean I can understand his actions, and yours, don't get me wrong. Some people can do an LDR and others cannot. Although, by the 2 year mark I was at the end of my rope with the LDR, it was either break up time, or move in together time. thankfully, she ended up moving up here and we got our own place. lol Good luck to you!
Author irc333 Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 Will...but I always wonder....you're off at a BRAND new University, you're excited...it's almost like starting a new life....you're making new friends, and of course, there's an AMPLE supply of young ladies, even perhaps tempting you. Now don't get me wrong, not saying you'd cheat, but what kept you from doing the "fade away" from your long distance relationship if you ever got "caught up" in the new , exciting University life? I had been to such a University, and there was this one woman, had a boyfriend doing Co-OP at another University (same state) 8 hours away. When he was out socializing, he admitted to her to hanging out with women , on a group basis...and her the same...they never cheated...but they were honest with each other bout it Eventuantally, it became an "out of site, out of mind" situation...they both got caught up in their current locations social lives...they split up....and some of her male classmates were hoping on that. lol That was my problem to at my 4 year college... all the local southern girls had BFs. lol. I dated a few though, but it never worked out. I still find the women in that part of the state/country more attractive (generally) than the women here in the DC area/ my home town. lol. Hence why I'm still with my gf, well amongst other reasons. lol Yeah, my GF actually had a similar story. She was/is a hair stylest (how I met her) and guys would flirt with her all the time. She had this one guy who was infatuated with her and he would come in every week to get a hair cut just to talk to her. He would always try to convince her to leave me. It didn't work out the way he planned. lol. I mean I can understand his actions, and yours, don't get me wrong. Some people can do an LDR and others cannot. Although, by the 2 year mark I was at the end of my rope with the LDR, it was either break up time, or move in together time. thankfully, she ended up moving up here and we got our own place. lol Good luck to you!
will1988 Posted January 14, 2013 Posted January 14, 2013 Well the reason I stayed with her was because I loved/love her. She did not go to college (until she moved up here) and just worked. The college I went to was a satilite campus of a bigger state university. Most of the people that went to that campus were locals. However, I had a prior relationship that was horrible and full of drama and was a major reason in my failing out. I went back and was on academic probation the semester I met my current GF. I did not mee the grade requirements. Not because I was stupid, but because I was lazy. I lived with my GF for a year after I failed out that second time. I was too embarassed to move home, and I thought I could live off of love and be dirt poor. Eventually I moved home. I went to community college and got a decent job, from a connection. I turned my grades around, and did well. The reason I was not overly tempted at least at first, was for two reasons. Reason one I still was madly inlove with my GF. Reason two, my community college was in the inner city. Most of the students were, how should I put this PC... more urban than what I was interested in. lol. Also, I took mostly night classes since I worked during the day, and most of my classmates were older than me. However, as I've said in my threads I posted... I got into a decent program through the state university I once attended... however, this program was from the much more known and highly rated main campus, and not the smaller campus I went to for almost 4 years. It is a very small program that is for working adults, and you physically go to the CC but you are taught by profs from the University and you get your BA from said university. I did have a crush on a girl... read my threads for info about that. However, that has run its course and my GF and I have improved things. I guess I was able to stay loyal because I am a very loyal person and because my GF and I were able to rekindle things.
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